Originally posted by Dahia al Kahina: Islam is one of the most controversial and serious issues of our time. I know but that's not how it supposed to be...Allah s.w has made it so simple for both of us but these days you find two adult people who know nothing beyond the Shahada and have no interest in learning and some of us here even consider Islam to be outdated and old fashioned and it just goes to show to show you those who utter such rubbish don't even know anything about Islam and most certainly don't know what they're talking about...they've just heard their favourite non-muslim actor or singer say it and they just repeat after him/her... now, don't you think such people will only complicate the matters even more for their spouses since they don't know how Allah s.w has intended them to treat their husbands/wives and in my opinion it's such people that abuse their position be it wife or husband and before you know it that marriage has ended in failure.

Originally posted by Dahia al Kahina: ^^Under what circumstance should the wife be doing that? :confused: Salam Aleikum W.W My Dearest Sister Muniira... The moral of the hadeeth is not to say women should worship their husbands but be OBEDIENT to their husbands... Speaking of obedience...check this hadeeth out. A Sahabi once went on a journey of Jihad, when departing from home he instructed his wife to remain indoors and never to set foot outside in his absence. after the Sahabi has left, the lady's father became very ill so he sent some one to call his daughter. she said to the messenger "ask the messenger of Allah (P.B.U.H) the rule of the Shariah because my husband has instructed me not to leave the precincts of the house, what should I do now? Rasulullah (Sallalahu Alayhi Wasallam) sent the response to her query "it's not permissible for you to go and visit your father" the noble lady abided by the ruling of the Shariah issued by the Rasulullah (Sallalahu Alayhi Wasallam) so she did not go to visit her ailing father. on the next day, a message was brought to her informing her that her father was on his deathbed and that she was required to go and see him. however, the noble lady replied in the same manner and Rasulullah (Sallalahu Alayhi Wasallam) too responded in the same way as he did in the previous day. on compliance with her husband's instructions, she was not to set foot outside the house. on the third day she was informed of the demise of her father. once again she was called to the home of her parents and she reacted in the same way and Rasulullah (Sallalahu Alayhi Wasallam) said "even now it is still not permissible for her to leave the house, this her husband had forbidden. after her father was buried and Rasulullah (Sallalahu Alayhi Wasallam) returned from the burial, Jibreel (Alayhi Salaam) arrived with revelation from Allah (S.W). Rasulullah (Sallalahu Alayhi Wasallam) sent a sahaabi to deliver the following message to the lady who had not left her home. "Allah (s.w) has sent a revelation and he has conveyed SALAAMS to you. Allah (s.w) has forgiven your father because you obeyed the shariah by abiding the instructions of your husband not to leave the house" MAASHA ALLAH. isn't that Great? Salam Aleikum W.W Peace, Love & Unity.

Survival Kit: Do not demand your rights, discharge your obligations. Keep smiling, its an act of charity. Express praise and gratitude, all human beings share the same basic needs, to feel appreciated, respected and loved. Never compare your spouse with others, the grass always looks greener on the other side when in truth its not. Never bring up past problems that were resolved, they only cloud the future. Never insult your spouse at all be it in front of people or when alone, it’s a confession of your own weakness. Never insult his/her relatives, its demeaning and leads to a lack of self-confidence. Never adopt a tit for tat mentality; it causes equal pain to you. Be the better person, admit your mistakes and say "I am Sorry". Abstain at all costs from stubbornness and arrogance. Never go to bed without settling an argument or difference if you like, you may never see the next day. Peace, Love & Unity.

