He was just doing his job Nephthys sis. It is possibe that he wanted a tip cuz he was extra nice. I think u are just making a big issue outa of nothing. Unless u are not confident abt the way u look and fearing that u look older than your actual age Next time the poor guy asks to help u which I doubt he will JUST GIVE him a tip, and let him carry your bag, maxa ka wayday qof ku qadaya bacda cajiib

^^he is gonna buy it for me see waaye. I am just kidding, I will buy it for myself insha-allah wa salaamu alaikum

yeh I want a big house, one that at least costs 400 000. see waaye, waxan ma qof nool ku nolaan kara...

lol Khalaf even though I dislike pakis, they do preserve their culture which is something that couldnt be said abt somalis. This saying sort of applies to us ''In rome act like a Roman'', we like to blend in. However, pakis' weddings happen to be a lot more simplistic, where somalis just over do it. I think it wouldnt hurt if we change our weddings a bit, like for instance the timing, I just hate weddings lasting for seven hours, not only is it waste of time it is just not right. And, the fact that the pride comes so dam late like one oclock in the night, when they tell you to arrive at ten. And, for some reason somalis just make their weddings seem more like a club than a wedding, and that could be due to the fact lota of uninvited guests arrive, and the place just gets over crowded. Still somali weddings are fun, we could just change those aspects. But noooo I never want a dull weddings like those pakis have :mad:

If before I got married my parents forced me to marry Brad Pitt lol ah aren't u just living in dreamland , like yr somali parents will arrange marriage with Brad Pitt. Besides,I dont know what you guys c in him, for real he aint all that.

maanta ma jacalybaro ayaa dadki kale la yaabay cajiib

Peacenow please do clarify your following qoute, I want to know exactly what people getting murdered or killed in the uk has to do with somalis in the US who said they couldnt touch pork or allow alcohol ??? Almost daily something is happening, someone killing or being murdered. They say this because there is 'beef' with others. I cannot understand this. It's like those Somalis in the US who said, they can't allow alchol or touch pork in the shop. I mean how more demented can you get. They are laughing at us.. is it me or do u have some sort of issues, u are always pointing at some ethnicity and going oh they are laughing at us, the other day it was arabs laughing at somali men for calling themselves ABDIS, n NOW IT Is the british.......can u for once like forget what others think of u and rather focus on how to help your people, after all your are somali yourself. No need to generalize and go oh somalis are that and be so darn negetive. I honestly dnt mind if u go this is whats happening to our community, we are not achieving much, and we need to change. But, honestly stop being so negetive and stop hating your people, as somalis we are going through transitional period, we are adjusting into new way of life, I think we have achieved so much. But, there are still lota things that need improvement, with Allahs help we will get there. However, we dont need ppl like u who all they do is point out the communities failure, and not even bother to offer suggestions or solutions.

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Kool_Kat, weddings can be simple, I went to a friends wedding last year, she had 20, yes 20 guest only and the wedding finished at 9pm (before you ask she was somali and so was the guy) I loved, I think it is the best wedding I've ever been to!. so i guess it is possible I don't think in most cases inviting 20 guests would be possible. Given that most somali families are quite large . However, I agree with making it as small as possible-invite your friends, classmates, and family members. But, as somalis the word goes around and before u know the whole freaking city is invited. I am not so sure if we can do anything abt it. But, it is good to try, like only give invitation cards to certain number of people. I remember Lily was telling me the other day her sister was getting married. I wonder how it went...and which songs did u guys choose? just curious wa salaamu alaikum

I wish u all happy Ramadan in advance. Lets make the best of it insha allah, with not only praying but reciting the koran, attending the mosque as much time as possible. I so look forward to fast , pray tarawiih and salatu al-leyl. Even though it will be a bit challenging with attending school n working. But, that is the whole point, Allah wants to see how we endure it. wa salaamu alaikum

By the way, maahmaahda dadka hadal badnaanta badan see u af xunyihiin ayaa loola jeedaa, oo dadka afka cuncunaayo hadal jeclaan ahaan, ee loolama jeedo speaking on behalf of those who are present, which you literally translated to. maya walaalo waxa lola jeeda nin jooga loma adeego, yacni nin jooga asaga isku hadli kara, oo qof jooga loma hadlo. Inta badan macnaha maahmaahda ma aha in aad toos lo macneeyo oo macnoooyin kale ayeey leedahay. Laakin maahmaahdan ah qof jooga loma adeego, wa hadal toosan ooo macnahiisuba qarsooneen.

