-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ^ If you're talking to a man more than 10 mins [unless you really really like him] he'll pursue you in person to see if the chemistry tranlates to physics, and ultimately, to biology. . Becareful who you talk to.. Made my day! Whats wrong with biology?

One of my married friends french kisses her husband right infront of us :eek: . And thats why we don't ever hung out with them together. We always make excuses, like Oh hun, it is ladies night therefore, ninka guriga uga soo tag. Somethings are better left to the imagination. There is nothing more disgusting than two people displaying that level of intimacy publically :eek: :eek: .

Never because we dont share culture, history, warfares,stereotypes and no odayaal will come to the rescue when I throw him out In high school, the quarterback of the football team used to salivate after me. He followed me arround like a lost puppy. All the cadaan girls were plotting my murder He was hot( because I have eyes :rolleyes: and can see the pretty smile, tossled curly hair and bulking muscles), smart, funny( in cadaan way) and VERY WHITE. Him I felt nothing for, NADA but the skinny farah with the glasses and long nose I had crush on all through high school used to give me a heartach everytime he said hi to me, GO Figure! :mad: That's when I realized the truth about me. I'm not attracted to anyone but Somalis. I LOVE, LOVE Somali boys! Something about their swagger and false confidence, umm :confused: Oh and the way they say " Macaanto."

I've done Pilates for about three months last year. I have all the Winsor Pilates tapes. It gave me energy and my body tightened up. However, if you want to loose weight, Pilates is useless. And you'll get the long lean muscle they promise only if you are at your ideal weight and want to devolop definition. If you want to lose weight, strengthen your muscles, build endurance and all the other wonderful stuff, Do cardio+weights. All that hooha about losing 100+ pounds on Pilates and comming out looking like supermodel is gimmicks. I know lots of family members and friends who tried Pilates for years and still look little chunky. I like group excercises. I do rocket ball, kickboxing and my gym just added bellydancing . So this spring, I'm looking forward to picking up few tricks

It is refreshing to hear from a sister who is express her fears publicly. I used to feel the same way, Wallahi! I naively volunteered at a hospital when I was 15 out of the pure goodness of my heart and the pursuit of class credit. Tell me why they would assign me the Maternity award every day. White people. There I have witnessed the horror of child birthing. There is no such thing as bravery there my dear. You’ll see grown women crying, soiling themselves and screaming at the top of their lungs. And where are the men? Chilling in the waiting room with coffee checking the time. One time this Sudanese woman who is circumcised almost chewed my arm off. She told me to never have sex if I have any sense. Scared me for life, I’m telling you. Now, Phobia is Phobia, no reasoning there. After the years had passed I came to change my view. Children are blessing and child rearing is a privilege. Don’t think so? Do a research on the heartbreaks women go through when they cant conceive. They’ll do anything! We are wired that way. It’s all good and fun when you know you can conceive if you want but you choose not to. But it is another when you find out there is no chance. As strong, educated and independent barred women are they lost their minds when they can’t conceive because it does something to their psyche. It is like you are not a complete woman. Adoption is noble but there is nothing like having your own blood and flesh (I don’t have kids yet but I’m planning to have them naturally and adopt some more). So sister girl, relax and get counseling. Don’t focus on the pain so much cuz it’ll pass and you’ll have a gorgeous human being that came from you.

Horta, S&TC wuu dhamaadey. Baryahan waxaan daawada Desperate Housewives, so get that teeny fact right. Secondly, for the millionth time, I'm not on the market.. or shelf... or barsad (thats terrace for you Ibs ) .... OK! I'm sitting on a high pedestal and I refuse to come down! Loooooool!! I was histerical when I read this. Made my day! Leave the poor girl alone. Abaayo dont pay attention to the oldies. Live your life the way you want. Trust me, a prince charming will come along when the time is right. I used to think it was all fairytale and that maybe marriage was a matter of opportunity and toleration untill HE came along and my world turned upside down fabulously and now every duq who used say " naa maxaad sugaysaa" is now like "Oh and how baari, responsible, and polite is he? and every gossipy cousin is eating her heart out." I never had any intention of settling for less but still am glad I waited. So enjoy life with your beautiful self!