To The Bride: Remember that your husband is your King and that if the prostration to any other being besides Allah s.w was permissible it would've been a wife prostrating to her husband. maintain your respect and modesty at all times. obey the decisions of your husband as long as they are within the confines of the Shariah, your duty as a wife is to honour your husband. refrain from BROADCASTING your domestic affairs even to your closest friendd. what happens at home stays at home. only ask your husband for those things which you're certain he may give you or can afford as this would spare him the embarrassment of having to turn you down. when a husband cannot give you something and its not a neccesity do not turn to your father, uncle or brother for it. if you really love your husband you would sacrifice for him. if you were accustomed to a lavish lifestyle, turn away from it and live within your husband's means. control your emtions and try your level best to be the BEST wife. it has been said "Any woman who dies whilst her husband is pleased with her will enter Paradise". Sayyidina Ali (R.A) once said to one of his pupils "Shall I tell you the story of Fatima (R.A)the dearest and the most beloved daughter of our prophet p.b.u.h"? When the student replied in the affirmative, he said "Fatima (R.A) would grind the grain herself which caused corns on her hands. she carried water for the house in a leather bag that caused scars on her chest. she cleaned the house herself which made her clothes dirty. once some captives were brought to Medina. I said to her 'Go to the Prophet p.b.u.h and request him for an assistant to help you in your home. She went to him, but found many people around him. Her modesty did not allow her to request for a captive in the presence of other people. the Prophet p.b.u.h came to her the next day and said "Fatima, what made you come to me yesterday?" she felt shy and remained silent. I (Ali R.A) said 'O Messenger of Allah, Fatima has developed corn sears on her hands and chest because of grinding and carrying water. she is constantly busy cleaning the house and carrying out chores/causing her clothes to remain dirty. Don't forget this is the most beloved daughter of the prophet and Aisha (R.A.) once asked him, "Do you love Fatima Zahra so much, that when she arrives you get up from your place to give respect to her and kiss her hands and make her sit next to yourself?" He replied, "Oh Aisha! If you come to know why I love Fatima so much, you shall also love her." He considered her the part and parcel of his life, and used to say repeatedly, "Fatima (R.A.) is a piece of me, whosoever tortures her he has tortured me, and whoever pleases her has pleased me." yet she was modest and humble enough to seek the pleasure of her husband and she was determined to fulfill her obligations as a wife to her husband... My dear sisters...If you ever needed a role model there you have it. Salam Aleikum W.W Peace, Love & Unity.

Salam Aleikum W.W My dearest Sister Nehanda... I guess that's why the divorce rate is high because one of them abuses his/her rights over the other, you find men spending 24 hrs away from their wives because their so-called friends invited him to a chewing marathon and they couldn't say no or he spends hours talking about rubbish things like qabiil and stuff while his wife maybe sick at home and then there are women who will demand divorce just because her husband couldn't afford to buy her new sets of furniture or he didn't allow her to go to a certain wedding or he asked her to stay away so and so who happens to be, let's just say, not the best person in the world to hang out with. Abaayo there are some men who wouldn't like their wives to go to work even though Islam allows women to go to work subject to certain conditions, and even recommended to do so should they be in financial need. This is supported by the Quranic example of two female shepherds (Qur'aan 28:23). Islam recognizes that the society needs women to work for the sake of development. in general, women's right to work is subject to certain conditions: The work should not require the woman to violate Islamic law (serving alcohol, wearing revealing clothes etc )and be mindful of the woman's safety. if the work requires the woman to leave her home, she must maintain her modesty. Her work should not affect more important commitments, such as those towards her family. furthermore, it is the responsibility of the Muslim community to organize work for women, so that can do so in a Muslim atmosphere, where her rights are respected but can you honestly say that is the case since the overwhelming majority of us here live in a non-muslim countries and work with non-muslims? about you mixing with your male "friends" I'm afraid Islam does not permit the free mixing of men and women outside the close family group, and Western-style mixing even with wearing the Hijab is not permissible as is seen in places of education and work. The Qur'aan tells the believing men in the time of the Prophet: "And when you ask (his wives) for anything you want, ask them from behind a screen, that is purer for your hearts and for their hearts." (V. 33:53) The wives of the Prophet p.b.u.h were models for all women and were regarded as the Mothers of all believers. If they could only be addressed from behind a curtain in order to avoid any temptation or impropriety, how much more then is such a curtain necessary for ordinary women who can be a much greater source of temptation? it is also clear from the time of the Prophet that the Companions did not treat this Verse as referring only to the Prophet's wives but applied it to their women as well, with the complete approval of the Prophet. The reason given in the above Verse for such a curtain is "that is purer for your hearts and for their hearts" and in another Verse we read: "Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do." (V. 24:30) May Allah s.w Guide Us All Through The Righteous Path Insha Allah. Salam Aleikum W.W Peace, Love & Unity.

