"post traumatic stress disorder and other mental problems" Kulaha. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. Madfac iyo isbaaro iyo qax iyo utaange iyo ifo iyo kakuma iyo muqlas iyo "I have no papers" aa inta soo martay aa hada "you Ni99a" kuxanuunsatay miyaa.... LOOOOL American Dream!!!!! p.s. Lacagtaas hadaad heshid waa xaraan!

Fear of public speaking stems from a slight lack of confidence not in yourself but in the presentation you're about to give. If you rushed your content or you have all the info but you didn't take the time to put it together well, you'll always run into stage fright. So the best and most impressive way to over come it is to know your stuff, inside out, front to back (not just memorized but understood). Then DO NOT have sheets of paper at the podium - Have ONE card in hand that has the main ideas (the rest comes from you because you're now and authority on the matter). Also have a clicky pen in the other hand (empty hands tend to have a mind of their own) the last thing you want to do is touch any part of your face/ear/chin. Don't stand behind the podium, card in one hand pen in the other, start of beside the podium and move around, it will change your scenery and you can focus on different people. After every section ask the audience if the have questions, this makes it more interactive and saves you from the flurry of questions at the end. Bottom line, if you don't know what you're taking about, you're screwed! So just Breathe.

Originally posted by Northerner: Tomorrow i will be going to work. Bal ii soo duceeya! You're just going to work now? what the h@ll have you been doing till now? and don't say "I was a student"

Lets start a "Prediction Chart" I Predict, France threatens to withhold some AID and all the kidnappers are "released due to lack of proper evidence"

Child trafficking is a multi-billion dollar business. European and Middle-eastern pedophile need their supply of fresh African children. Wasn't there a story about boat-loads of kids disappearing from Somalia a few years ago?

Randy Jackson? who's that?

Out of a movie? must be the same movie with the faarax you're looking for p.s. Thanks for the inquiry, but I own my business...and I fired that b!tch last week.

Originally posted by Valenteenah: I bet you fantasise about that old Somali tale of the perfect raaliyo. The one where she waits for her husband to return home with a jug of milk in one hand, a belt in the other and with her googarad duluc held with her teeth because she doesn't know what he would like to do first - drink the milk, beat her silly or shag her. Bal candhuuftaada dib u liq, sidani si ma'aha ee! Val, I'd pick her over the suit-wearing, blackberry-toting, success-hungry, cold-hearted corporate uber-b!tch anyday of the week. And there was a mention of "eediots". LOL I love those girls, very open-minded and don't automatically assume I'm lying when I whisper in their ear. Daria, we understand each other, no?

if he is turning the tide on us telling us that we have the problem and need to fix up like we lack something isn’t he the selfish one looking out for his self interest hence me me me? Yareey, its clear you didn't think this through. rambling on. But I think what you're trying to say is "If I want to change how you think and behave, I'm doing it for my own self-interest and thats selfish". That's gotta be the weakest come-back in history. Since you sound like you just hopped off the short bus from school, let me make my point in different words (or as they say in Af Somali - Far waweyn aan kuugu qoraa) The whole premise of this thread is "SOME women (for whatever reason) cannot find a man". You reword that as "these available men ain't shyt". So if you pick up your crayon and connect the dots you'll see that its THOSE women that have the problem. I don't see any of the guys running around complaining there's no women out there. Reverse Psychology Kulaha...hahahaha. Why not ask yourself why are the Somali man tailing behind their counterparts? This seems to be coming up quite a bit in this thread. Firstly, Trailing in what? Secondly, Who are these elusive unnamed counterparts? The Somali man in this day and age is not only educated and naturally talented, but is also excelling in every field. You probably haven't seen those faraaxs because we don't spend our time bragging and we've become pretty good at staying away from problem-laden drama queens. Allah ha kusahlo, its gonna be hard to get too far if you can't take criticism or admit you might have traits that need fixing.

Trevor, I've been to quite a few tuulos but I have no idea where Swansea is. Besides, why aa suuqa iga xiree? Xaliimo isma naqaano, wiika ee sinta kusido na madhalin.

Originally posted by -Serenity-: UnderDog, thats what I'm talking about. If one is going to air their insecurities, at least they should mask them as negative attributes. Maybe you should direct this comment at the lil girl up there who's under the impression "b!tchines" is something she should be proud of.

Lagging behind who? not whipped enough for you? not faggy enough for you? Low life farax kulaha, waa fasaxantahay, you couldn't handle farax if you wanted to!

