This is a blatant discrimination, and there is great likelihood that she might win the case.

u went all out on me, now why u go do that? Don’t take anything I wrote personal walaal, and everyone is entitled to express their opinion. I for one believe a father can raise a daughter, and vice versa a mother can raise a son, and have witnessed such cases where parents excelled in their parenting methods. Khalaf, you took as an example ur father n grandfather and how they were disciplined. I think you shouldn't, because our parents were raised in different environment. What the society and families expected of their kids overlapped, there was not much of a choice.However, now, we live in more complicated society where spanking your kids might not work. where perhaps a child will do something you might not accept, but is acceptable to this society. So, how would you go about it? spank him??... Really, there is better parenting means than that. So, let’s just agree to disagree. ----------------------- Love is like the truth, sometimes it prevails, sometimes it hurts.

^^^By being tough on kids, are you implying physical punishment? If that is the case, spanking and hitting your kids doesn’t make them tough, rather it makes them accumulate hate toward their parents, and they might temporarily do as their parents ask. But, it is more appropriate if parents reasoned with their kids, and make them see why they expect them to behave in certain way. For instance, if parents forced their daughter to wear hijaab, and didn’t give the girl much of a choice, bt rather spanked her every time she tried to take it off? What do you think will happen in the long term?? Of course she will change; she will throw it off the first chance she gets apart from her parents. Those types of girls might end up more wild later in life than those whose parents gave them a choice. So, you see how important it is to raise a child who is allowed to make decisions on his own. Of course, some of the decisions might be based on age, like if a child decides to drop out of school for whatever reason, you won't allow. Still forcing someone against their will is never the answer, you have get some sense into him/her. that's why women can not raise a man, A woman who doesn’t spank her son, is going to raise a man who is a leader and will speak his mind. Whether he is on the wrong track or the right track. Someone who is not afraid to voice his opinion, no matter what. But a parent who spanks their child will raise someone who is afraid to express themselves without thinking twice how it is going to affect their parents. At some point in life you have to make certain decisions no matter how it affects others. Also, just to clarify this when I said you have to reason with your kids, it doesn’t mean you will be soft with them. You can reason with them and at the same time be hard on them by being direct and straightforward with them. You would be amazed at how in my house my parents are respected yet they never got physical with us. One must set rules for their house,as house won't function without rules. However, they must find a civilized way that encourages their kids to abide those rules. ----------------------- Love is like the truth, sometimes it prevails, sometimes it hurts.

Surgeons had been suspended? now don't you all think the government is being easy on these surgeons. Such mistake is pathetic mistake, that could have been prevented if those surgeons took their job a bit more serious. Thus, they should go to prison for life so justice can prevail. ----------------------- Love is like the truth, sometimes it prevails, sometimes it hurts.

Resistance you did rise an important point, and as you pointed out if the couple are planning to get married, they should be able to discuss about anything. However, so many other things have to be considered before setting your wedding date. Like you have to know if this person is compatible, then you can worry about your wedding date. Really that should be the last thing to be concerned abt

Why do Somalis achieve success in every way possible and in every country BESIDES their own? We have made some accomplishments overseas that are worth mentioning. But, we have only been permanently away from our homeland for about 20 years at most. There is still much to be done in our new adopted countries. So to answer your question, the reason why Somalis haven’t achieved much back home is because they are consumed by the very idea of tribalism. Every tribe wants to lead the country, and sometime every sub tribe. We have to get over tribalism, and rather seek which individuals has what it takes to lead the country. That been said. If we look at the whole picture Somalia is part of Africa. Africa has been taken advantage of economically by the west for the past two centuries. Hence, Somalia will have to go through a long grueling journey to finally pull away from Africa’s predicament. As Somalis we must succeed, by uniting and getting over our small differences that even the rest of the world can’t comprehend; we are Africans, Muslims, and Somalis. So what is our dissimilarity, that till today we have shed blood for?

