I don’t mind being at the receiving end, complements are flattering until they turn into an excuse for sexual assault . If a certain stranger suddenly has the urge to let me in on his admiration of my beauty, I politely say thank you and hurry away unless the certain stranger in question is a total stud then things take different shape. But when the compliment becomes an assault it goes something like this. Couple of months ago, I was at a store shopping when I heard the unmistakable Faarax voice, “WOW who is that angel� I knew I shouldn’t have turned around but I did . The middle-aged guy with the accent was staring at me, eyes popping out and mouth wide open. What happened next was so unexpected and unheard of, it makes me shiver . The stranger: stares nerviously and says: gabaryahey, your eyes, Oh and your lips. Oh that body, gorgeous! You know what I want to do you? Waad I himi kicisey. With the biggest acent, “ I want to roll on the mud with you. Oh..Umm dat body…if you were my wife waan ku huwan lahaa. U look soo good. Um.. ah,, your sooooo sexy. Mac mac! Me: with my eyes bulging out and my mouth so dry you think I've been drinking salted water, excuse me? Stranger: what, why I cant tell you how hott and sexy you are? Me: war isku xishoo, excuse me? Stranger: your sooo hot, I want to buy you a gift, ummm… God.. Oh girl you should be a model. Me: Fcuk off you jerk The stranger : waa kaa saa. You cant complement on a somal girl. I walked away from the store in tears. I swear I've never felt so violated. And when I came outside he was informing others of how rude I was :mad: ----------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

I personally find Pilates very inspiring. It tones each and every muscle in your body, gives you lean-sexy body, and most of all challanges your core muscles and posture. You can sign up for outside classes or even better buy the CDs and workout at home. And if you want to sweat it out, download some music and practice * dropping dat azz 2da floor* infront of your mirror . Have you seen the new SEAN PAUL vedio: Temperature? Girl, It makes you shake and break the goods ----------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

Hon, No offense but read this. ok first of it aint a sinporain slang queens kid u neeed too chill and somke some lucy grimm me time dnt need too be all up in my face . With all due respect, what r u getting at? Even if it aint sinporian, it is a slang aint it? and Slang language aint exactly universal so when you is posting a topic, you need to break it down into bits. And for the record, I aint all up in yo ciber face . ----------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

Leave the "Simporian" alone,are you by any chance from "Simporia"? Nah, sorry to break your heart. There wont be any bonding happening over sinporian slang . That was my way of letting the half&half sis know, ofcourse in a *ahem* polite way, I dont understand yo language so break it down . ------------------------------------------------ Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

Oh.. I feel soo slow :mad: . Dont be too alarmed, I'm under the influence of 12hour-work-day .

MAAAN,I always wanted to ask the nomads if they have the biography of Sayid Abdulle Hassan. I heard about his Poetic talents too many times. And although am asumming I wouldnt probaby understand most of the language, I'm on a mission to learn and strengthen my somali reading skills so Iwill fight to the end . So if ya can point me to some direction to obtain his biography, I would appriciate it so much. Thanks. ----------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

salaam wats up yalll im jus wnt too drop my salaam im finally in i dnt knw anythin bout somalia and stuff and im half sinporain and somalia grow up in the states and was born here i cnt read or speck somalia soo pls tranlate for me plssssss cuz tht sucks not understands u knw how the deal is im wondering u guys trash talk like the somalia down ???????? and have a big mouth dnt be mad is kinda true let not lie aint good for your health jus knw one thing im always jokin aint never serioz and crap and on more thing im all big u hear me baggy jeans big shirts and big heart soo dnot think im were tigth pants and all tight stuff like the somalaiz up in my side but we live far from them bab fluez u knw wat i mean but lots somaliaz r kool no lie in tht im from oc in the asainz town peace from cali land HUH! :confused: :confused: Anyways wlc. And if this is sinporian slang, plz drop it . ------------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