Af joogo looma adeego = A closed mouth catches no flies. af Joogo looma adeego = you dont speak on behalf of some one who is present.

Farahaad kasoo gubatay maskiin. haye farahagi alaali hada ka dib .hadayna abaheed ku bareen na soco dheh ...

Me lol I think you should hire Yoniz as an assistant for your match making business, the brother seems expert in that field.

Yonis there is nothing wrong with dating, as long as your intention is to get to know that person to see if he is suitable for marriage.However, there is seriously something wrong if u date some one for four years? that is certainly a waste of time, not to mention that it is haraam. wa salaamu alaikum

Yonis I understand he wasnt thoughtful enough to call home, to know how his wife is doing. But, do you have any explanations for not returning calls?... when I call some one, I would natuarally expect that person to return my call. wa salaamu alaikum

he never calls, nor returns my calls, otherwise, he is an ideal husband at home, very loving and caring Well I think something is seriously wrong with this marraige. I would have said maybe he does not call because he is quite busy and stressed out at work. But, I do not understand why he would not return her calls? some one calls you and u just ignore it, and what makes it even worse is his wife that is calling him, taking the time to call him to know how he is doing at work, showing him that she has him in her mind at all times. Honestly, I would not advice divorcing him since he is so loving at home, bt what makes me wonder is why he changes once he is outa of the door. His wife needs to have a serious talk with him, and demands an explanation. by the way, I do not know how it took her four years to realize this. :confused: wa salaamu alaikum

^^jacaylbaro lol Ghanima waad iga darantahay ma istidhi anuu aman iyo ubax iyo chocolate un igu filan. adiga yarka ma in uu waxwalba oo aad so ibsan karin ku iibiyaad rabtaa...

lol so you watch other ppl dance, and you dont touch the wedding food. so why did you go to the wedding in the first place..... What do you do that is tons of fun?? Well, you should dance I suppose, eat the food. catch up with yr girl friends... :rolleyes: Speaking of Ibti, I tried to reclaim it the other day, only to be told that it has been reserved by another member. I mean how dare they? lol lol so u cant reclaim your nick name eh, why did u change it to begin with

Ghanima sis diracs were always transparent, so just wear gabisaar. If u wanna show yr hair, u can at least put the gabisaar/shalmad on your shoulders. As for somali weddings, I have nothing to complain about. I always have tons of fun, apart from the wedding going on till 5 in the morning, that is one thing I dont agree with. How do people get to weddings? And why can they never go back home using the same means they used to get there in the first I do hate picking up ppl as well. You are absolutly right they should use the same means as they did when they were arriving. Anba wa ka daalay Habo boos ma haysiin, maya ma hayo aa ku qabanasa in aa dhahdid lol So ibti just stay positive. Have fun while u at it as summer is almost over. wa salaamu alaikum

canjeex you are romantic , bt not romantic enough..... u see the difference? wali waxa laga raba in aad amaanta so badisid see camal, and bring a chocolate and rose to go with it

Somalida waxay ka hadlaan aroos kasta , haduu rabo ha wacnaado, waxay ka shegan ma wayeyaan, ka warama markaad barid bariis bixisaan ?

I heard this Joke before. But, it is still hilarious.

^^^ Jacaylbaro u better do what Northern suggested as soon as possible. Otherwise, your friends will drop you like potato.

^^^looks like Jacaylbaro has been exposed