Originally posted by Northerner: Dont get Bobby excited now. He might right an Arsenal poem C-L-A-S-S-I-C! My Brother Northerner, First & Foremost Salam Aleikum W.W I hope and pray that all is well with you and the family Insha Allah... Secondly...You made me laugh with that cheeky statement...Thanks for that. Salam Aleikum W.W Peace, Love & Unity.

Originally posted by Nephthys: My heroes always has been....always will be....without a doubt the young men in my signature! Well said... Salam Aleikum W.W Peace, Love & Unity.

Salam Aleikum W.W All praise is due to Allah s.w who has blessed man with the companionship of spouses and placed love and compassion between them. May his choicest blessings be upon our master, leader and teacher prophet Muhammad p.b.u.h who freed man from the shackles of unbridled lust and passion and guided them to social and moral rectitude. "Marriage is my sunnah and whosoever keeps away from my sunnah is not from me" said our beloved prophet Muhammad p.b.u.h. The importance of marriage may also be understood from the following point. The Qur'aan refers to Salaat (prayers) 73 times but no details of salaat are furnished. the hadeeth of Nabi (s.a.w) are required to elaborate upon its laws. However the relationship between a man and woman is so important that the Qur'aan mentions all the laws of nikah and divorce in minute detail. Our beloved prophet not only encouraged marriage among his followers but he also emphasized the importance of appropriate conduct after marriage so that the marriage endures and in the words of the holy Qur'aan becomes the coolness in our eyes. "They (women) are a garment for you and you (men) are garment for them" Surah Al-Baqarah. Ayah 187. From the above Ayah of the Qur'aan, the relationship between a husband and wife has been stated as the spouses being each other's garments. There are many reasons for this similitude being used. Firstly, clothes are the closest thing to a person's body. In the same way the relationship between husband and wife should be established as the closest relationship that each of them have. Secondly, clothes conceal one's physical defects and are means of adornment. Therefore the couple should conceal each other's faults especially in public. Spouses should also be a means of betterment for each other. Thirdly, garments serve as a shield from heat and cold. The couple should therefore give comfort to each other in times of difficulty. Lastly, it is also known that a person feels incomplete without his clothes and feels sense of urgency to get to them. In a like manner, couples should be inclined to each other and hasten to each other in all occasions. Duties Of The Husband/ Rights Of The Wife: in Islam the wife is given certain rights which the husband is OBLIGED TO FULFILL. Firstly, the wife is entitled to Mehr. If it was promised to be handed at a fixed time then it should be given to her on time. If the husband fails to discharge her Mehr, she may refuse him all matrimonial relations and he will still have to support her. Secondly, its WAJIB for the husband to provide his wife with food, clothes and shelter. However, these should be within his means and the wife should not demand something she knows her husband can’t afford. The husband MUST provide those items which are necessary in the running of the home and also provide for his wife’s personal items. Regarding shelter, the husband’s obligation is to provide his wife with living quarters wherein she may reside with him without any constraints, whether it be a flat, house or separate room and kitchen. Thirdly, its necessary for the husband to give his wife Deeni Ta'leem (education). If he's not learned he should request the well versed women to educate his wife. It's permissible for the husband to be stern in her deen training and reprimand her verbally. Duties Of The Wife/ Rights Of The Husband: One should remember that it's the duty of the husband to maintain the house, but it's the woman who should make a home. Its an important duty of the wife to assist her husband in religious affairs. Its stated in a hadeeth: "the best possession is the tongue that remembers Allah s.w and a heart that is grateful and the believing woman who helps her husband in matters of faith". its WAAJIB for the wife to obey her husband as long as his commands are in conformance to the Sharia. She should take of the wealth of her husband. She should not leave the home without permission of the husband nor should she allow anyone to enter without his permission, utmost respect should be shown to the husband and vice versa and they should both acknowledge that each deserves that respect and they should both address each other with honour. A wife should serve her husband and take care of all his needs and she should serve him with a good heart. Remember warm food and a warm heart can melt an ice cold heart. Its incumbent for a woman to guard her chastity and modesty in the same way that one leaps when a rocket is heading towards one. The wife must dress and beautify herself for her husband and for him ONLY. Men become attracted to beauty and she should keep her husband attracted to her. A wife should please her husband and give preference to his needs under all circumstances. To please the husband is more rewarding than praying Tahajjud prayers and the husband’s pleasure is the wife’s ticket to Jannah. How To Enhance Love & Avert Divorce: 1-Giving/ exchanging gifts increases love and gives people a sense of love. Thus spouses should exchange gifts. 