I wouldnt call it my favorite, but this definetly makes feel unbreakable! Mariah: When you get caught in the rain With nowhere to run When you’re distraught And in pain without anyone When you keep crying out to be SAVED but nobody comes And you feel so far away That you just can’t find your way home You can get there alone, it’s ok Once you say I can make it through the rain I can stand up once again On my own and I know That I’m strong enough to mend And every time I feel afraid I hold tighter to my faith And I live one more day And I make it through the rain And if you keep falling down Don’t you dare give in You will arise safe and sound So keep pressing on steadfastly And you’ll find what you need to prevail Once you say I can make it through the rain I can stand up once again On my own and I know That I’m strong enough to mend And every time I feel afraid I hold tighter to my faith And I live one more day And I make it through the rain And when the wind blows And shadows grow close Don’t be afraid There’s nothing you can’t face And should they tell you You’ll never pull through Don’t hesitate Stand tall and say I can make it through the rain I can stand up once again On my own and I know That I’m strong enough to mend And every time I feel afraid I hold tighter to my faith And I live one more day And I make it through the rain I can make it through the rain Can stand up once again And I'll live one more day, and I I can make it through the rain Oh yes you can You’re gonna make it through the rain -------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best falls sometimes

Rock on sis! Poetry is good for the soul so keep nourishing ya soul and ours ----------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best falls sometimes

which one was the secondary, Dharjaale? Did the elementary kids wear different color than the Middle schoolers? I always wanted to ask somebody these questions. Seems like I have no recollection of these things . I wasnt deprived of anything. As a matter fact, I used to get whipped for refusing to drink shah iyo caano, and oodkacand timir isku jira I have acquired a serious distaste for milk and hence would not be cought dead drinking milk even when they preached at school that its good for my bones . I heard that married somali guys love oodkac and subag :eek: even now, maxaa ka jira? ----------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

Those who can only see everything through islamic values and standards are not diffrent from those who can see it from any other religion´s prespective. . Sheekadu ma religion bay maraysaa? And what would such religion be? What religion supports "wife swapping"? You cant pass any opportunity to insult Islam, can you? Everybody should be happy when his/her prespective is tolerated /respected. again what religion is being disrespected here? Cajiib! Personally , i woulden´t want to live in a patriarchtical society run by few men whom are thought to be closer to God. . Then you beef is with God dude, take it upon him if you can. Clearly you dispise having a clear-mind. And before you go advocating for "swinging" and "orgy" practices disguising it in the name of "freedom", I would suggest that you read the beggining of the thread! while each and every religious prespective wants to lead the masses into it´s dark and narrow path. BE CAREFULL NOW. ---------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

Ka bax! waa la iska alifanaa yah! A foreigner asks the question another foreigner responds and all of a sudden all unsolved mysteries are solved :confused: . all ya foreigners or out-of-state folks: Minnesota is a beautifull place 2be. It snows *as hell* but the same is true for all the upnorth states. Somalis like Minnesota because people out here are cool, jobs pay good, housing is affordable, amazing and affordable education and basically xaaraan ayaan ku haysanaa the state. Mayors, governers, and city officials come to our dinner parties and Eid prayers, ya dig it? I'm just sick&tired of people coming to MN in the middle of winter then complaing about the dullness of the city. if you want to have fun in MN in the witner time, Be little open-minded, go hunting or something . Spring and summer time are the best season to be in Mn and when you come plz dont go the most getto place in the entire state(eg. Somali malls, especially "24")and conclude that we are all on welfare :rolleyes: . broaden your horizons a little. Visit the Duluth resorts,the English colony classyy restaurantS in St. Paul and rent a boat and go cruizing or something: I becha ya like it( whith my best Minnesota accent ) . Dont just encirle the few somali malls and unsanatary restaurants and claim you have seeN minnesota, okay :mad: ---------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

looooool, Walahi ya make me lough? call me "narrow minded" but as a person of faith(It is not about Islam) I just can't understand why we are still arguing about "wife swapping"? It is foolxumo fooqul foolxumo, no other explanation. Some people just love to hear themselves talk :mad: . Maybe I missed something but there was no compaign for banning this practice,no? wixiina waa cultural relativism and the theory is flawed in soo many ways, my friends. SB. Are they harming anyone? No. Really? Are you saying "gay bathouses" and "swinger's clubs" have no social and health impact? Westerners have values and morals because of their openness.Closed societies have no values or morals. Wow! what values and morals? I thought you were objective debater but I guess they convinced you with their fancy media and "freedom" crap! I wont make it easy for you by just urguing that I have better values. Lets be objective and let me say in far waaweyn: Every society has their own set of values and morals. Its just plain stup!d to beleive that there are one set of morals that all humans should be observing.[/b. You are free to defend the "swingers" "freedom" but plz dont dismiss other cultures' values. The what about you guys? argument is so yesterday :rolleyes: . --------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

