I fully support those that are struggling to free themselves from the clutches of the west but what i do not support is the killing of innocent bystanders on both sides! Kill military men by the dozens, but taking an innocent's life out of frustration and just because they belong to a particular group, doesn't make it right at the end of the day. Plus, the ppl who are responsible for the beheadings, dont really seem to care who they kill, pakis, some muslim nationals as well, so what do they gain? Nothing, makes them look worse to the sympathizers of our cause of global freedom, and makes those that seek our downfall more eager to kill our innocent young men and women. Violence breeds violence and its a horrible cycle that leads to the ultimate deaths of millions of innocents. This isn't just directed to the so-called hostage takers, also to those fake "liberators" that are only there for their own interests.

Ngonge, I can't help but think that since ur so gung-ho in making excuses for abusers, that maybe, just maybe, u have made that mistake in ur life, (ie, may have hit ur wife), and repented, and u dont like being reminded or suggested that a man that hits once is most likely gonna hit twice. just a theory, sorry if im assuming, but i couldnt help but ask. In any case, the majority of us who've responded to u have stated a like-minded opinion and its wrong to label us emotional just because we've countered ur arguments, but interestingly and ironically, u seem the most emotional since u seem to plead for the understanding of the abuser and why he might have chosen to hurt his wife, while completly dismissing the repercussions of that "little" slap. Peace

"Now, I’m not trying to justify domestic violence here, nor am I making any judgments. However, given a choice between the odd slap and the total breakdown of your marriage, would you seriously walkout the minute that slap is administered? If you had some sort of secret list of things that are totally unacceptable in a marriage, things that would instantly end a marriage, would a “beating†be top of that list?" Ngonge, u do indeed sound like u are making excuses for domestic violence, reducing it to "just a slap" no big deal attitude. A slap leads to a punch and that leads to more serious and perhaps physically damaging behavior, but more importantly, the "lil' slap" does more damage to the psyche than anything else. Scars may go away, but emotional abuse doesnt, and it isn't right to reduce it or make excuses for it. Its like me asking u, would u leave if she takes just one ball away from ur privates? its just one, get over it.... :rolleyes: This topic though brings up good points about domestic violence running rampant in our society and ppl who call themselves religious adhere to that barbaric behavior. Any man that dares to put his hands on me, he'll wake up wondering what he is..man or woman or "it"?

Stay at home moms/housewives, hardly get the respect they deserve. That is truly the hardest job one can do, being that its 24hrs and is unpaid labor. Some countries are fighting for the rights of stay at home moms and pay them for their labor, cause unlike other jobs, u can't clock out after 8hrs. It is also a labor of love and one that is sometimes looked down upon in our society by other working moms/society as a whole. Personally, if by the time im ready to have kids my husband is earning enuff to support the whole family, I would glady stay home until they reach pre-school, then hopefully I can enter the workforce again and utilize my degree. I don't see myself letting daycares take care of my children when i can educate them in our religion, morals and values, also read to them and prepare them for secular education. The first few yrs of a child's life are the most important, this is when they are molded and are most open-minded, therefore its up to us to teach them values that they will adhere to as they grow older. But lets say i was a single parent, and my child hasn't yet reached pre-school age, id have no choice but to work, but id prefer to leave my child with my mom/trusted relative than a daycare. Reason being is that a daycare is not always a sanitary place, some abuse the kids/neglect them, that would be the last place id send my kids. I also understand that our parents raised us, why saddle them with their grandkids in the golden age? As long as the parent doesn't mind, thats a much better choice than a daycare. Of course, each couple, b4 they are married, need to iron out all these details, and find a suitable mate with the same ideas as urself. p.s.-for those worried about not using their degree right away, id see no reason to, because u can use it any time in ur life and is there for u when u need it. Peace

"X- I have this image of you as a serious, no-nonesense girl with straight shoulder-length hair and glasses." Sun, u may be close to the hair description, and i may sometimes have a no-nonsense attitude, but friends usually describe me as the crazy, loud, hardly serious and easy going. I guess i seem Hitler-ish here, 'cause some ppl get on my nerve and make me miss the era of gassing ppl. I agree with u about what u thought of Legend of Zu, that's the same image i get...better yet...if u saw Kill Bill...he reminds me of the master that taught Uma her fighting skills. p.s.-Sun, stop drolling over Gedid's pic, U werent supposed to see Peace

I can't believe no one picked up on the fact that he said he was home by 5:30, and his wife was home at 9pm, and he still expected her to cook???? :eek: Hello? OG Moti, now that's slavery....and not to mention moronic, and just plain inconsiderate....if ur home 4 hrs b4 ur wife, why dont u do the cooking??? :mad: And don't give me the crap about not knowing, anyone can learn, and practice makes perfect...its all in time management...I suggest u take the tips from the other ladies and let Juxa give u some more recipe tips...believe it or not...ur wife would be 10x more appreciative if u show a lil' consideration...also, don't assume all ladies love to cook, thats just a myth.... p.s.-where in the "how to be somali" handbook does it say the wife must be the only cook if u are both working outside the home??? New Edition that I have missed??? :confused: Peace

lol OG...2/4 things u said were right...u can all speculate which... Farxan, good way of weeding out the good looking from the average...makes ur hunt a lil easier huh?lol... This site used to have a pic section under Community, due to childish comments and such, it went down...