Absent parents have no right to make decisions for their kids! They haven't earned the right to participate in the decision making process and they DONT deserve any love. Any man who abandons his kids and wife is a doofaar and he deserves no respect at all. So yes, she has every right to despise the man. And dont you DARE tell her otherwise. Somali men are known to pull that kind of crap and then turn around and act like they should be worshiped. I know this one girl whose father abandoned all his 10 kids and run off with a young thing. only to abondon her too at the age of 22 :mad: to marry an 18 year old :eek: and he is almost 70! akhas! And now that my friend is a fine young woman with character and educations and wants to marry the love of her life, he interferes talking about we dont marry qabiil hebel. And what is more horrifying is the woman(the mother) whom he abondoned million years ago acting like he is the ideal husband and telling her daughter to listen to her father if she wants Duco! :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

Female circumsition or mutilations as they put is a very dangerous and very demeaning practice. It needs to be shouted out from the roof tops.Lets face it, Somalis will never stop this hidious practice so long they see women as objects to be controlled. The whole purpose of this mutilation is a joke to me. But if there is one thing this hidious practice doesnt accomplish is stop people from gettin' their freak on!So she either doesnt understand the female anotomy reall well or she is pulling out the victim card which she is entitled to after all she is a victim and so is other million somali girls

May Allah grant his mercy to her and her family.

As a big boned child I was different to my petite sisters whom were also lighter then I was,so every time the cajusoo's came to visit they would make comments like.."Inaantani maa adhaa dalee? or "gabadhani reerku umaekaa"..Lol I use to take revenge by spitting in their drinks..Lol. Looool.That made my day! Them old women are mean as hell! My first year of college I gained the predictable amount of weight freshman students gain. Get this, one day this old lady who is my grandma’s age but acts like my mom’s age came to our house with her crew. My mom made the mistake of asking me to fix shah for them and the lady almost had a heart attack when she saw me in my sweats. “ Naa tanina waa tuma? Ma taadi baa. Ala hoogay, maxaa dhacay? I swear she looks like your twin. No one will think you’re the mother! :rolleyes: :mad: I politely smiled and carried on. The next 3 years, every time she comes over to our house unannounced and my mom is not there, I never let her in, rain or shine or snow for that matter we live in Minnesota! Take that sweet moma!

posted 03-06-2008 11:01 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ^^^Loool. Chocolate &honey, I don't know about Somali girls about my age, but the other day my little cousin told me I was too fat, and no one will marry if I don't lose weight! She is 10yrs old. I wanted to cry for her, where the hell did she get such crazy association from. I had a little chat with her, and she told me she is dieting and joined karate classes at school to stay skinny! I was so upset. She's dead stuck on this, so I am sure she will have an eating disorder sooner or later. I mean she's only ten. When I was 10, I eat everything and anything, I still do, so I was gob smacked to hear that kind of crab from a little girl. I did not really know how to change her mind, (talking to her was not working)plus she was convinced that she was giving me good and helpful advise, rather than me giving her advise. I've been meaning to bring it up again, but have not had the chance yet. I told her mother, and her mother laughed, I don't think she understood the seriousness of the situation, and the danger her little girl is in if she continues down this road. I really think parents need to aware of the society their kids are growing up in and provide the support system to deal with these problems. I understand your frustration, hon.I also have 14 year old neighbor who is at any given day on a diet. She's been on Atkins diet, SouthBeach diet, you name it, she's on it. Where does she get the money from? Her 60year old granma who doesnt have the capacity to understand the damages these yo-yo dieting is causing. I told her the other day that she needs to take the little girl to a doctor because she is constantly complaining about headaches, cramps, and dizzines because she doesnt eat properly and she told me that she would hate for her grandaughter to become one of those 'fatty' somali girls . Need I say more? We need to build an awareness of the dangers of eating disorder in our community.I heard girls of my age tell me that they rather get sick than get fat because no one wants to marry a fat girl anymore[/b . I dont understand why it is either and or? :confused:

Lol! I once went out with a guy who looked like that! I’m not kidding! On our first and only date, he talked about his training regimen, diet plan and his ultimate body composition goal all night. It was like a freak show. I know you’re dying to know his body composition goal so here it is. He wants to reach the 6% body fat mark! Yucks! I tried really hard to seem interested but that was a big turn off. A year later, and he still calls. I later realized that he was just a pretty regular skinny Farah who watched too many commercials .

