Excuse Six: If I wear the hijaab then nobody will marry me, so I'm going to leave it off until then. Now this pisses me off! for real! In the history of Hijabed woman v.s Unhijabed woman, I have never heard Unhijabed girl state such reason for not wearing Hijab. Only bitter unconvincing pretentious Hijabed one would conclude that the reason these morally-loose wild women dont wear Hijab could only be their unchecked desire for men :rolleyes: . I'm a moslimah and I wear Hijab but neccesserily the kind that is being discussed here. It's about time that we dropped the judgement attitude and adapted more Islamic one which is showing compassion, understanding and love for everyone who ashahata. Just the other day, this Islaan came to me looking for someone to interepet for her and in the midst of asking for a fever made this irresponsible remark: " Maandhay that qamar your wearing attracts attention to your face. wear dimmer color,like black. besides it's not considered a true Hijab. is astur and then you'll find a man." Exactly how is that gonna help me wear what she considers the "true" Hijab? Women like her almost inspire me to pierce my belly button and wear the new J.Lo low-cut shorts for my late afternoon walks. If only my Mom didnt teach better than that.

Pro-sharia people argue that the problem lies within the country's culture and customs. I disagree completely, not all countries have bad traditions but everywhere there is Sharia Law, there are abuses and discriminations from Nigeria to Indonesia. I think you gravely misunderstood the definition of Sharia. See I dont think you realize that you cant oppose the Islamic Sharia and still be recognized Moslim. Sharia- is the Islami Law. It is the way of LIfe. If you honestly beleive(And I hope to God you dont) that observing the Islamic law in a Moslim country is the base of all inequality and prejudice, you need to find yourself a fairer religion then. The bottom Line is this: Allah is fair, humans are not.. The stronger gender, the one that happens to hold the power cards fare better. it is a human instict, it always have been. It has nothing to do with religion or color. Teibetan Community in rural South China, where they practice polyndary(one wife, many husbands)women are burned down alive should they decide to leave their husbands. Now the same practice takes place in Pakistan, and all of a sudden the media represents it as an Islamic practice. that is what people are reffering to when they say culture is different from Religion. And that isnot to excuse the inequalities that takes place in Moslim communities but you need to understand that it'll take sometime to turn the clock. Allah is fair and all knowing. So walaalo I'd advice you to consider your thoughts before you put them down on writing. The prophet(ppuh) says in an authentic hadeth(in my own words) " Some of you might utter a word out of ignorance and way gaalobayaan without knowing."

Subxanalah this is fasahad fooqul fasahad! I guess nobodys has that sense of deep fear of Allah's wrath anymore. Some of us have gone as far as to the "so what" question. Whatever you do behind closed doors is between you and your maker but please dont come here and promote Haram in a Moslim Forum :eek: :eek:

Dont worry, bro. Anyone who runs will get out-0f-breath and stop dead on their track! With that said, the situation you described needs lots of snoopin' arround. Ex. why did she run away? probmlem at home or maybe she is just adventerous .The girl who just started partying,could there be other underlying reasons as to why she wants to start sweating this late? Ex.Being inducted into a new click can cause a girl to jump certain hoops just to prove that she aint archaic.

Justice I'm salivating here. Where did you find those skirts at? where where plz tell me. I'm willing to declare bankrupt for the sake of a skirt, I swear I will.

looooooooool wut sheeko sis?

Castro: I'mnot demeaning other people atheer but the fact of the matter is what I know. I have seen girls(or rather grown women)who beleive that marrying into other races is hip. I have my own homegirls get mixed with black American guys and every story, let me rephrase, every experience is worse than the other. Just the other day, I was shaken from a deep sleep in the middle of the night to pick up a friend from the mall. who knew that the quite, shy, incredibly polite, moslim, black American boy would initiate sexual relations in the dark movie theatre of Mall of America? walaalayaal beenta hala daayo. We somalis have a unique culture. we dhoocilos are used being respected and pampered. If you dont want to engage anykind of sexual activity, all you have to say is no, it is haram and farah cant argue with you. but it is not like that with MOST of other races. They cant beleive that you would flirt, date, like or be arround them without physical contact. It is very hard for them even if they are moslims. I have seen it. I have Oromo people whose majority is moslim. All my schoolmates. They party hard and play hard and in the Ciid time they will pray with you. And amnot saying they shouldnt, feel me? ROWDA: Have you ever heard of the somali maahmaah(I know Iam completely flounting my new found somali proverb) fartada xum filiq filiq makaaga harto. I love them but I have a hard time communiticating my feelings and vice versa but that doesnt mean that I go crying to other races. It is something that me and my especial farah have to work on . ---------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

Looooooooool thanks for noticing. But yes that place is drivin me nuts. Anyhoo, I missed your posts too. where have been?