One person's 'terrorist' is another person's freedom fighter....therefore, how do we define a terrorist? And who's definition are we gonna judge others' by?

Finally, something fun and funny on SOL...about time the mood was lightened and the guns were put away...(for a while there, it looked like a flashback to the civil war)... Ok...this is what pops into my head when I think of other Nomad's here, and some of those thoughts are due to the Nomad's name OG Girl...-i'll start with u since u started this topic....-petite boned, 5'7, fair skin, long hair, and long nose... Khayr-5'9, medium toned skin, short kinky hair DA- 5'8, toned body, medium length hair, fair to medium skin tone, and a perky nose (for some reason) (this is starting to look like a dating AD, so maybe i should stop there...one more what the heck) Aeryn Sun-5'4, curvaceous, coloured hair (red?), glasses/contacts... Peace...

Rudy, since u are a married man now, why are u still holding on to puppy love??? hmmm...not to assume anything, but maybe marriage isnt goin well for u and u wish u had a chance with her (if not, i apologise)...

Besbaso, giving birth is never a pretty sight, and one shouldn't expect their wives to look like a Vogue model while pushing out an ungrateful child from their womb...its dirty business and since ur husband helped u get there, he should be there with u while u look ur worst....some may look like they've been dragged through a sewer, so pull on his hair or scratch him if that eases the pain, and make sure he looks just as bad as u, maybe a scared squirell...

Viking, well said bro, I wish more ppl thought that way.... In the time and places where we live, its vital for both to have an education, but if we look in the long run, provided the couple stays together, when kids come into the picture, for at least the first few yrs of their lives, the mother would most likely be home with them, therefore, the man needs to have a great education and job to feed his family since for a time, he will be the sole provider. If we look at the flip side, let's say the marriage doesn't work or she's widowed, and the mother is left to take care of her kids, if she didn't pursue higher education in her younger days, then she would be hard pressed to feed and clothe her kids decently, therefore, it is also vital for the woman to look to higher education as well. Moral of my diatribe, higher education benefits both and the kids as well, and is a security blanket that is there to be utilized whenever the need arises. Some men are threatened by a woman with higher education than themselves, and that is solely because they feel inadequate when it comes to providing for their family, when compared to her salary, let's say its higher. Therefore, some look towards women who have attained less than them, hence, making them feel more of a man and provider since they don't have to compare salaries. I'm happy to see that many young men in our society have taken education more seriously, although in some cases, the sisters outnumber the men in university, but all the same, I'm glad they are looking towards the future and their responsibilities. Personally, I think both couples should match as well as possible in their education levels, at least some post secondary, and if one has attained more than that, bravo to them, it only benefits the family as a whole in the future. p.s.-i had a friend tell me he couldn't date or even think of marrying a girl he liked because she had higher education than him, and it made him feel inadequate as a husband not to be making as much as she. Peace

Guys wearing pink? Not every Farax can pull it off, nor should they all try it...but as countless ppl b4 me mentioned, its all in the right shade and also has to do with one's own personal style...just because something is now fashionable doesn't mean everyone can wear it....personally though, its attractive to see a guy with a great fashion sense, that understands what he can and cannot wear for his body type, and if a nice shade of pink is in order, by all means, let him wear it...with the right pants, tie and shoes, it can be GQ... Now, let me ask the guys a question...do u think wearing pink makes u more feminine, or do u just not like the color to begin with? Or does pink blur the gender lines perhaps? Some maybe thinking, if they get us to wear pink, what's next? an apron? ohhhh!!! peace

If we really look at it, a father not being there the first day their child is born can be a prelude of what's to come...look at our society for instance, many families are missing father figures and this just might have been the instigating factor that started it all....so u gents, be there to cut the umbilical cord and I guarantee u have a greater chance of being in that child's life/trying to do what's best...otherwise if ur not there for the experience, u won't fully appreciate what it took to bring that 8lbs 5 oz baby into this world and seeing their cute lil' faces looking up at u to protect them, coffeetime and the rest of ur priorities will be out the window...just a thought... p.s.-suck it up!!!! all u whiners....boohoo..."i hate blood, my culture says thats not manly"..etc..etc...etc.... :mad:

Discreet, I regret now putting words in ur mouth, so kindly tell us the REAL reason u don't want to participate in the delivery room....and shoobaro, actually having ur husband there while ur going through the worst pain of ur life does affect a woman's psyche, ur support and willingness to hold her hand during this difficult time will be worth more to her than anything else u can give her during ur lifetime together... p.s.-id say to my hubby if he didn't want to be there in the delivery room, not to bother showing up when baby making time is happening....i wonder how he'd react? :eek: ...call it blackmail, but crunching his fingers together with my super-human strength while going through agony will ease my mind knowing he's sharing my pain as well...

