Tone I asked what you got to offer , I neither accepted nor declined. By the way cambaro u got it ,,,he needs to show me what he got 2 offer . wa salaaam p.s. tone intaan isa shukaansan bal horta qalin iyo warqad so qado aan ku bare somali

sis he gota be all this : 1- relegious 2-educated 3- some one whose easy going, with a nice personality. 4-he gota be good looking ...nin qurxbadan oo dheer oo muruqya waween hehe thats my dream man kolay :cool: If he got all that u are good to go sis, what more is out there to look for I guess just to make sure he is all that u can ask around , gabadh weydii wiilkale weydiinasa before u know ...u know tons of things abt em maybe more then u even need 2 know. You know somalis luv to go on an on with the details they wont leave anything out.... til later. wa salaaam. p.s. Devilangle what u mean by " *make sure he still lives with this family! " are u saying he has to live with his family? what for ? the guy could be a man who lives on his own?? why would that even matter is beyond me. :confused:

War maxaad isku heysa Tone ---warka ikala dhigdhig ...get hitched hano danbeese wa salaam

loooool if i was dating that man, as soon as i hear his ex is in his house i would have been outa of that relationship.period. wa salaam

lol u guys i thought i only posted like twice...something is wrong with this website, it is so dam slow that i thought i didnt posted anything...lol i am alright nothing is wrong with me. wa salaam

I mean somaliaonline chat room

By the way whats wrong with somalitalk chat room ? that place is empty 24/7..come on ppl come online . I am bored wanna pass tyme. wa salaam

lol and here i am trying to convince u i was wondering why u were asking the same question over and over. wa salaam

Warheedhe yr computer is messed up waxan is idhi is he on qaad kidding. insha-allah everything will work out for the best ofcourse halaal duh. wa salaam

I cant choose one over the other ,, i have to marry for both , i cant just get a relegious brother and go oh i am gonna marry u for Allah lol I have to feel something for him aint it? wa salaam

well I meant love for the individual ofcourse, bt everything should be for the sake of Allah swt, in terms of making sure that man is relgious and practices his relegion fully. wa salaam

well I agree with the fact that you have to talk to yr family and make them see that it is tribilism is irrelevant , I always take that ayah in the quran that goes we made u of nations and tribes to get to know one another, and the best of u is that individual with taqwa "ina akramakum cinda laahi atqaakum. that shuts my mom lol ofcourse she finds some way to make yr point, how that guy from the same tribe will treat me like no other bla bla bla....as for love..I believe in it , I will never marry unless it if for love. wa salaaam

well when I said move away from yr i didnt meant like move away and just stop contacting yr family all together, Just move away that way they wont be in yr case 24/7 na'mean? and yes if it doesnt work out ofcourse u gonna come back to yr family where else u gonna go, and yeh they gonna have u back cuz they are yr family lol. Brother you gota point in terms of asking yr family for advice and asking them hey I like this guy what u guys think of him, bt most of the time it has nothing to do with the guy it has something to do with his family. Like honestly this is what my mom always says " ninka reerkiisa eeg asaga kaliya ma ahe" ,,,as if i was marrying the whole family ..wa yaabe familigisa maxa iga shan iyo toban. Anyways, I wouldn't count on taking the guy/girl your family chooses, cuz that would even increase divorce rather then decreasing it , cuz the family will not judge the guy for who he is , they are just going to check if he came from a good family. bt then who defines what good family is ??? in most cases good family simply means he is from the same tribe . Most families would rather see their daughter with a guy from the same tribe doesnt matter if he is relegious or not, and they would certainly choose him over a relegious brother from another tribe, cuz they gonna be like ..marka dhib dhacdo ya lo tagaya ?? reerkisa soma aha , hadaan reerka aqoon dhib weeye lol just qouting my elders, but I dont agree with them . wa salaam

Dabshid I agree with you that somali families play crucial role in marraige break down. My own uncle was crazy in love with this girl who happen to be from another tribe,which both of their families was not supportive. After six years , and having three kids he is divorced, I couldnt believe it giving that I knew the depth of their love. But I think his and her family consistently not being supportive ended their relationship u knoow how somali families could be....i would say if you get married to some one that yur families are not happy with then move move to another country, otherwise they will consistently talk shit abt u, and perhaps it will get to u at the end. wa salaam