2-Our beloved Prophet ALWAYS smiled on entering the home of his wives. He NEVER verbally abused his wives nor did he EVER raise his voice to them. Thus the spouses should follow the examples of our beloved Prophet P.B.U.H and be light hearted and smile at each other. 3-Affection is NECESSARY and should be displayed. Thus when a husband enters his home he should smile, greet his wife and hug and kiss her. 4-Men shouldn't hold back in praising their wives. Compliment her on her beauty, the sweet perfume she wore just for you today, the stylish way she wore her hair for you and her cooking skills as well over all compliment her on everything good that she does for you. 5-Husbands should place morsel of food in their wives’ mouths as this increases love. To The Bridegroom: You have chosen a life partner for yourself and by doing so you are not just getting a wife but you're receiving your whole world. From now on until the rest of your days your wife will be your partner, your companion and your best friend in the whole world. She will share your moments, days and years. She will share your joys and sorrows, your success and failures, your dreams and fears. When you are ill she will take the best care of you and when you need help she will do all she can for you. She will always be with you. When you awake in the morning the first thing your eyes will see will be her and when you go to sleep at night the last thing your eyes will see will be her. In short she will be your whole world and you will be her whole world. Remember that your wife has left her whole family, home, friends and near and dear ones just to be with you. It may take some time for her to adapt to her new life so bear with her and avoid adding to her distress. Love, respect and honour her as she's your most valuable companion. Treasure her and shower her with love and affection. Remember that you will be rewarded by Allah s.w for any emotions you show to your wife as our noble prophet p.b.u.h used to extend his knee to his wife to assist her up to ride the camel. There has never been more loving and affectionate husband than our holy prophet p.b.u.h. Once a Sahabi was hurrying the camels upon which the wives of the Prophet p.b.u.h were seated. The prophet of Allah s.w may peace and blessings be upon him asked the Sahabi to slow down because JEWELS were seated on the camels… she has been created very delicately from a crooked rib. You CANNOT attempt to straighten her as any attempt to do so would only harm her. Therefore take benefit from her in all her crookedness. If the woman has some bad habits in her then DO NOT CONDEMN HER on account of that habit, rather look for and remember her pleasant habits. There is an English proverb that says; Even a watch which is out of order speaks the truth at least twice every day. for example : suppose the watch stopped at 12 hours and 15 minutes, as this time occurs twice during the 24 hour day the dead watch will tell the correct time twice. The moral drawn from this proverb is that if one is in search of goodness with sincerity one can surely find it. Therefore one should ALWAYS try and find good in one's wife. Anas (R.A) say: "I asked Aisha (R.Anha) what the prophet p.b.u.h did at home? The mother of the faithful (R.A) replied "He helped his wives in domestic chores" in another narration she said "He used to mend his shoes, sew his cloth and worked in his house just as any one of you works in his own house" doing house hold chores is a prophetic attribute that breeds humility and displays compassion and kindness. Your wife is the queen of your home and should be treated as such. Overlook her faults, turn a deaf ear to her unnecessary complaining. "Frailty be thy name is women" therefore be gentle and kind to her. Do not allow anyone to belittle her. She is your life long partner. Protect her at all times even if it may be from you. Remember the the prophet (p.b.u.h) found time to go out to the desert and race with his wife Aisha (r.a). she out ran him but later after she had gained some weight he out ran her. Follow the examples of the prophet p.b.u.h and ALWAYS try to be good to your wife by words and by deeds. Talk to her, smile at her, seek her advice, ask her for her opinion, spend quality time with her and remember beloved prophet p.b.u.h said "The best of you are those who are best to their wives" May Allah s.w Guide Us All Through The Righteous Path Insha Allah. Salam Aleikum W.W Peace, Love & Unity.