Serenity, I was trying hard to ignore this whole thread but you just had to ask for my input. Well here it is. Disagreeing with my POV is only acceptable if you keep it yourself. Should you choose to voice your disapproval, take a number and make your way to the back of the "Kiss my A$$" line. Firstly, who came up with this connection between desirability and education? I've seen some of these so-called educated women and I can tell you now the problem is NOT their degrees. The problem is Selfishness, bad attitude, culture confusion and the personality of a barbed-wire fence. Here's some free advice: If you can't see yourself putting your husband and your children first and sacrificing yourself for their happiness, you deserve what you get (which is usually squat). So stop shifting blame and fix yourself. Educated or not, there's a multitude of women out here who understand what it would take for them to be appreciated and loved and the first step towards that is leaving the "me me me" attitude at the door. ...and you better believe that!

Don't even go to the banks in T.O. Xawilaada kasarifo. I went into Chapters on Richmond and tried to buy some books with US$. caused a bit of a commotion. The books are all clearly labeled with both US and Canadian $ prices but they would not take the US Dollar.

Soonkiina waaka shakiye, weligay mamqlin dad wada sooman oo canjeero iyo beer iyo baris iyo doroo iskugu faanaayo. you should change the question to "what are you craving right now?" LOL

Originally posted by AAliyah416: How she dresses shouldn't be discussed, it is her business how she is going to dress, who she is going to date etc.(am sure none of you would be happy if today some one was to tell you how to live ur life, so put yrself in her shoes) The main thing is her parents are forcing her to marry nin ayna garaneen, and that is haraam.... stop feeling sorry for the brother back home , he is prolly happy with this whole thing. It is her right to live her life the way she sees fit, and her parents took that from her. I hope they pay for it. (that way other parents will be discouraged from doing such inhumane acts). You can preach some one or try to correct them, but forcing them is out of the question. I fully agree... HOWEVER... Aren't we forgetting a major point here? Taking responsibility for the consequences of your action. 1)The girl did what her heart told her to do. Without getting into the 'right and wrong' of her decision, her action caused a consequence (in this case an extreme reaction from a parent). So REGARDLESS OF WHO'S RIGHT AND WHO'S WRONG, The girl HAS TO SHOULDER the RESPONSIBILITY of her life choices and also WHERE THEY HAVE GOTTEN HER. The Mother has to take responsibility of the current situation as a direct result how reacted to what her girl did and now her reaction just created a 12-page thread on SOL. So we can all sit here and point fingers all day and try to blame her or him or this or that or saan ee eheed iyo xagay kadhacday BOTTOM LINE IS YOU CAN CHOOSE YOU ACTIONS BUT YOU CAN NOT CHOOSE HOW ANYONE REACTS TO IT. SO WHETHER YOUR ACTIONS ARE RIGHT OR WRONG, DEAL WITH THE CONSEQUENCES

I didn't call them sl#ts, I said the were dressed as such.

Originally posted by LayZieGirl: How is he innocent? Maybe he was told about her before he agreed to marry her, maybe asaga ulterior motive uu qabaa oo wuxuu rabaa inuu somaliya kasoo baxo, soo marrying "canadian citizen" is exactly what he has been waiting for, tainted or not. Lazyie, you gotta be kidding me? are you REALLY trying to compare facts with maybes? you trying to equate Knowing for a FACT the girl is damaged goods with chance that faarax MAYBE/POSSIBLY is just as bad. Gimme a break! You're trying a little too hard, but the girls the only one with real dirt on her. Originally posted by LayZieGirl: Are you telling me a non muslim lady hadey ku joojiso in the middle of the street and asks you for help, you wouldn't lift a finger because she is not dressed to your liking or the fact that she is not a muslim will play a role in your decision to help? What kind of BS is that This is the kind of BS it is: On the one hand there's sl#ttly dressed non muslim woman and on the other there's a sl#ttly dressed xalimo. One of them is unaware and ignorant, the other is ignoring what she knows and 'of loose moral fortitude'. Which one do you think would deserve to be helped?

The real question is: Is it Immoral to print your own bills if you have the technology?

I think this is prime example of the mass confusion of trying to live in Europe and North America and still hold on to every piece of your Somali culture. - I'll dress like them but I'm not them - I'll talk like them but I'm not them - I'll party like them but I'm not them - I'll date them but it's just temporary That's the cost of admission for coming here. You want health care, free education, social assistance, security and the illusion of progress, come right in. BUT none of them bothered to read the fine print. - you can do whatever you want as long as WE approve of it - Feel free to practice your religion but keep it to yourself - If you see something you think is wrong, its right to the next guy who's got as much right as you. So shut it and move on. - The hierarchy of protectionist rights is as follows; Kids then pets then women then alternative lifestyle men then tangible assets then intellectual assets then wild animals then real men. Any conflict between two or more of the protected groups and the higher one on the list automatically wins. - We highly encourage the cross-breeding of culture and we'll automatically provide any support need. so please proceed to your nearest ghetto and enjoy your new home.

Yareey, I don't need permission to say whats on my mind. Incase you missed it there's a shortage of decency in the whole situation. The girl's allegedly in jail on some trumped up charges (how very Guantanamo of them) and like the arabs in the orange suits, she doesn't get to call anyone. Now, if can get past my crude humor, lets move on to pointing fingers. The girl is raised in the west and taught all people are equal yada yada yada... and it all good until she brings Haile home to Mom. Is she at fault? I personally don't think so. she didn't know any better and now she's up sh!t's creek with no paddle caught in something a lot bigger than her. Then you got hooyo, who's trying to put out a fire after the house has burned down....you raise the girl liberal then try some conservative bullsh!t like throwing her in jail if she don't marry some guy she just met. I'm putting most of the blame on Mom. As for me, Lazie, I really don't see much to be saddened about, as wise man once said "Worse sh!t's happened to better people" and thats my 2 cents on the issue....and I still think caps are gonna be busted when she decides to piss off new hubby (who's cousin got smoked by Ethi invaders) by saying some bullsh!t about her ex.

Layzie come on now!!!! In this particular case and with the info we currently have, we KNOW her closet's stacked and you ASSUME there's something in his. I'm not saying its right to hold her against her will. As a matter of fact the true crime is being perpetrated against the groom who's being saddled with a woman who don't want him. p.s. How long does Stockholm syndrome take to set in? By the way, My closet is spotless. Pure like the driven snow. ...and you better believe that!

Ain't this some sh!t???? Better question is "Maskiinka Somaliyeed oo gabadha lasiiye, does he know she been shacked up with an amxar for a few years?" I wonder how her scheming-a$$ mother sold this story to him. Now you know her dumb a$$ will say some suicidal sh!t on the wedding night like "My ex Mingistu hit it better than you."

FIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIQ!!!!!!!!!! KOOL KAT (a.k.a the only one who didn't get the memo about the death of feminism) LAYZIE (a.k.a the only one who didn't get the memo italics ain't cute anymore) TUUJIYE (a.k.a the one sending out all the damn memos) KULIGIIN Oh yeah, and Ayaan Hirsi for looking raggedy (a little chap-stick never hurt anyone)

Blame it on fear of black people (Tampa, Florida) State Rep. Bob Allen ® has a bizarre excuse for being charged with offering a male cop $20 for oral sex in a washroom at a park. He was busted last month in a sting at Veteran's Memorial Park in Titusville, Florida. (story) In taped statements made by Allen to police following his arrest and released by the force Allen admits to soliciting the male officer but claims that it was the result of being nervous by the high number of black men in the park. "I certainly wasn't there to have sex with anybody and certainly wasn't there to exchange money for it," Allen told officers. Of the arresting officer Allen said in the tape, "This was a pretty stocky black guy, and there was nothing but other black guys around in the park." He claimed he feared he "was about to be a statistic" would have said anything just to get away. But on the tape Allen also admits warning the undercover cop that "undercover cops" were in the area and the man should be careful. "I said they're around here, you ought to know about that." He only realized he was talking to an officer when he flashed his badge. The arresting officer's handwritten report on the arrest also was released by the force. Titusville Officer Danny Kavanaugh who was on plainclothes duty says he observed Allen entering the washroom twice. Kavanaugh said he was drying his hands in a stall when Allen peered over the stall door. The officer's report said that after peering over the stall a second time, Allen pushed open the door and joined Kavanaugh inside. Allen muttered "'hi,'v" and then said, "'this is kind of a public place, isn't it,'" the report said. Kavanaugh wrote that he asked Allen about going somewhere else and Allen suggested going "across the bridge, it's quieter over there." "Well look, man, I'm trying to make some money; you think you can hook me up with 20 bucks?" Kavanaugh wrote in the report that he had asked Allen. The Republican lawmaker, the report said, replied, "Sure, I can do that, but this place is too public." According to Kavanaugh's statement, the officer said, "do you want just (oral sex)?" and Allen replied, "I was thinking you would want one." It was at that point Allen was arrested. Ironically, Allen was the Police Union's 2007 Lawmaker of the Year. In the last session of the Florida legislature he sponsored a failed bill that would have tightened the state's prohibition on public sex. He also has been a supporter of amending the state constitution to ban same-sex marriage and has opposed a bill to curb bullying of gay students. Allen has been charged with solicitation for prostitution, which has a maximum penalty of one year in jail. Prior to his arrest Allen was a co-chair of Sen. John McCain's presidential campaign in Florida, a position he has since resigned.