Do men fall in love? Ofcourse! why else do they stalk me ? ------------------------------------------------ Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

LOOOOOOOOOOL here comes the seef la boodnimo. Nothing will ever cure us of this ailment, will it? I would suggest you read this before you decide I should be hunged . This is when it hit me. I'm ashamed of my people. I was hot and bother over that. I reflected on that and I realized that I wasnt self -immunie to self-hatred. If I saw a woman working out in a bakini, I wouldnt think anything of it so why the jalbaab? I even wrote in bold so nobody would miss it but I guess I was wrong. Walaalo I wasnt judging them, it was just plain weird and for your info. I dont need to wear jalbaab to the gym to cover up :rolleyes: . My *sweatpants* just asked you to stop breathing down on my neck. And Stoic[/b, there is a difference between fashion choice and plain recklessness :rolleyes: . am curious, wut were u and homegirl wearing? The difference, of course, is that defiance in them, which I greatly admire, and which shakes the norm, and extracts that wicked laughter from those weak souls . Carefull with your wording, hadaba ka choog, I warned you :mad: . What defiance, what norm are you addressing? Walaalo get reall! Dont tell me you want to introduce Jalbaab as normal gym outfits. As far as my xishood goes. read this carefull: It doesnt concern you ----------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

Nah. I was soo embarassed I didnt even look at their way. . I bet they werent exactly thrilled by me either . Me wearing sweatpants and all . ----------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

Self-Hatred: Are You Immune? I used to think I was. I was always proud of my religion so it made up for all the horrible aspects of my culture(Qabiil, corruption, prejudice, sexist, arrogance.) Religion always came to my rescue and I didnt have to agree with any foolxumo. All I had to say was that this is dhaqan at its worst not diin, and the discussion was over . I never felt the need to conform to any norm other than my own, so in that case I was lucky. And wham! this incident took place at my gym Couple of weeks ago, I was at the gym working myself to death when I saw two somali ladies who couldnt be more covered. At first, I saw them at the locker room when I was changing and I thought maybe they just came in and they would change to a comfortable workout outfit. So I went upstairs and I started running. about 5minutes later,I saw couple of runners infront of me stop and shake their heads. Then I came arround to the trademill area and there it was. The two ladies whom I saw downstairs fully jalbaaban(I mean the big jalbaab, the big goono, the xxl shirt right to their knees with running shoes ). They were trying to use the stair-climber and all the personal trainers had this concerned and bewildered look. Couple of people told them: be carefull with that big dressThere is never a busier time at that gym than 7.00pm, people form a line for the equipment and these two women were just minding their own bussiness. loughing, running, lifting weights even when the manager warned them they might injure themselves. And God their dressess were atleast 5different colors. I had qamar on to cover my head and I felt soooo . I felt like people were staring at me too. This is when it hit me. I'm ashamed of my people. I was hot and bother over that. I reflected on that and I realized that I wasnt self -immunie to self-hatred. If I saw a woman working out in a bakini, I wouldnt think anything of it so why the jalbaab? ------------------------------------------------ Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

looool Castro, are you planning a little massacre of yours? Are you saying lets forget about the the west instead lets tackle the muslim world. Declare war on their leading men, and entrust the country to the shacab? Dont you think that is umm..uh..what we call self-mutilation? Kashafa walaal come down!(wuza)As Muslims we need to practice diplomacy . We sure can't bomb everyone who wrong us? Things are not always as they seem. You might be disgusted with the shape we are in but surely we are cooking something delicious . watch Paradise now palestine if you are eager to see a bloodshed. Bravery rhymes with palestine.Remember the Prophets(ppuh) victory in Hudebia? Diplomacy people Diplomacy, wuts da matter with ya? ------------------------------------------------ Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