Hello all! It’s been a long time but am back! Anyways, my beautiful sisters lately there is one issue that has been eating my brain out: BODY ISSUES. I know that we think we are so strong that the Western media and its agendas don’t affect our self esteem. But the evidence begs to differ. I’m not talking about skin color issues; I’m talking about weight issues. I mean at any given day, 50% of American women are on a diet according to the medical community. However, we Somali girls “don’t diet.” We STARVE ourselves! Pardon my generalization but bear with me. I know girls who sustain themselves on a diet of soda and slim fast only. I know others who are suspiciously in the hospital every other month for “dehydration” and “stress” related issues. What compels me to observe this particular trend you might ask? Well, I have a curious mind. Also, lately I have been closely (what! I’m concerned) monitoring my friends. One of them lost about 30lbs in a month. How did she do it? She started smoking. Another co-worker of mine stopped eating period! She always has headaches and she started missing her period. I don’t know how to talk to them because we don’t talk about these kinds of issues in our community. We are obsessed with being “natural.” No one ever “diets,” “bleaches” their skin or does their hair and make up; yup! we are born naturally that way! My conversations with these girls typically go this way: Me: Ah xalimo, do you want to go eat, it is like 2 in the afternoon? First girl: No, I’m so full for some reason. Go ahead; I’ll eat later at home. Me: Oh that won’t be another four or five hours. First girl: I know. But I have a headache so go on. Me: Ok. Me: Casho, do you want to eat later? Second girl: Yes! Me: ( at home or restaurant): I’m eating dinner, do you want some? Or do you want to order something? Second girl: No, I’m good. But go ahead. Me: Oh! Ok but I thought you said your were hungry? Second girl: nah, I don’t feel like it. I’m full even though I can’t remember what I ate the whole day. Me: Oh. That is not healthy, Hun. Order something, even a salad and a yogurt. Second girl: My husband says I gained weight so I’m trying to cut back.I'm not on a diet or anything though. Me: No you didnt gain anthing.you are like size 6. Second girl: I’m not trying to lost weight; I just don’t want to gain weight. Me: (frustrated) ok. I don’t ever know how to tell them that they are close to developing eating disorders or that they are destroying their bodies. I might sound judge mental to some of you but this is serious. I’m a language arts teacher, and I see some girls as young as 12 starving themselves or throwing away their breakfasts and lunches. I have seen girls who lost their sight because of an eating disorder. How do we warn our community? If you have a similar story or suggestions please share. If you’re comfortable with sharing some of your body insecurities please share. If there is an exercise or eating plan you swear by please share. Here is my issue: I absolutely envy women with toned arms. :mad: I feel unsatisfied with my arms every time I see them workout divas at the gym. I work out 3times a week. I do cardio and strength training. What is yours?

Watched it, Loved it,and will recommend it to anyone who enjoys sick& twisted humor. The hotel scene was just plain nasty. I thought it was a cheap shot! My favorite scene is the Jew-hating-vomit-inducing festival at kajaks.Hillarious! My white friends gasped and held their breath as long as they could pretending to be offended but I loughed so hard I fell off my seat

Subxanallah! :eek: :eek: :eek: If that woman is Somali she needs a good beating on the head. Didnt her mama raise her better than that? How could she let him do that under whatever circumstance? :confused: :confused:

Yes you can divorce him but I would also suggest that you speak with a Sheikh but make sure that you honestly tell him what is going on. Dont say I'mnot inlove because Sheiks don't beleive in love therefore he might try to convince you to stay in the marriage. Just state the practical aspect such as the fact that he is verbally abusive and that he is not here to take care of you. And Good Luck.

Plain disgusting! Subxanalah! He is a true pedophile! and they're talking about marriage? There is no marriage!