Originally posted by Skipper: i thought you were more innteligent than that for sure. Pardon me my dearest brother...for my intelligence went to vacation in Alaska and it wont be back until I pay the rent that I owe for the last couple of decades! aHHAHAHHAA. Norway has a population of 4,7 million so i think its not that easy to spot me. Africa has a population of almost a billion people and we all know each other by village and hut...so what's 4.7 million people when you're the minority that also happen to be BLACK .. Brother...I was only joking with you and its nice to know that you can give as much banter as you get...Thanks for being a good sport and Welcome To The Family My Brother. Salam Aleikum W.W Peace, Love & Unity.

Why not? I've seen it happen before and the new generation of 'Liverpool fans' aren't content of living on the past glory like some of you guys... Winning Champs league couple of seasons back and reaching last year went out of the window as soon as Man Utd won their 9th Premier League last year... its never too late and my offer will stand thorough the year Insha Allah... Peace,Love & Unity.

^^^soon these so-called scholars will say we can marry a hindu or buddhist Ladies... by the way this is what the Qur'an says about marrying a non-ahlu Al-Kitab and a muslim woman marrying a non-muslim. ""You shall not marry Mushrik women (idolatresses or who ascribe God's attributes to others as ascribe partners of Him) unless they embrace the Faith (Islam). A believing slave woman is better than a Mushrik woman although she may please you. Nor shall you wed (your women to Mushrik men unless they embrace Faith (Islam). A believing slave is better than a Mushrik, although he may please you. These invite you to Fire but Allah calls you by His will to Paradise and to forgiveness. He makes plain His revelations to mankind so that they may be mindful." (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:221) May Allah s.w guide us all through the righteous path Insha Allah. PS. Caano Geel...it's good to enlighten each other with these kind of informative topics. Salam Aleikum W.W Peace, Love & Unity.

Originally posted by Northerner: I blame the Arsenal fans Liverpool has the only fans in the world that MASSACRED their own fans...What a great club... I hear the Kismaayo boys reigned supreme in the south. Maxaa ku dhacay Xamar? You heard it wrong my brother as someone didn't give you the honest version of the story. Brother...WE (Yeah..people from the greatest city on earth...Kismayo) reigned SUPREME in the whole country including your beloved Togdheer as we've won more cups than the rest of the country put together and we've produced best footballers...we still do...you've got to LOVE my hometown of Kismayo Peace, Love & Unity.

Originally posted by Faarax-Brawn: I think the all time winningest African Club is Zamalek,Hands Down. You must be talking about a long time ago as that was surpassed by Al Ahly, Zamalek's fiercest rivals from Cairo and Egypt. Al Ahly are African club of the century voted by FIFA and no African team can come anywhere near them as they've won more continental cups than any other African club and last year they've won their 100th trophy which also happened to be their Centinaray year...How cool is that? Gormahia only won African cup winners cup and I still remember the rivalary with AfC Leopards..when those two locked horns it used to be war...Jaluo Vs Baluhya and it used to be ugly that where the phrase of "Ukikosa Mpira Usikose Mguu" was first invented...that is how serious that match was ... Peace, Love & Unity.

I used to like Coast Stars...because cousin of mine used to play for them plus I used to get Njumu from them for FREE... I can imagine Faarax_Brawn chanting "Gor Biro" Peace, Love & Unity.

Originally posted by Ms Dhucdhuc & Dheylo: So no one is joining me to admit to chewing thi stuff even once? I was the first person to admit that I did chew once just to see what the fuss was all about and I did chew more than one Kg in less than couple of hours and my tongue and tonsoils suffered the most as I couldn't drink anything hot or cold for couple of days! Peace, Love & Unity.

I once tried it in my teens and I swore never to put it in my mouth ever again after uu carabka iga goo-gooyey and looking back now I'm grateful to Allah that I never picked up that habit otherwise ilko la'aan ayaa ka dhici laheed meesha sida some guys that I know... You may not believe this but I TRIED so hard to be a smoker because I was stup!d enough to believe it was cool to smoke but somehow I always ended up throwing the bloody thing away after couple of puffs as it made me feel dizzy and eventually throw up...growing up in Eastleigh was not easy where one is exposed to all kinds of drugs but I was too scared to try weed even after I'm offered more than I care to remember...and boy am I glad that I never Alxamdulillaah...as they say Weynaadaa Wanaagsanaada. Peace,Love & Unity.