I lovvve Somali Men infact if they go extinct today, I'll personally restore their DNA and clone them. Thaz how much I love them. Any dhoocil who thinks she can do better than our skinny boyz is halucinating and reality will hit hard when the Jamaican comes home drunk, smelling like some other woman and gives her the black eye if not throw her on the streets if she starts nac nac. wutz wrong wit our boys? They are simply beautful and I refuse to make babies wiht none other than farahs. Ok. with that said. Farah's and me(though they're always melting my heart with this and that) dont get along becasue farahs dont know how to communicate.Is it me or do the lovvvee playing the cat and mouse game? Tell farah you get sick just looking at him and he is inlove: tell him you simply get sick when he isnt arround, and farah is gone . Can you decipher their secret code for me? ---------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down somtimes

Nice one Rowda. Absolutely loved it, what a beatiful speech!

Loooooool walaalayal stop this hypocracy seriously. Valentine day has nothing to do with christianity just like Thanksgiving and Holoween. If it is anything, it is economical. It is a way to get people consume more goods. The only evidence from the sunna that allows you to refute this islamically is: Go against the kufari's practices but if you apply this principle then you need to immigrate from the west other than that it is nac nac iyo halagaa sheego. Oh.. look my red roses..chocolate.oh and note has arrived! Gotta bounce peepz. Happy V day! -------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

Loooooooooool. twice a month. Now that is my kind of relationship. If time permitted, hypothetically speaking, I would love to see my boo twice a day. Once, in the morning as he is just what the doctor recommended and once in the evening when I want to unwind my day . However, that is not the case. You see I barely get time for me, let alone for him. I have this dangerous habit of scheduling everything arround my school, work and family. It just hit me couple of days ago. It is soo sad because I was trying to fit a valentine date into my schedule and conversation went something like this: Farah: Umm.. do you know what day is coming? Me: Oh, yeah..listen, about dat, I wanted to talk to you. u know I checked my schedule and I dont think I can make it. am soo sorry Farah: sighs.. Ok. how about if I take dat day off and we hook up after work? Me: *making sorry face* I'm soo sorry but I have this project due in the evening. How about this friday after work Farah: *with the most disappointed, most irritated tone* Friday is not valentine's day. *considers*, Ok.Fine, but can stay out late.. i mean ur mom and all Me: *sighing* I know Farah: u know wut. how about u pick the darn date and let me know Me: am soo sorry, we will work something out ok? Farah: sure.. baby.. sighs How far off am I from my dream day? F, Sis get him accessories, like watches, ties etc. [ ---------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

stop beating arround the bushes and cite your source. And when I say source dont give me the whole chunk. Which sect of the twenty-three sects of shia are you refering to? which one of them beleive in those things you mentioned above?

Looool@ castro. Calm down atheer. we need you arround if we are ever gonna revive or reform such culture . But I feel ya. Somalis are one sick race :eek: ---------------------------------------------- Get Up! Up Even the best fall down sometimes

Iranians can say what they want, as they are not muslims! fanacudibilah. Oh lord give me the strength to ignore my brother's foults, amen! with that said, Sayid is u on something? Because in Islam, we judge sins not the sinners. Read this carefull You absolutely have no right, nada, to judge someone who ashahato as kaafir absolutely mind boggling. Shia has twenty-three different sects, which one of them are you deeming to be Kufar? And while there mightnot be political unity, Moslims are always united when it comes to their worth. Have you been watching the news? Ashahado, because if anyone left the faith it might be you. Subxanallah! ------------------------------------------------ Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