I was told getting married at the age of 25years and older is a bad thing. Looooooool. you just found that out? where have you been for the last 24years of your life? Anyways, sis marriage is calaf therefore, you cant rush it. And may I add, 24 is pretty young and you have plenty of time to woo a suitable partner and plenty more eggs, so relax and ENJOY life.

The anology is cute but i find it offensive because I'm sick of being compared to materials. The best one I heard though was,'women are like diamonds, these precious stones get rusty when displayed." I love diomands but I hate the idea of being described as a possession that needs to be kept guarded. feel me?

Beauty comes in all shape and sizes. accept life as a flower and watch it bloom into beauty. Breanna Hunter My favorite Haiku of the day! with that said who the hell cares about weight? only obssesed skiny-freaks do. Seriously the more you obsess about it the more it damages your concience and the more likely you'll devolop flesh-eating disorders, girls get the point?? All you need to be healther than hoarses is to exercise moderately and eat in moderation. And if you like eating three bowls of icecream a day, hit the gym and sweat a little. Trust me nothing works on that work stress like 30minutes of heartpumbing work-out.dont even bother with gym if you dont want to just hit the play button on your CD player and go!

1-Bukhari-I mean the man was genious 2-Shureym-I love how he reads the qura'n. when I was growing up he was the main reason why I wanted to memorize the Qur'an(so i can read with him ) 3-Last but not least Imamu Shafici-subxanallah who always inspired me to seek knowledge, has anyone read his biography? If anyone did(in English ofcourse) please drop the name for me!

Paradise is under the feet of mothers." Dr. Suhaib Hasan comments on the latter: The [above] hadith with this wording is da'if, but its meaning is contained in the hadith of Ibn Majah and al-Nasa'i that a man came to the Prophet (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) and said, "O Messenger of Allah! I intend to go on a (military) expedition, but I have come to ask your advice." He said, "Is your mother alive?" He said, "Yes." He said, "Then stay with her, for the Garden is under her feet."[71a] It is a fact that some mothers deserve the lowest place in hell. It is logical then that Paradise is not under the feet of every mother. The statement "the Garden is under her feet" was said in regard to a particular woman, who probably was known to Mohammad for her uprightness. Loooooooool. First of all the guy is a maniac bigot who has mother issues. Second it's the other way arround. The Above Hadith is saxeex and the Hadith The man is not to be asked why he beat his wife ..."'[62] is Daif and it is rejected and agreed upon. Look Saxix Bukhari, it will list the chain of the hadith. Everythingelse in the article is a mad man ranting probabyly cuz he is sexually frustrated and gets off pain :eek: :eek:

What I have notice is that most Somalis who say they hate/dislike Arabs, or talk negatively of them all the time are from the clans that haven't descendent from an Arab father. You are contradicting yourself son. Looooooooool. It's always the same song we are dancing to, THe claim that Some Somalis descended from Arab is just plain disgusting not to mention pure ignorance. THe rest of the world and history itself can attest to who we(east african, nomadic, and Cushitic speaking people)are but we keep denying it. Maybe there is a reason for Arabs to act all superior, maybe they know some of us are dying to be accepted as Arabs. Word of Wisdom: Africans are pure blooded, and all life sprung from Africa. There is no need to feel inferior to the rest of the lightskinned world.

I absolutely agree. Most(and I say most cuz some of us will have the urge to skin me)Arabs are racist bigots who make the least effort to conceal this fact. It's inherent in their genes. I have Arab friends, well not pure cuz their moms are somalis. They are well educated, civilized and like the rest of us they also grew up in the west. I swear sometimes they shock me with some of the comments they make and they do so without being aware of it. They have this superiority attitude which I enjoy crushing it into bits but thatz besides the point. What I dont understand is why do somali people worship Arab descendents? Sometimes my b/friend who is mixed and I would go to some place and all the somali people would be all over her when I say she is Arabiyad.and its not about beauty nor the skin color.Go figure.

And i thought the purpose of the thread was Diary Entry. Dear Diary: Life has been little rocky lately. I'm begining to doubt my future plans.Most of them seem unrealistic yet if I want to become who I'm destined to become I'm gona need to lie my way through it. School is becoming painfully boring. I'm losing my passion. so what should I do? OH look a cupcake gotta run.