It has to be a joke, because no one on their right mind would stay home waiting for a hand-out from dear hubby. with that attitude, Hubby's coming home late...and drunk. Your husband, is just your husband. Your husband isn't your parent, he is your husband, ...and regretting ever living minute of it. I don't respect housewives, I will never ever respect housewives, diddo...I think they feel the same about you. My mother was a hard-working mother, who raised great children, while she juggled career and family. If my mother can do it, I am sure I can, if my mother can do it, I am sure all women can. ...and where was dad? Imagine, giving away that freedom, and waiting to depend on your husband so come payday, he will share another portion of his earning with another lazy human being waiting for a handout ...yeah, thats almost as bad as sharing a bed with him or...(god forbid) ...bearing his children. Where's Pyshco Sue? I wanna know which poor guy she she would match up with this prize.

Ginobili is dunking on Wallace TONIGHT.

Originally posted by sucdi: ^ Kuma aqaani laakiin soo dhawow walaal LOL...thats funny...it sounds like he startled you. BOB, if you just got back...who the hell has been narating the SOL awards?

Checkmate, you have been misinformed...if there's no murder-suicide in the 1st year, I'll have her smiling till she's 90.

Checkmate, waa soo dahdey...I'm putting out a fire here. here's a joke to change the tense mood in here: A young boy went up to his father and asked him, "Dad, what is the difference between potentially and realistically?" The father thought for a moment, then answered, "Go ask your mother if she would sleep with Robert Redford for a million dollars. Then ask your sister if she would sleep with Brad Pitt for a million dollars, and ask your brother if he`d sleep with Tom Cruise for a million dollars. Come back and tell me what you learn from that." So the boy went to his mother and asked, "Would you sleep with Robert Redford for a million dollars?" The mother replied, "Of course I would! We could really use that money to fix up the house and send you kids to a great college!" The boy then went to his sister and asked, "Would you sleep with Brad Pitt for a million dollars?" The girl replied, "Oh my God! I LOVE Brad Pitt! I would sleep with him in a heartbeat, are you nuts?!?!?" The boy then went to his brother and asked, "Would you sleep with Tom Cruise for a million dollars?" "Of course," the brother replied. "Do you know how much a million could buy?" The boy pondered that for a few days, then went back to his dad. His father asked him, "Did you find out the difference between potentially and realistically?" The boy replied, "Yes, sir. Potentially, we`re sitting on three million dollars, but realistically, we`re living with two sIuts and a queer."

Xoogsade, I have a lot respect for your point of view on this matter and that of Athena who made some incredibly valid points on the issue. I agree being a busybody in peoples affairs is a major contributor to broken hearts and households. I've said on numerous occasions that spearding hearsay and slander was not the focus of my question. However I think someone might agree with me when I say deception and truth economics are another contributor to heartbreak. We all lie to become something that might be acceptable to our partners and sometimes when the truth emerges later on it is either minor enough to adapt to to or major enough to split things. The natural course of things should not be interrupted but as a friend or relative There are things of certain importance that I may feel necessary to share with them. Some of you seem content to stand by and watch accidents about to happen...its like a lab experiment...sit and take notes. Lets all agree to disagree on the matter and move on. Athena, peace.

You're blowing with the wind afro.

Point taken. however I choose to maintain my stand on the matter. on your second point...isn't this the pot calling the kettle black? I'm sure you are aware you're the queen of low-blows and snide remarks....I just can't be bothered to dig into old posts to get some evidence right now...but when I have some time I'll do some research.

Do you tell your freind of a girl who has made mistakes in the past. you give us a curve ball and now all over sudden it is 'Well if he didnt know but you know'. why would you be telling your friend if he knew? I don't speak "dummy" so explain this to me in english.

I'll type this slowly cause I know you can't read fast.... but you know this girl and she has "made mistakes" in the past meaning you (afro) have information (not rumours but actual facts) - write this down on a note book. "if you had info that he/she didn't" Now read this quote and look at the notes you just took...that same information is the one your friend does not have.... recap: you know....she knows...your boy doesn't know. Study hard...pop quiz at the end of the hour.

FF, according to Sue?...is this the same Sue who get's lottery numbers and stock tips from the birds in the trees? by the way, I'm always ready p.s. Your list would happen: -only if slipped on the wet floor a accidentally dropped the jacket on the puddle (which you can be nice enuff to pick up and say "oh, don't worry, honey I'll drop it off at the cleaners for you) -Only if you can return the favour when the Spurs kick Detroits a$$ tomorrow night (only way I'd find pleasure in it is knowing I'd rather slave over a hot stove than watch oprah anyday) -I'll hand 'a' paycheck....not necessarily 'the' paycheck... -I'll catch a Stray bullet for you anyday -We already do that...you don't honestly believe you won any argument on merit do you?

Warya, afro what are smoking???? :confused: those "made in China" grammar books are messing you up.

What the....? Haven't been here in a while....I missed out on all this.... FF, Thats gotta be the funniest day dream I've heard in while.... or I could be totally wrong and you could be a catch of "Taj Mahal" proportions.