When I was just a little girl I dreamt of a land The sandy land in my dreams was the color of gold When my feet pressed against the golden sand, it made a squishy sound Everything in this land was gold The golden land stood tall against the dark sky The golden forest stretched as wide as the open sea The golden river danced a strange wild dance This was the land of my dreams The people of the golden land were as dark as the night Their eyes sparkled whenever they smiled The corners of their eyes wrinkled when they opened their mouths The dark people were tall, strong and marvelously built Their long thick black hairs danced on their smooth backs And when they walked the golden land trembled under their weights But they never once disturbed a living creature on their path Both men and women could run as fast as the north wind And when they danced the golden land sung a beautiful song “We are the keeper of life,†they chanted at once Such were the people of the golden land The people of the land of my dreams The dark people of the golden land never complained Never sighed once, they never knew despair Never cried once. Pain, they said, they understood Fear they welcomed with long stretched arms Violence was below them. But “evil†they knew how to fight “Pure hearts’ they denounced at once and didn’t trust “We are the dark people. We are the keeper of life,†they chanted at once Those were the dark people in the land of my dreams Last night I dreamt of the golden land again The dark people of the golden land knew despair. --------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

Hmm.. Here goes my two cents: Alignment of Xaliimo and Faarax's Marriage requirements: 1. First Category: Character Issues a. Please share three most undesirable character traits you will never consider. arrogance, selfishness, quick tempered b. Please share three best character traits you are looking in a future hubby or a wifey. honesty, confidence, ambition c. Please share character traits that you can tolerate. I cant think of anything Second Category: Religious Issues a. Where does a spouse fit in your spiritual life ? choose one below: 1. Most important , desirable, not an issue. Third Category : Social background: a. Does tribal or ethnic background matter in a spouse? Nope, not an issue. in fact , I would prefer a different tribe. b. Does social status, Head of Tribe, job ( shoemaker/metalworker/leatherweaver/computer technician or a cab driver, a Warlord, or does wealth and social prestige matter to you in a mate? Nope. none of that matters as long as he brings the paycheck home c. If all is equal, who do you prefer, western raised spouse , a Somalia-Somaliland-Puntiland-Jubbaland- Kismayoland- Kurtunwarreyland raisaed spouse ? why? cuz I think we communicate better. a. Maturity comes with age. false b. A young woman/man is not stable to consider false c. Men are like Cheese, the older they get the better hell no! d. Younger men can be trained to be a better husband false e. Age parity (equivalence) is very important in marriage true f. Older women are more satisfying in a relationship wouldnt know :rolleyes: d. What is the maximum age difference you can tolerate Hint: (Middle Eastern Joke: Very old man marries very young girl, in their wedding night, they were both crying, why? he forgot all about it, and she is too young to figure it out) 4-6 And I repeat married men are off-limits :eek: :eek: Please list three most important issues that you need in a marriage to feel secure: ( Fisrt Hint: e-Nuri Polygamy Insurance Service To be released soon) Spirituality, compatability and stability-financially and mentally a. All other factors being equal, Would you consider marrying a lesser educated man or a more educated man or an equally educated man? Equally is the best. but doesnt matter as long as he is motivated b. How mush does intellectual maturity in a man weigh against other romantic attributes for your consideration? I like romance, infact I will forgive him for being not so bright if he is hopelessly romantic c. If education is important to you, and you find just the right guy, but without education, would you accept marrying him if he promises to further his education after the wedding/before the wedding as a condition? yes. as long as he signs a contract. He cant bail out Physical attributes: Ah! (off to my dream world) He must be fit, gorgeous eyes, and a smile to die for ---------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

"There isn't going to be a war over this," said Nefise Karatay, a Turkish model lounging on a sofa after the premiere. "Everyone knows that Americans have a good side. That's not what this is about." Loooooooooool. I swear I olmost fell from my chair. Smart chic, eh? She is mocking the U.S. ofcourse, discreetly. "No need to shake the lion from his nap." Lol she knows that we are capable of something that moronic, like go to a war over a movie. ------------------------------------------------ Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

If ur best friend's father was a muslim, may Allah shower him with His mercy and give him the highest abode. Ameen.. Ofcourse he was moslim. Aamiin, ya allah! What a kind heart and kind words to say! Your comforting words reminded of how decent and kind he was to us when we were little. My eyes are just swelling up walahida , Thank you! ------------------------------------------------ Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

