@ waxba dhowran meyne. Apparently none of you go to Masjids at Ramadan in taraawix where unsuspecting Imams take questions? People are freaks behind close doors I tell you. The questions the wives ask the sheikhs(as in "my husband wants me to --- to me or wants me to do --- to him" is it halaal or will I go to hell if I say no) always make me shudder :eek: :eek: . The things husbands request of their wives are illegal in every sense of the word. Sometimes, I gasp at some questions and I dont understand why a human being would want to do that to another human being, it is just plain disgusting :eek: :mad: . The Siren, Normal is anything that doesnt make me want to run to my mom's house .

Hello, Trollers. Malika, take up reading. When I had the whole month off back in June and didnt know what to do with myself, I went to a lot of bookstores, and bought bunch books for a couple of dollars. Che, Acuudibileyso, ina habo. Don't let anyone get to you.

What kind of excuse is "I forgot it existed" and how dare you come back and demand a warm welcome when you broke-up with us?

This is the most honest article I've read about the dissapearances as the American media is known to exagerate and inspire only fear in the American people.

Imagine having to put lingerie on Winnie the pooh and dressing him up for your husband’s night of cuddly toy adulterated pleasure. I can see me provocatively walking my skimpy clothed teddy bear up to husband (Ventriloquism at its best) complete with role-playing –“come and get me ‘post-man pat’ you can post a letter through my box any day” material. If I am nothing I can be accommodating at times. :eek: Alla, I chocked and almost fell off the chair. Corrupting Winnie the Pooh is wrong, wrong, wrong . Personally, I refuse to indulge any fetishes except foot fetishes because it involves messaging and pedicures (I dont know if I'm making the pedicure part up. The first time I heard of foot fetishes was one I watched The Bachelorate where a man was voted off because he wouldnt stop talking about the lady's feet.)I'm a normal person therefore, I demand a normal husband. Flowers, candles, slow music, a light romantic dinner are a good start.

Lol@ "putting the treadmill in the kitchen." Not a bad idea if the brother is going to cook while the sister jogs on the treadmill. See, win win waaye. Indho, it is normal for women to gain weight after a child but what you do there after make the difference. For some women, a child gives them an excuse to let themselves go like "oh I dont have time for anything, I have a child to raise." And it doesnt stop at weight gain, it is appearances oo dhan like dressing up or taking care yourself. It is like they gave up on life outside children but unfortunetly men are visual.

NG, They range from 17-26 literally. Most of them went to the same high school:Roosevelt. They're literally kids, the kind who did not lie about their ages. Their faces and ages were printed on a NY article that came out on Sunday. Most of them were not even that religous untill the invasion.

Lol@ *squints with suspicion*. I just hate and the see through fact is less appealing to me. That is precisely why when I go to weddings, I'm preoccupied with covering my boobs with the tiny excuse-of-a-garment called garbasaar. It slips off, I pick it, slip, blush with embarrasment, pick up, slip, there goes my night. I look(with wild surprise and astonishment) at those girls who come to weddings with no garbasaar on, parading arround effortlessly in their literally see-through(as in you can see the color of the bra, underwear, peirced belly-buttons)diracs .

Sadly, this is going to effect the Mosque and probably the FBI will monitor if not close Mosques arround the state. See what they've done in the house of God? Now, this is probably going to inflame the minds of the gaalo thinking that we are terrorists as well. It is on every channel, every newspaper arround the country. BTW, why arent the imams speaking about this tragedy? Why arent they denouncing it for the sake of the mothers if not for the community? All they've done so far is deny their involvement. I dont beleive that the imams recruited anyone but they must've seen the signs or something.

Oh! This made me cry. I'm so sad. My heart breaks for the family. I didnt pay attention to Jamal untill I saw his picture on the news and a shock wave went through my body because he looks so much a like his brother Abdulfatah who I used to see everyday in the school year. Ughh.. this is heartbreaking wallahi. These evil people need to stop recruiting children to fight for their false ideals. The people who sent these kids are here. Why are they here? Why dont they go or send their kids instead of recruiting other people's kids if they trully beleive in their misguided notions of nationalism and Islam? Shows what true cowards they are.

Morning Trollers, Aw Malika, bug fluffy, warm hugz for you hun. I admire your guts. I keep having the same dream night in and night out where I have to make a huge decision about something, and I freeze everytime! This decision is so clear to me when I wake up, a no-brainer really but in my dream world, it gets confusing. umh..

Today, I bought the most gorgeous maxi dress. I have been dreaming about this particular dress for sometime but couldnt afford it before it went on sale. I fell in love with myself when I wore it, lol!

Lol@ The Siren eat choco. I will patiently wait with my xalwo and shaah untill the wrath of The Siren rains on you . wobbles. Malika cadeey are you off in the summer?

