I agree that the couple should get tested before they get married. It is just for health reasons, has nothing to do with trust. wa salaamu alaikum

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saamiicaalaahu liiman xaantuu.... waxayba ubadaleen ilaahay wa maqla cidii wax xamata that had me laughing ... Xanthus,Ngonge was just helping u out hun. so, don't be hard on him. Jacaylbaro was actually trying to make fun of your somali, which I am sure improved by now. so show him waxaad so baratay wa salaamu alaikum

Also, let’s not make it sound like we’ll only have two children, right after each other and we’ll be out of work for 5 years or so. No, in reality, we as Somalis tend to have slightly larger families than the 1.6 or 2.5 depending on which western nation you reside. Not to mention for most of your child rearing age mid 20s to late 30s, you’ll probably have a child under school age. That is a long time to be out of work, trying to get back into the work force after that is extremely difficult. I will have two or maybe even three children insha-allah. Since, I want to have the best of both worlds. I believe in having a career, and actually perusing post secondary education at this time. I want to have a career and yet make sure that I am there for my child for the first few years. I personally don’t believe in having 7 children, and taking them to daycare. Whether it is a good day care or otherwise. In my mind it is a daycare center, where strangers get to take care of my child, that idea alone terrifies me. What I do or don't do is for me to decide, in all honesty I don't need for others to make a plea to me on behalf of my future child. I will make a decision which i believe is best for me and my child. That is my right. Respect mine (whatever it ends up to be) as i respect yours to stay home. Sister Rahima, I think staying home is the better alternative. But, that is my personal opinion. I am sure u have looked at the situation from every aspect and decided at the end that hey working is what works for me. I am going to respect your choice, don’t think I am here to attack you. There are those who agree with you, and those who agree with me, I guess everyone is different, and look at the same issue from different positions. So, people just do what you have to do, it is your life and that child is yours. I am sure we are all going to love our children, and we are going to do what we think is the best for that child. That is all that matters I guess, doing for your child what u think is best for yourself and for them…I guess love comes in different forms, I am sorry when I said a mother who works doesn’t show her love, I guess I got carried away a bit. My sincere apology. hmm I guess I will stay at home and have full time nanny when the time comes P That had me laughing walahi. You are genius what is better than staying home and having a nanny while you gossip and shop eh

It’s arrogant to assume that you made the better choice and are therefore the better mother (for whether or not they want to admit that is what is been insinuated). It is true that sometimes those mothers who stay at home neglect their motherhood, and in some cases a mother who works is a better parent. However, if a mother stays at home and spends quality time with her kids. She would be the better mother, after all she is with her child 24/7, and she gets to know her child, his /her strength and weakness. She gets to know her child in every aspect. Where the mother who works has a lot of other things in mind, and sometimes doesn’t even get to spend time with her child, aside from putting them to sleep and giving them a ride from the daycare center. Who’s to stay that 4 hours of quality time with a child are not far more cherished and a far greater indication of love then 12 hours of child minding by the television whilst she gossips with her friends? I am over-exaggerating the latter to show you that staying home does not necessarily make a mother more attentive (and we know that whilst over-exaggerated it is not unrealistic for it happens amongst Somali mothers). Rahima, you will find all kind of people out there. There are mothers who spend with their kids all day long who gossip and are not taking their motherhood seriously. And, they are those that spend four hours and do take those four hours quit seriously. That much we agree on. However, wouldn’t be the better alternative if you could spend with your child the whole day and be attentive to your child’s needs, what is better than staying with your child every day, and having him/her depend on you, playing with your child, being there when your child gets moody, or smiles?? why give that up?.... I do not have children yet, and perhaps once I have them I might change my mind about working full time (I’ll always works or else I’d go crazy) I don’t have children either. But, one doesn't have to have children to know what would be good for a child. Personally speaking I wouldn’t trust others to take care of a child of mine. Unless I don’t have a better alternative, as life isn’t easy in abroad, and sometimes both parents are forced to work outside their house. I do believe that we as women should establish our own careers and be successful in life. All, I am saying is for the first few years the child needs a mother whom he/she spends quality time with. The more that time is, the more he/she will learn to depend and trust his/her own mother. We should establish our careers. But, hold it off for few years till that child reaches school age. And believe me I am not here to criticize those who chose to work, perhaps you love working, it is your passion and u can’t live without it. But, please take few minutes and reflect on how life would be so much better if you could stay home and spend quality time with your child. Perhaps, we wouldn't even get that option if we have to work to support our family, but if we do have it, I would certainly take advantage of it. Wa salaamu alaikum

subhanalaah there are such people out there. May Allah protect us from those kind of ppl. insha-allah his wife will be alright, let's make a du' for her. As for that drunk somali brother, I guess three years in prison is justtified since he didn't kill her, and from what I heard arabs are heartless. I am sure he is gonna have one hell ofa time in the prison lol, serves him though. wa salaamu alaikum