K, it's one of those feelings like when you think someones watching you, but no ones there....wouldn't go so far as to call it a quick assumption. Afro, Like I said before, you're reading into this way too much....the question was "if you had info that he/she didn't" and I like how the examples become so extreme about terminal illnesses, serial murders and tranvestites(sp).... I need to chat with my imaginary friends and make sure they're not keeping some vital 411 from me....

Easy there K, lets not get ahead of ourselves, These are not an indication of some1’s real persona or how they will behave with the new person. When so and so is suffering from multiple personality disorder and is an innocent mild mannered hijabi in his presence and is a mini-skirt wearing raver on weekend nights, There is a real problem. Because She's (or he if he fronts the nice decent guy and goes on weekend chew marathons) is presenting themselves under a veil of deception. I just got this feeling that I'm trying to prove the evils of interest and usury to a bunch of bankers... not an indication of some1’s real persona no? what is it then?

I'm talking about what information you would feel necessary to share with a friend....present or past.

Baashi, waa kufahmay. buuga isku page noma furno. Manta hadan suuqa kaaga hor imaado oo aan kudhaho "Adeer, laab kaan god weyn aa kuyaalo ee iska jir" ama aan kudhaho "maqayadaan muufadeeda hadaad cuntid shuban aa kawareege"...mawaxaa ileedahay hadaan lagu weeydiin hasheegin? Saaxib, I'm not talking about sticking my nose where its not needed...and I'm not talking life or death issues such as you heart-breaking story. But Where's the brotherhood? don't you have to the duty to say "I ran into your hijabi girl at a club last night and she was the dancehall queen"? I may be the only one here but if I'm contemplating a halal union with this girl I don't want it to be under deceptive circumstances. Am I the only one who would look out for a friend? Too many quiet nomads...time to weight in with some opinions

I guess there was no incident with my entry... I stepped out off my scooter and the 2 sentries, dropped the mics and ran for cover.

Afro, there no such thing as sole candidate... Since their train of logical thought derailed, the nomination comittee decided to construct a structure to vilify me. The only problem is that they have tunnel vision so waiting for them to see "the big picture" is a lost cause. So away they went starting with a slanted foundation and building on it with paranoid, misconceptions and sweeping general statements. They managed to bundle all woman-kind into one group and slapped me as enemy #1. I personally think I've been pointing out faults in their programming and hitting nerves since day one and the only retort they could come up with as a union was...Caveman. ....ah they make my work day so interesting. by the way, a few defected. I think DA probably has 2 kids and a minivan by now

***hmmm where should I begin?*** Hibo, forgiving is an excellent value in a human and I applaude you for it however we have detoured from the issue - gone on a tangent. I'm against Secrecy and deception and if that sounds holier-than-thou struting on a high horse then so be it. Looks like its becoming fashionable to say "these things happen let live and let live"...Since I'm working towards the Mr. Caveman (2005) I'll forgo the fashion norms stick with calling a spade a spade... If that makes me the only one here who see's this whole issue as a matter of honesty, then I wear it like a badge of honour. Thank you and have a nice day *** now serving #72 at window 8 *** Well well well, Ms. Kaleido... you're becoming the Ken Starr to My Bill Clinton. One track mind you say, well atleast I'm still on track, you derailed a long time ago. And as you recall the awards were approved by the militant wing and issued by the political wing of the now disbanded Confused Femininsts of the World (CFW). Who'll be giving out the awards this year? you?

Hibo, so if I committed some sins too, then its all ok? lets all be sinners and chill together. I agree Allah Kariim forgives and judgement is not up to us...however, recognizing whats wrong and speaking up against it should not be critized here by those who fear having a finger pointed at them.

Afro, you know how it goes. a lot of spin doctors are in our midst. information starts leaking, suspicions arise and before you know it, the whole mission is in trouble and you're sitting before a commitee: "What do you mean there's no weapons of mass destruction?"

By many gurls I know. girl, What kind of company are you keeping? There is this distant relative of mine, who have done all the men in the world, name any nationality and she did him, is now a religious preacher and the mother of 4 children. The happiness in her house can relatively be compared to heaven. Hibo, even a broken clock is right twice a day. and it sounds to me like you're condoning the behaviour - "Do whatever you want, you can repent later"... Would it be too wrong to assume the people with skeletons in thier closets are the ones who are against this sharing of information? Wouldn't want a 'leaked memo' tarnishing the 'Ms. sweet & innocent"/ "Mr. Decent and honourable" image that they spent all this energy fronting. P.S. Smilez is on the job with that men to avoid list

Slander: slan·der ( P ) Law. *Oral communication of false statements injurious to a person's reputation. *A false and malicious statement or report about someone preconceived notion about her might be wrong Going back to the original question....I didn't say make sh!t up and I didn't say speard rumours... Facts, stuff YOU know. That doesn't count as slander.

The cliche you cant turn a .... into a housewife, has been proven wrong Proven wrong by who??? This all depends on how well you know your friend. Snitching on the sleazbag may cause more damage than you think. If the brother is whipped and wrapped around her pinkie finger, do you think he will pay any heed to your warnings? If anything your intentions of "looking out" will put a wedge in your friendship. Sometimes silence is golden, let him find out on his own and make his own decision on whether to stay or leave. Regardless of the outcome, say your peice.... Lying is done with words and also with silence....open the book. Y'all just love having skeletons in your closets...open a window and let some light in