Ina Abti, I opologize for any insult or injury you suffered from our little discussion. It wasnt my attention to be obscene and I truely opologize if you felt disrespected. with that said, lets get back to the topic at hand. It seems that you subscribe to the theory of people having no control over their lives - that they are acted upon by others like some passive beast of burden. No I dont. Not once did I concluded that Black people lack any control over their lives, they do but the truth is their lifesytle is conditioned And yes they should work on their promblems and better themselves and my urgument is: They are working as hard as they can to survive and succeed but it is all a working progress. you cant just miraclously expect them to rise&shine The "white" community has its tendecy of minimizing any progress we have made by showing us over and over the black criminal, the drug addict, the homeless, and every godforsaken low life This is a poor argument - it doesn't explain anything but it makes the one stating this argument look smug and simplistic. Ok, I'll it break it down for you. Lets go back to the hardworking Indian who works two jobs an goes to school at night and the black American person who robbs the gas station: Here goes the difference: Nature&Nurture go side by side (in my opinion). Let’s look at some of the obstacles the immigrant Indian might run into: discrimination, prejudice, culture shock, and language struggle. But this new comer doesn’t have any previous history with the police. Now: his chances of succeeding are great because while he might have experienced some unpleasant and unfortunate situations, the society he grew have totally different outlook about life. He might even have parents supporting him and encouraging him to succeed. Bottom line: whatever fate he encounters he can endure it because this is not his country, his culture and his future. He is a foreigner and he knows that. He has a sense of identity. Black-American person : here is his fate: He probably from broken home, single mother, foster home, big grandma (why is home broken? If your wondering that, review the harshness of slavery on marriages. For ex. As soon as the woman got pregnant, the “husbandâ€, who wasn’t even recognized to be married to the mother, was sold off to destroy family unity. You might say that was over a century ago but similar methods are used to break up the family and make the mother the sole undertaker. Welfare: does it ring a bell?), He tragically learned his fate in this country by the time he was in 2nd grade, when Emily told him he cant visit her home because her mother doesn’t associate with nigars, grew up at the corner with the only people he could identify with whether they were drugs or not, racially profiled, stereotyped against constantly, seen many faces like him on T.V(mainly criminals who are by no means positively influential to him) learned at school that to be good enough he had to be the best at some sort of sport because that was his only chance of becoming somebody, and when he wasn’t that good, he viewed himself as worthless . Fate is coming to get him. And well he might work his hardest everything in his society tells him that he is trying to be someonelse. And finally his fate arrives: his first arrest for mistaken identity. Now even with all these possible probmles black people achieve extraordinary goals and accomplish alot in life. And it is pathetic to expect them to be at the same level as the people who were privileged for centuries. I'm absoletly by no means condoning pity parties but do you see the dillema? ----------------------------------------------- Get UP!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

cajaaib! I think that love in terms of romance and outside marriage relationships is overated, walahida! Ofcourse it makes you sad because you are dealing with someonelse's shidh on top of your shidh. That is whole a lot of shidh to deal with I remember my first love(if there is ever any obssesive compulsivness in me, It is all his foult :mad: . After it was all over, I was paranoid as hell, confused too :confused: --------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

It is one thing to be opend minded and not judge people merely by their few flaws and it is another to idolize the west. Ina abti, if we just need some sort of guidence we will go back to our roots-the Islamic sharia. Those laws you listed might be in the books, but they are by no means in practice :rolleyes: . Subxanallah! and just why are huffing-buffing at the bare mention of such practices. Do you then think, he fabricated such report or would it make you feel better to trace it back to the intellegent westerns. sure they'll show you some hidden honorable reasons for tolerating such foolxumo Ina Abti, covering the shidh will only worsen the smell ---------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