As much as i am flattered, i am sorry but i am in a very happy monogomous relationship. Mrs Brown says hi folks Loooooooooooool. Darn! Had to ask. I almost got my friend's hopes up . ------------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

If my wife is doing "fine" and is doing great things for her house, her community & her self, I as the husband should be standing by her applauding her for the great job she is doing, will support her as much as i can & motivate her to even aim higher. After all thats MY WIFE. Anigaa masuul ka ah. Her sucess is my sucess. Her achievements and accomplishments are also mine. Uuhn..ehhh as in I almost chocked in my chinnese food. Are you available to be the potential husband to a potentially successful xalimo? I'll sing to you what Bonjivi iigu heesay: you are the first of your kind . Anyhoo, although being intimidated is sometimes motivated by pure xaasidnimo, it is not always the case(I know hold ya horses, darn!). It is something that originates from pure insecurity. Eg. If your wife/lover/girlfriend/crush succeeds will she still look at you with the same adoring eyes? This pattern of thinking is dangerous and results unwanted jelousy that might potentially cause the partner to rule out xalimo as a wanna-be Western-Wonder-Woman(see it is sooo easy to get rid of insecurity. Just label the other person ). As for me, though amnot successfull Yet, I have seen farahs who immedietly feel threatned by the bare mention of me wanting to become a PHD holder . Ofcourse, in this scenerio I flash a gorgeous smile and tell them if all goes well I mightnot even want to have kids(suckersss! ). ------------------------------------------------ Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

b) When you go for a visit to relative house, and soon as you’re about to leave, they tell you “can you please drop off this eedo, (you never met before today) she lives on the way†and you pretend to be polite and say “sureâ€. Loooooooool true true. Not while ago, I went to a funeral. My best friend's father died and I went to visit their house. Imagine how heart-broken my friend is and am there comforting her. I wasnt even there for 20minutes when I heard my name being chanted in the next door. Then this lady busts in and she is like Eedo am so glad u r here. come drop me off to my house I'm tired. My friend is like, Edo she just got here plz let here catch her breath and she is looking at me like "dont u dare go" but then her mother busted in and she is like, Mom she is your Edo take her :mad: . Just to find out that she lives in the other side of the town and doesnt know exactly know where :mad:

Faster Christian Soldiers, Kill! Kill! Looooooooool :eek: . And I thought we were the most inconsiderate beings in any faith. Superiority walee is a contagious disease. seems like we are the only ones in denial of this hate-war we are under . Supose I reciprocated such feelings and wrote that we should keep on the suicide bombing to cut the christians in half? It would definetly meet the terrorist criteria, yet there is a site that promotes hate toward moslims, cajiib! May the moslims keep on rocking! ---------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes

I've always had hate-love affair with girls. as long as I can remember, girls hated on me simply because I dressed up like this, talked or walked like I owned the air they breethed in(wasnt intentional, just come accross that way). While I have had my shares of backstabbing, gossips and haters of all kind, I think I can say I have never been betrayed by a dear friend. Alxamdullilah, I have two best friends and couple of very close friends. My girls and I have been through thick&thin and I wouldnt be who I'm without them. In my experience Competetions and envy are the side dish that comes with every delicious meal, You just have to learn to take in moderation . Little competetion never hurts nobody .But true those you love so dearly can break your heart like no one. But lately guys have been getting on da way and everything gets complicated when guys are in the picture somehow. Eg. I with passion hate my girl's boy and I beleive he is not good enough. I cant say that to my baby girl, especially when she is blooming like a flower with happiness so I avoid any occasion that puts me in the dumashi picture . Girls how do you deal with that? When you know your girl is being silly and wasting her time, but cant make that decision for her?

Now, are you morally inclined to intervene between this woman's reprehensible conduct and ehr daughter as this might damage her, or do you leave them well alone to their own devices? Morally obligated? Nah. I would say leave them alone because chances are if she is a somali girl, she is already self-concious and she will quit all junk by the time she is 15, see no worries . Seriously, all the little girls around that age in my neighborhood are soo self-concious they are on the starvation-diet and before, they wouldnt eat anything that wasnt supersized. Ate so much junk food, I was afraid they would grow into giants. But now I'm afraid they would grow into anarxia ---------------------------------------------- Get Up!Up Even the best fall down sometimes