Subxanallah!! Things like this really bother me personally. I'd rather no know about it and go on with life. BTW, why must you go back and "check" if you have no interest? What will you do if he brings you little girls high on drugs? What then? If he is a pimp, then surelly the ladies you know will have nothing to do with him because they know he is a terrible person? I doubt that he hold ladies as slaves or holds a gun on their head.

Lol@ The Siren *waves back showing all her teeth.* FU Fu, really? Werent you commenting on how dumar is dhex daataan like "masago la isku furay"? Since, when did you adapt this neutral attitude?

Lol Fahima. Abaayo, I dont support it. I'm opening a discussion about this topic. BTW, it is easier than done to say "dont look a certain way when in fact everyone you know or meet is trying to fit into that catogory." Healthy self-esteem is essential, however, obesity is one of the last accepted prejudice in this culture we live in. You can't call someone gay, dark, ignorant, miget etc but you can call someone fat in fact, people take even a step further and give out advices. In fact, when I lose or gain few pounds, the first people who talk to me about it are female relatives. Of course, I politely tell them off but doesnt stop them. In my line of work I see a lot little girls with eating disorders. Anyways, now men are joining in. I hear a lot of comments even guys in this forum make like "naagaha way iskala daadiyaan or way isku furmaan markay guursadaan ama ilmo yeeshaan."

Uggh! I hate baati or dirac. I hate dirac with passion. I dont even go to weddings because I dread wearing dirac. It is so uncomfortable, long and way too big. It burns my skin. I see red marks everywhere when I wear it. My mom dislikes seeing any kind of skin, dunno why? She started to bug me with "naa lugahaaga qari, no shorts, pants, short skirts, or anything that reveals part of my body for there are number of neighbors and relatives at our house at any given time but they are women! Oh I hate it!!

I have been noticing strange phenomena in Somali men lately. The standards of beauty have shifted. Most of them are now prescribing to the Western standards of beauty. Stick-thin, brown skin females are described as drop dead gorgeous regardless of features. I'm hearing fat jokes in a much more intensefied tone. I have heard my male cousins and friends make commnets like "oh she'd be pretty if she wasnt overweight" or "she is too heavy for me" :eek: It used to be that, in our culture,(or so I was told) a curvaceous body was highly pursued. Anyways, what irked me was the other day,someone I highly respected joined the fat-bashing wagon. My mom, me and a newlywed cousin of mine run into a male relative I really looked up to (very wadaad and decent) at a grocery store. My mom asked about his pregnant wife (with their sixth child? I lost count) and he relayed that she was having a difficult pregnancy. My mom said something to the effect of “miskiinad. Taas caatatada badan ma ayadaaba tabar hayso ay lix cunug ku koriso” (as his wife is very thin) where he responded with a clear disgust on his face.,“saasaa la rabaa. Yaa rabo naag buuran.” That comment kind of offended me because he seems so prejudiced. So after we left the store, my cousin and I continued the conversation. To my utter shock, with no emotions on her face, my cousin said “ My husband and I have a don’t-get-fat clause in our marriage contract(no legally binding I hope).” He said it was a deal breaker for him, should she gain weight even after having children because he won’t be attracted to her anymore and can’t help but look elsewhere. Now, before you jump at my throat and point out what a shallow jerk he is, let me tell you about her husband. He is very, very, fairytale like dedicated to his wife. He is a modern day Romeo He works two jobs to support her and her family back home. Anything she wants, she gets. So guys be really honest (forget political correctness): If your wife gains a considerable amount of weight after marriage, is it a huge turn off? Would it a deal breaker? Girls, would ever enter such contract or would the idea of even speaking about the terms offend you?

Hello Trollers, Lol! Ibti, how is your friend's EX going to prove what exactly he spent on her? How silly?

I just voted! I like indulging the self-observed amongst us. Rudy, you owe me one!

C&H, You quote me and then talk about others who did not like Miss E A? I just said East Africa was a big place. It's true (even though I had other evil intentions for saying it). Lol! I didnt want to bust you dee. I read between the lines.

Aww ibti. Try hot-n-cold pads. It is temporary but it helps. The guur theory is wrong, wrong! Girls who never had a back ache a day in their lives, complain about intense bad aches and all kinds of infections after marriage. So I say the theory is flawed! Good luck sweety.

4th July Weekend was fantastic! Fireworks,great food and breathtaking view on an island!

Lol@ waits for the cue. You're hillarious sister girl.

East Africa is a big place. Istaqfurulah. Ala hooyoy, xabadkaa in xanuunay saan u qoslaayey . Lol@ waji muufo. So now odayaashi xataa are into stick thin girls miyaa? Iska daaya gabadha, she is kind of cute. She just needs to dress for her size, thats all