Salam Aleikum W.W Under-rated: Didier Zokora Ivory Coast/ Spurs Micheal Essien Ghana/ Chelsea Gael Clichy France/ Arsenal Shaun Wright-Philips England/ Chelsea Charles Nzogbia France/ Newcastle Gilberto Silva Brazil/Arsenal Alexander Hleb Belarus/ Arsenal Patrice Evra France/ Man Utd Mohammed Sissoko Mali/ Liverpool Jamie Carragher England/ Liverpool Jermaine Pennant England/ Liverpool Benni McCarthy South Africa/Blackburn Obafemi Martins Nigeria/ Newcastle Joseph Yobo Nigeria/ Evrton Mikel Arteta Spain/ Everton Morten Gamst Pedersen Norway/Blackburn Abdulaye Faye Senegal/Newcastle Lassana Diarra France/Arsenal Nemanja Vidic Serbia/Man Utd Miroslav Klose Germany/Bayen Munich Those are the names that I can't think of right now that I think deserve more recognition. Over-rated: Alan Smith England/ Newcastle John Terry England/ Chelsea John Obi Mikel Nigeria/ Chelsea Andy Johnson England/ Everton Francesco Totti Italy/ Roma Lucas Padolski Germany/Bayern Munich Daniel Alves Brazil/ Sevilla (25m...Chelsea are you kidding me?) I will add some more names soon Insha Allah as I'm full of Samoosa right now and I can't think properly plus Isha is upon us... I must add that Robinho looks ordinary whenever playing for Real compared to when he's playing for Brazil..maybe he should move away in oder to fulfill his potential...after all this is a player thought to be next Pele while at Santos even if you can't compare Brazialian Serie A to European leagues. PS. How many of you still think Fabregas is over-rated? Salam Aleikum W.W Peace, Love & Unity.

Northerner, That's why Liverpool are almost desperate to build a new 65000 seater stadium but I wonder if you'll have the team to match such an impressive arena! Like I always say to you and SoMa_InC...You can always join Arsenal FREE of charge...me and 1-8-7 will gladly pay your membership fees Peace, Love & Unity.

I can understand if one would steal expensive shoes but flip flops? and you thought Mosques would be safe from this sickening habit...! Peace,Love & Unity.

A friend of mine got a stern warning once from his lady-boss after telling this joke which she deemed it to be a Sexist joke... (A cop stopped a speeding car and told the woman driver "When I saw you driving down the road,I thought to myself...One Hundred at least!" The woman replied: "I don't think that's fair. but I do admit this Hairstyle makes me look bit older than I really am.).... "Ar Lee Tii Waa Lasoo Fiijiyey" That's how we, people from Waamo put it. Peace,Love & Unity.

We're entitled to a share of the bounty...don't you think so? for being loyal all these years and never giving in into temptation... Peace,Love & Unity.

Allah...Ilaahow Ceebta Astur Insha Allah...Walaalow bal raali iag noqo markale. Peace, Love & Unity.

Diplomat For The Damned: Head battered by the burden of my thoughts heart shattered by the brutal demise of my dignity scattered became the blooming roses of motherland haunted by their deafening screams of agony tears of defeat gather and my soul wishes to flee I mourn in silence for my forever lost freedom oppressed by the unholy greed of my own brother for the joy of our enemy he made me pay in blood forget not the day of reckoning is beckoning the ghosts of slain infants stalk you like the lies you talk silent like the muted shadow walking beside you mothers weep while you sleep with blood on your hands wearing hood to block your sight from everything good the loot of the nation lies ruin in my neighbourhood selling your soul to the devil with a bargain of a kind calling this colonial invasion a timely salvation dismissing the mass genocide of the youth as a suicide siding with the infidel legion that speak ill of our religion you caused this tragedy that robbed us of our humanity STOP gunning for I,the Diplomat Of The Damned. Peace,Love & Uity.

Not nearly as Gifted as you're... Peace,Love & Unity.

Jaceylbaroow...Waar adiga un iska ilaali yey ku dafin adigoo SOL mashquul ku ah -Lily-...Salam Abaayo. Peace,Love & Unity.