Discreet, help me understand why the delivery room is almost as synonymous with hell to you....does the sight of blood or her shrieking disturb you?...I know some men faint at the sight or would rather poke their eyes out with a nail gun....but this is a q to all the men who don't want to participate....why? is it b/c u can't genuinely take seeing her in pain or is it that u don't want to dirty ur eyes and ears with the small business of birth? Don't u want ur baby to see u first when they come into this world?

The main 2: I lack.... 1-patience 2-ability to forgive easily (tend to hold grudges) Work in Progress

Considering it takes 2 to make a baby, it also takes 2 to share in the experience of birth....therefore ladies, U should all require ur husbands to be there when u give birth b/c he needs to fully see and appreciate how strong women are...and also be thankfull that u have nurtured his child within ur womb for months and now must endure the most excruciating pain in order to bear his fruit.... For the men who would rather eat a live rat than see his wife giving birth, i say, suck it up and be there for ur other half in their time of need...a show of support can do wonders for the woman...and she may curse or scream at u for doin this to her while she's laboring, at the end of the day, holdin her hand will do her a world of good.... Peace

...Ok...let's for a second put aside the intentions of the writer....good or bad...and let's stick to the main question at hand...pretend it was asked from a muslim woman...now answer the q....are mosques sister-friendly? Mostly, id have to say no, b/c most ppl have already pointed out the reasons, such as space, etc...and i also see why b/c its mostly geared toward men, therefore accomodating them first, but sisters also deserve a place to worship that isn't treating them like second class citizens. Now...lets come up with solutions...

Barwaqo, of course girl, truce. I admit, i was a bit jealous of u liking nomad, so i let the tigress in me come out ...but now that its over, im happy to resume our friendship...shopping? coffee? all good...pick me up in July...at heathrow

Hey Bambina, im a torontonian for over a decade and have yet to go to the CN Tower, cause heights like that scare me, and wonderland is cool, except all the rides make me sick, u'll usually find me in the kid section, sitting in a tea cup, looking like an overgrown kid My friends and I are planning to do alot of activities in tdot this yr, such as going to the beach, centre island, zoo, barbeques,soccer games, etc, so ur more than wlc to hit me up when u wanna hang out.

Try Me, even though u insist its just a crush, and u might not even know it yet, but from the tone and the way u wrote ur message, its borderline infatuation and dare i say amateur love? Hey, dont wanna put ideas into ur head, but as an objective outsider, thats what it looks like...in any case, u said he had unfinished biz? meaning an ex? maybe he needs time to sort out his feelings and choose btwn u two, but then again, why would u give him all the power to choose? Plus, u cannot "push" someone into caring about u in that way or even realizing what u have. Absence makes the heart grow fonder...so maybe after a while apart, he'll realize what he lost, or u'll realize that he wasn't the right one...give him the space he needs, b/c the more u try convincin ppl of something, the more they rebel...good luck

"Huffing and puffing a talking about Desparados, puggy things, women in men's toilets, Gucci suits and a bunch of other nonsense that has gotten us NOWHERE." THAT, my dear caveman, is called, sense of humour and lightening up the case, and what u are doing is just plain boring nonsense, see the dif? one is entertaining, the other is just a drag...no pun intented, ever dress up? in san fran?

lol Mombasa, so as i suspected the "friend" was u huh, cool, cool...so now he expressed interest in u, be urself...exchange ideas, see what he's like, ask question that are important to u, like what he sees himself doing in the future, etc...so exciting!!! ..im happy for u...ur crush love is returned, now make the best of it...

Bambina, don't listen to those that take away ur right to say whatever u want to say or choose to disclose in a chatroom. NO, ur not responsible for someone calling u awful name, and NO, the dambi, is all on his side, u didnt make him do anything, and NO, u don't have to state ur gender, location, age, anything else, its all up to u...can't believe ppl are putting the blame on ur for excercising ur rights to do as u please! :mad: ..the nerve It has happened to everyone me as well, and if i go to chatroom, i go there to speak in the general public, not to be bothered in a one on one session when i have absolutely no desire to talk to anyone in private. As someone else suggested it, block all ur privates, and only speak to those u want to, and speak in the general public room if u don't want to be stuck in a luuq with annoying questions. Sometimes they go so far as to ask ur address, fone, sexual history if at all, etc, etc, etc,...which is a reason i despise private rooms, because that is none of their biz to begin with and NO, a virtual stranger doesnt deserve any answer from me, for whatever reason, its my prerogative, as Bobby Brown said in the 80's. cheers!