Xanthus, I am sure somalis back home know howta pray. Are you sure u are not changing the story . I can only imagine them teaching u howta pray, bt not the other way around. lol dadkana farahaha indhaha haka galin dee.. wa salaamu alaikum

The point walaal speak for urself wa salaamu alaikum

^^ it is like 3 now and I am off today, so just chilling. Munira I was curious, I mean it said singlenimo and then when I clicked on it , all I saw was " is any one here " loool wa salaamu alaikum

Hey crystal, I am here as well. so, what is going on? what did u meant by singlenimo...just curious lol wa salaamu alaikum

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You seem to be contradicting yourself. You can’t criticise a woman who makes the choice to work (even though her husband makes enough) and at the same time claim to respect her choice. I mean at the end of the day, you aren’t criticizing her shoes or handbag, you’re criticizing not only her mothering skills but also her love for her child. In essence you are arguing that a mother who chooses to stay at home loves her child more than a woman who chooses to work. Rahima, I was not contradicting myself. It is simply obvious, that a mom who chose to stay at home spends more time with her child. Thus, by spending more time with her child, she shows her child how much she loves him/her. That does not mean the mother who works doesn’t love her child. Of course, she does. Merely, she spends less time with her child. So, my point is a mother who stays at home gives a better care and spends more quality time with her child than a woman who works outside her home. Let me illustrate an example, let’s say the mother wakes up in the morning drops her child in the daycare, and heads to work. Comes back from work around 5 and what not . Picks her child from the day care center and heads back home, and feeds her child and puts him/her to sleep around 7. Does the same thing 5 days a week. Please tell me exactly how many hours does she spend with her child??? Does she even know her child any more?? I am not questioning her love; she loves her child regardless, but, does she show it? Just because I don’t see things eye-to-eye with a mother who chooses to work I am not going to have any less respect for her. It is her personal life she will live her life, however she sees fit. However, she is sending a child who is very young and vulnerable to a day care. You know nowadays daycare centers are terrible, even though this doesn’t mean that every day care is horrible, most of them are. So, I am not advising any one to send their kids to a day care center when they have alternatives. Wa salaamu alaikum

zuhayla typed earlier: "It wasn’t her intention to post twice, it happens when the server is SLOW…not to mention this being the first post." So I assumed King Koya was a girl, but really that is irrelevant. Mida kale whats wrong wit u and Xanthus (fadlan change dat name sounds like xaaktuuth) "I dont know if love exists", "love has no orgin" lol Khalaf, nothing is wrong with us. Simply, I don’t want to mislead any one. I honestly don’t know if love exists, let’s hope it exists. Wa salaamu alaikum

At the end of the day, we are all different therefore our choices will be different. So long as the child is not neglected then really it is no ones business but the parents of the child. Rahima, you have made a good point sister. However, I would say if a woman has a man who can work and provide for his family then she shouldn’t rush to work outside her home, at least for the first few years of her child’s life. The child has a great need for love and nurturing, and they need to consistently be told that they matter, and that they are loved. They want to see that their mom is there for them whenever they are in need. Who can give that better than the child's mother?? I don't believe a woman who has been hired to take care of a child will be able to meet that standard of care that a child deserves. But, that is my personal opinion, and I do have respect for those who choose to work whether they have a husband who provides or not. After all we all have different perspectives. Wa salaamu alaikum

^^^Xanthus I think you confused the poor girl even more King Koya as much as I want to help you out.I am in no position to reply I don't even know what Love is or even if it exists lol. So, when Ms Dhucdhuc & Dheylo gets time, she will try her best to reply to yr post. Till then let's be patient. By the way, Welcome to Somalia online. In most cases people are more friendly than this, I don't know what is up with them . wa salaamu alaikum

haddaan dad la xasuuqin qaran lama dhisi karo No one should make an excuse for Waraabe. His words don’t need any interpretation; they are clear, and full of hatred. Everyone should contempt any sort of hate speech directed toward a group of people. He openly calls for the massacre of the citizens of Sool and Sanaag. This is a free country sxb ,,, you can speak and present your ideolgy not like Xamar where you will follow the big brother's believes or you will get bombed In your so called free country, one can openly advocate the mass murder of people of sool and sanaag?? We are not talking about permitting one to express his/her ideology. It is about not tolerating when one advocates for genocide. I am speechless, to those of you who are coming to his defense. wa salaamu alaikum