From your comparison,you would(Hopefully) agree with me that it has a lot(Or to some extent) to do with the PAST opressive,bigoted and racist history of the USA government and dixie state governments? Bro exactly my point and like I said it would be very diffucult to understand for someone who doesnt comprehend the depth of such affect. Why did Oprah Winfrey who came from a broken home, was sexually abused, came from a poor place, rise to where she was at? Why does that happen? Because she had the will to try and succeed and open her horizons. Point, are you for real? is your thinking that simple? you said I have a victim mentality,then I think you would agree that you have little contact with the reality of Black america. I dont have victim mentality, you have colonizer metality: Blame the victim for their their misery cuz surely if they were smart enough they would be like you wouldnt they? Ina Abti the truth is, economically and education wise, the likes of Opra are not role models. Yes, I'm so damn proud of her acheivements and acknowledge her as a pillar of the black community but it would be a disaster to measure success of the black community by how much money you have in your account, wouldnt it? This is the image the "whites" would like you to have and this is precisely why black people are failing to attain any goals. Have you ever wondered why blacks crowd the so-called "entertainment bussiness"? do you know the #1dream of black kids today, Yes it is to entertain and make tons of money. where does that leave us, a community just recovering from major dark period? Just who do you think will stay on top and maintain the supreme power of making the choices for the rest of the country, if your quick you guessed it right, yes the "whites". Whose children advance to Lawyers, doctors, senators, educators, governers and even presidents? Ina abti, to come back to your urgument of the difference between lazy blacks and hard work indians or somalians for that matter( And I warned you not to go there because I knew you would :rolleyes: ) is you will never understand what it is like to be the descedents of black slaves. The indian or the somalian might have experienced some harsh circumstances, might be forced to exile, and mightnot know the English language or even the laws But for your urgument's sake, lets look at your reasoning. for sure their experiences have nothing on what blacks went through and are still going through. You are speaking like you beleive racism and prejudice is over. and blacks only have to worry about success and grabbing the riches now. and for this urgument only, I reject all your claims because obviously you have little knowledge about the circumstances of today's America. ---------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

excuse me walaalo. are u for reall? what is the role of saxaabah and the prophet(ppuh) in 1950's christian-black America civil rights movement? Ina abti you just want to urgue but I got news for you, dont get me involved plz. and plz dont dragg our religion into this misconception of yours.Try to understand the dilema before you reply, ok.

but the fact is that so many(many, not all) black Americans have squandered the opportunities that their forefathers worked so hard for them to have. And worse, their entire social/family structure has broken down as never in their history exacerbating their problems Walaalo that is the point I'm trying to refute if you hear the drums well. And I didnt say All somalis are racist. Rather I said it makes me sad when our people do that(and it is a given fact that majority of Somalis dont consider themselves African or from the black race hence dont concern themselves with such issues unless it concerns them particulary). And walaalo what rights or opportunities are we discussing here? It is all sugar-coated. If you dropp the judgement-attitude and truely look at the situation they are in, you will see it is designed to exhoust them. How can you succeed in a society whose consitution is designed to keep you at a poverty level? Truely they are conditioned to fail tragically. And dont even put yourself in their shoes(that is a mistake we make)because you can never comprehend their losses. You might be comparing yourselves against them telling yourself that you are in a worse position than them.. eg. being immigrant, minority, and Muslim. And this is where the majority of us miss the whole picture hence encouraging their prejudice. You can only compare yourself to them if you were enslaved(and not only phsically), seen your father/brother/husband/grandfather or mother dragged to jail, forced to do demeaning jobs, publically humilitated, and forced to take rations from the same people who tought you you are worthless... the list goes on. The main point is: Black people are doing the best they can to move forward but unfortunetly the society they live have the habit of shamefully magnifying their probmlems. 45% of the homicides committed takes place in the suburban by a white person, why is it you only see the black poor kid who got busted for shoplifting on the News? Com ooooooooon pay attention! :mad: --------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

Ina-abti. Global warming and Envioremental exhoustion are scary tactics employed by the west! Now that they cant dare to dream to exploit or enslave other races and rob their resources, they've issued *Warning* signs to stop the so-called "Devoloping" countries to devolop and expand economically. I have read this article(in my Ethics class) and it truelly blew my mind. The article is based on a research conducted by Kenyan scients and it basically analyzes the so-called "exponential human growth" and the idea that we will soon run out of land. Total bulshidh! The "devoloped" countries currently use two-thirds of the world resources. And they dare say the "third world" countries are polluting the otmosphere and exhousting natural resources by producing more people so they need to practice family planning. Lets face it poverty exists only because the robbed victim doesnt have the power to voice thier opinion because they feel so indebted to the robber. . We wouldnt exhoust natural resources if we shared out bounties equally . So the greedy west needs to stop the bullying and give back the coffe-beans lands to their rightfull owners so they can grow a food to eat :mad: --------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes