Asalaamu alaikum Modesty you are right sister most Somali weddings are like clubs, since all Somalis that live in that city are basically invited . The pride’s family are gonna invite farah and xaliimo, and that farah and xaliimo are going to invite another xaliimo and farah and before you know it the whole city is coming to the wedding :mad: . To be honest it is the fact that most Somalis are some way related. How can we solve that dilemma?? Well I thought maybe you should make invitation card and just giving to yr close relatives, friends, and co-owerkers. To ensure everyone that comes in have invitation card u can have a body guard at the front of the hotel. I guess that’s all I can think of, however by the time I get married I am sure I will have the perfect plan, modesty u aint the only one whose so perplexed with the way Somalis organize their weddings :confused: insha-allah in the near future things will change as we come to realize that us somalis do not understand the meaning of wedding? like what is the different between a somali wedding and normal party? guess no'in :rolleyes: Wa salam alaikum

Asalaamu alaikum ye all, regarding this topic about what is the most challenging about men. I don’t think there is no’in much that is challenging abt men; personally speaking men are easy to handle . I disagree with ibtisaam’s comments about men sweet talking women and moving fast. Since, it depends how women present themselves and to what degree they persuade their men. Evidently, the more you smile at them and flirt the faster dey make a move on u, but den how can u say that is a challenge when you are the one who is letting them move on um it is like burning yr house, and den complaining how yr house was destroying oxymoron if u ask me :rolleyes: . Anyways that is my 2 cent , and yes without doubt you can not stereotype.There is men out there that will have a respect for you as their Muslim sister and respect when you draw the line.No offense to you ibtisaam but walahi i have seen somali girls dissing somali guys , and vice versa.Is this an excuse just so us somali peeps will hook up with other races?? i am just curious. :confused: Ibtisaam trust me girl there is nice brothers out there, you just need to keep your eyes open. Wa salaam alaikum.

Asalaamu alaikum Cambaro sister your idea does serve its purpose of brining those who cant find suitable partners in where they are. However, our culture is too strong and a girl looking for a man through some Islamic organization does certainly sound desperate from cultural perspective. Honestly, from my perspective, it doesn’t matter where you meet a man as long as he is the one you were looking for . By the way, you are right it is hard to find a man who really practices Islam the way he should be , but tell yr friends don’t give up. On top of that I am sure you guys can work with the farahs who are available, maybe preach them on the 1st date and the 2nd and the third lol eventually they will become practicing Muslims Wa salaam

Asalaamu alaikum When I read this post. Walahi it made me cry. But, I have no memory of what I use to do back when I was younger :mad: . However, from the day that I matured till today I have always been here for my mom , as much as she is been here for me. Alhamdu lilaah I will strive harder to make her happy as long as I live. Nabiga csw wuxu yidhi “ janada waxay tahay hoosta lugaha hoyooyinka†>>ina janatu taxta aqdaama umahaat. Which reminds us how important it is to please our mothers. Remember this hadith whenever you get angry at your mom or vice versa. And do bear in mind if ur mom ever tells you something and you think it is not the right thing for you, just let her know without being hard on her, because you know your mom wants the best for you. on top of it she was pregnant with us for 9 months , it is beyond my comprehension how can we not always be there for her? :confused: Wa salaam.

Asalaaamu alaikum u all Marriage should be build on love, co-operation, and being with one another regardless of what the situation might be, no matter how stimulating, no matter how painful. That is what I call a true love From my perspective, I don’t think romance should fade away after marriage. Kids should not come between two people, it is totally wrong for couple to just go apart once they have kids. Since having kids indicates more blessing. Basically having kids gives the marriage a whole new meaning. In a sense their love should strength not weaken? :mad: In most Somali families you wouldn’t see the couple being romantic (specially I am referring to those in our parents age group), however I think the reason is that their marriage is in most cases arranged marriage, and that they were not in love with one another initially. Other than the obvious reason of only co-oping with one another for the sake of their children :rolleyes: . That might not be the reason in most cases, there is also other explanations. For instance, it could be the fact that the parents are so busy making their living, like both parents holding full time jobs, and every day coming home exhausted as it happens with many Somali families. Since life is really expensive, both parents are forced to work and support one another financially right. Last but not least, love starts a relationship, grows after marriage and comes to its fullest when kids are added to the family Until next time Wa salaaam