There are many Very Good questions that some of had raised, and i will try to some it all up. Let me Say Thank you All very much i really appriciate all the insight. to answer above question. first, she married the guy knowingly he was married and had a punch of kids. she has gone to africa twice so far, and you know how travel expenses are. she applied the sharci staff and yes it's been nothing but heache,or unsucessfull; however, the guy is unwillingly not wanting to do what it takes, to get here and be with this desbrate women. please don't get me worng, but sometimes i'm confused with this situation too. the sad thing is that she very sucessfull sis BSN RN and has very decent job not to mension she in her mid twenties. so i personally sometimes don't get the situation, as all of you would think, but anyhow, i will try to check back latter to answer some more ???. thanks Marrying a brother in Africa who is married and got bunch of kids? That is absurd. What was your friend thinking??? :rolleyes: walahi I find it hilarious picturing your friend begging a married guy in Africa to leave his family behind. I am glad the sponsorship didn’t work; he has kids back home and will see to his responsibility. Besides, what is the probability that he actually married her cuz he cares about her? ...I would have assumed he married her to be sponsored, bt then, couldn't live with being far from his family. Tell your friend to find another man who lives in the same country and isn’t attached. Wa salaamu alaikum

Islam takes what's beautiful and makes it more beautiful. If you were a good son or daughter, you might be surprised when your parents say that you have become an even better son or daughter after your conversion. There is this guy who recently converted to Islam. Masha-Allah, you would be surprised at how he follows the Koran from one cover to the other. That is the beauty of converting; you take your religion so seriously. Where many of us who born Muslims take it for granted. He told me how he use to ignore his parents and just drink and what not. But, have changed so much after converting to Islam, and even though his parents are not happy with his choice, they have came to accept him, because he became a good son. So, certainly our religion is beautiful, and makes every aspect in life more beautiful, you grow to be a better person; you learn to tolerate, respect, and have compassion. Thanks to Allah for all his blessing and particularly for giving us the gift of being Muslims. wa salaamu alaikum

If their party wins in the provincial elections on the coming October,the conservative party led by John Tory has the best solutions for the unjust Ontario's education system: with the introduction of a fair education funding. The government funding of public and of catholic schools will not be eliminated. Therefore, it would be fair and just to fund both public schools and all religious schools, as Tory states, "I think that's good thing for Ontario because it respects and reflects the diversity that is this province". Statistically, Ontario already funds 95% of all religious schools in Ontario and therefore funding the other 5 % wouldn’t make a difference on the funding formula. The question is why those students of minority religious schools do not get funding, when their parents are tax paying Canadian citizens as catholic parents? The liberal party's position in this matter is unjust in opposing the funding of all religious schools and yet supporting the catholic schools. The bottom line, all students and parents of all faiths deserve the same treatment. So, Canadians in SOL let me know your position on this particular issue? wa salaamu alaikum

All these pics are splendid masha-allah. Insha-allah Somalia will re-establish sometime soon, let's make du'a. wa salaamu alaikum

Insha-allah Makhtal will be alright, let's add him to our prayers. wa salaaamu alaikum

I am a fan of Maryan Mursal. Totally love her songs. u guys have fun eh. wa salaamu alaikum

Rudy, I always wonder why guys just stand in the corner in every wedding :rolleyes: . So u guys don’t dare to dance.

You MUST read them out loud....... o That's not right ......................... Sum Ting Wong o Are you harbouring a fugitive?.................Hu Yu Hai Ding o See me ASAP.................................. Kum Hia Nao o Small Horse ................................. Tai Ni Po Ni o Did you go to the beach? .....................Wai Yu So Tan o Great .......................................Fa Kin Su Pah o I bumped into a coffee table ...........Ai Bang Mai Fa Kin Ni o I think you need a face lift ............Chin Tu Fat o It's very dark in here .......................Wao So Dim o I thought you were on a diet ............Wai Yu Mun Ching? o This is a tow away zone ..................No Pah King o Our meeting is scheduled for next week . ...........Wai Yu Kum Nao? o Staying out of sight .................................Lei Ying Lo o He's cleaning his automobile .................Wa Shing Ka Your body odour is offensive .......................Yu Stin Ki Pu

Asalaamu alaikum, “For me the biggest struggle is to find clothes in the department stores,” said Ms. Arian, Certainly, it is hard nowadays to find decent clothing in department stores. But, if you look hard enough, you will find something modest. But, that shouldn’t be a dilemma nowadays there are tons of Muslim stores where you could find clothing that are appropriate for Muslim sisters. In its fashion pages, Muslim Girl addresses concerns about fashion by encouraging young readers to mix and match current designs from a variety of sources I agree as Muslim sisters we should wear proper clothing and yet keep up with the fashion. Wa salaamu alaikum