Lulla subahanalah sis is everyone in yr family getting divorced or what? anyways let yr sisters know that just cuz they are divorced doesnt mean they cant get another man, if allah wills they will. They have two options , one is to actually work things out with their man, and give him a chance to change his current behaviors, if he is not willing to change then the hell with him, they have the other option of obtaining a divorce, and u know what everything is calaf , u neva know... Abaadir walaal what u mean how do i know it, everyone knows that once u get married u are actually taking a huge responsibility, and u should get married when u are only ready for it. As a husband/wive there is certain rules that you have to follow as a muslim individual , u must know yr rights yr responsiblities and so on and so forth, there is certain maturity that one has to reveal before just getting married. Also u shouldnt just get married to anyone u must know is he going to take care of me? is he going to provide for my kids ??As lulla just mentioned one of her sisters is actually married to a guy who wont provide for his children , now i am sure if the sister was more careful when she was selecting a husband she could have foreseen the guy was just a player..and as soon as kids get in the way would be like "oh i aint ready for a kid" ...you see know what i mean someone has to understand the concept of marriage, why would one get married if they wont provide for their kids?? . Thats my 2 cent for now til later. wa salaam

Divorce rate is increasing nowadays, and I think it is probably due to the fact that ppl just get married without understanding fully the whole concept of marriage. Marriage is not just getting married to some one , it is a lot more than that. You must be ready for all the responsiblity that comes with it, lota ppl think getting married is all abt having a blast with mr/mizz right, and believe it could turn out that way, but only if u solve all the challenges that comes with it and not just walk out as some sort of obstacle gets on the way. One should understand getting married is all about being there for one another at hard times, not just good times. I would say the best thing is work with what u got , specially if there is children involved. I have seen tons of somalis getting divorced nowadays, and honestly most somali kids that I have seen that lost their culture/language/relegion is all due to the fact that their parents are divorced, and it has also been proved that children of parents who are divorced do poorly acadamically. wa salaaam p.s. Marriage is not an easy matter so dont rush to it. peace.

Abdulatif lol I am not saying there aint out there brothers who can cook and know their ways around the kitchen.But, Most of them dont cook, or even if they can cook would prefer to not.Anyways, look at every culture women tend to cook, walahi i know many cadaan families and their mom cooks, so lemme say it out and clear it aint civilization for us somali sisters to suddenly act as if its a big issue to cook, every one does in ever culture so live with it, and if u get a brother who can cook with u it is awesome, bt dont count on it. wa salaaam

Nomadic princess lol sis I know how ye feel, I was always tall myself. Anyways, I am yet to c any one who lies about their age, they either know it, or don’t. Ultimately, age is nothing but a number. wa salaam

I was so shocked last time when i read this post that was abt some farah getting married to two wives, it acutally took place in Hargeysa...and i was shocked like i have never heard such thing. But, since then i am not surprised if one would get married to three @ one night. Even though I really feel sorry for those girls, for I am sure they were not willing . wa salaamu alaikum p.s. marrying three wives at one night is haraaaam.

labaan la yaabanaya hadana sadex makeneen in ay hal habeen la aqan galaan subhanalaah...maalinba waxbaad arki.... wa salaamu alaikum.

I certainly agree with Mujahid. it is awesome to do things together. bt for the most part somali guys don't like to be told to cook or do any household chores.....I guess we will have to live with it. I am not saying I dont prefer a guy who can cook, bt it shouldn't be a priority. shaah uun karin kara haduu dhaho u gota be lucky I am telling ye. wa salaam

lol i am yet to c anyone who swims with dirac..guess i should check london out . wa salaam

To be honest, in most cases somali women still work on themselves after marriage. Those i c on daily basis dress accordingly and take care of their kids in the best way possible, we should give credits to our moms. However, there are some who sort forget about their looks and once they get married go like " ninki wa guursaday caruur baan u dhalay maxakalo raba" i guess that could be one of the factors why some somali fathers totally lose interest in their wives and look support from otha farahs, and basically sit @ the maqaahi and chew qaad 24/7. As cambaro pointed out its all about somali women and how they present themselves, somaliduna waxay ku maahmaahda naaqwalba ninkeeda say rabto yada ka dhigata (Okey maybe nt exactly those words bt something along those lines) wa salaaam

Originally posted by Mujaahid: Red Sea: Only there is no nation called Somalia anymore, Somalia, All of 200 countries of the world recognize Somalia, markaa Somalia aqoonsi kaakama baahne xaasidnimada jooji

Bad Cas Walaalow, hadii dhibaatada walaalahaa ku danqasu, maad horta Somaliland canbaareesid, sababta ee xabashi ugu daawanayaan walaalahood somalida, reer somaliland waaba ka dareen oo calankiiba waa gubeen, taas waa nin dhibaata qaba dhibaata ugu dar Bad cas, waxaan kaa rajeenayaa inaadan kudarsamin dadka calanka nasiibkadran qubaya