Brown camel milk is effective and can cure skin diseases even hair related illnesses. However, I did some research on garlic amazingly it does prevent hair loss. So take her advice. p.s. war blonde moments maxa la dhaha

lol@ toon ku xog, maka dhab ba mise yarka waad ka walasa

Jacaylka just wait and see, u better take Zafir's advice before its too late hahahahaha

So,anyone know the magic fomula for stopping balding? Brown, I know few guys who are bald bt they wont admit. They are like bold all year long, year after year, one does wonder? dadkan tima ma uso baxaan guess the solution is just accept yrself, pretend to be bold, or get a hair transplant

I am totally against spanking kids. It is not an ideal way to teach ur kids manners. It is better if you give them long lectures, that way they will know why they should not repeat such actions. A child shouldn't engage in certain actions because he/she knows its wrong rather than fearing someone. By lecturing, I mean talking to them in a normal tone. Yelling is not an option either. A child must know you are in control and have the upper hand. Otherwise, maybe spaking and yelling is what they found amusing, you know how children are always looking for attention in any possible way. Besides, I know it is not easy to lecture a child, they are certainly a bit edgy and impatient. However, gradually they will change.

nice poem , thanks for sharing.

lol@ good man....adiga ma good man ah hadad naago kale ku riyownasid

jacaylbaro looool tawakaltu cala laah wa ilaahay ayaan talo saartay oo wakiil ka dhigtey, ilaahay wakiil wuxu kaga yahay waxwalba. Marka yarka haka duceesta dhaaf.

As for Din is something that is frequently abused by Somali men to justify and act as they please while beating the idea of religion on a women’s head, so don’t think someone who seems to have diin and morals is going to be safe I don’t just mean he has to know his religion, but he has to know it well enough where he implement it in all the aspects of his life. I certainly can not generalize all somali guys, maybe there are those who are religious yet abusive. I am sure we can find all kind of guys out there. Just look for someone who practices his religion whom u can share a decent life with. you'd be shocked. If we use this forum as an example, how many normal, sane, even nice guys do you see? few right. lol no comments on that, I will keep my opinion to myself P.s. I was not raised by a mum or dad statistically speaking I should be suuq dacdacyah but I'm not and socially and academically I think I'm fine. Ghanima walaal I am sure u turned out well masha allah, and so did many of us who were raised by a single parent or grandparents. But, generally speaking those who were raised by both of their parents were better off than those raised by a single parent. Basically, it is ideal when both parents are working together to meet their children's needs.

^^^why would u marry some one abusive to begin with. Marry some one with morals n who knows his diin really well. Ghanima hypothetically speaking if ur parents were to divorce today, wouldn't u rather if they worked things out instead of obtaining a divorce. From my perspective, once u start a family, u should take that responsibility seriously and do everything you can to make it work.However, if a husband as you pointed out is being abusive, than there is no other option but to to divorce him. p.s.It is shown statistically that kids who are raised by their parents fair better in life whether it is academically/socially than those raised by a single parent.

I strongly believe once you are married, you gota stay married for life, doesn't matter what the situation might be. Specially if u have kids. You gota make your relationship work for your kids' sake. As for dating your ex husband after you divorce him. Religiously speaking, you gota marry n divorce some one else before u can come back to ur previous husband. So, one does have to really think it through when they decide to divorce. Besides, Real love comes after marriage, the couple are the ones who are making their relationship work or not work. If it doesn’t work then they are not putting enough effort to improve it, one of them or both them is most likely being selfish or holding their love back. It is all up to ur intentions. You can establish a good loving family, if you can negotiate and do whatever it takes to reach that goal.As Ghanima wrote the grass is not always greener on the other side, so make the best of what you have. that is my 2 cent for now

^^do u think Toronto is either dixon or Jane & finch :rolleyes:

^^ sorry to disappoint you sweetie bt I dont live in dixon . ma mid aa dixon kaaga luntay, aan ku faafiye

^^Abdinur you proposed a great idea, you should discuss it with the admin or the moderators. I don’t know why ye all making fuss outa of it, somali guys in Sol could make use of it. Specially, Jacaylbaro. I am surprised he didn’t run with this idea to the admin lol. Jacaylbaro you should be excited man, you gonna have a whole section dedicated to your usual nonsense

^^ walahi his speeches are so clear and to the point that he makes non Muslims see the truth. I was watching one of his CDs the other night, and so many people took the Shahada, it was so moving masha allah... ------------------ mama aragtidaa anigoo makiyo madiina tagee xajkii soo maree hooyo magan ilaah markasta ahoow

^^Yeh am going to Dubai as well but sometime in May. After that am going to Somalia insha allah. I am so excited walahi, as am going back home for the first time. anyone has tips for me ------------------ mama aragtidaa anigoo makiyo madiina tagee xajkii soo maree hooyo magan ilaah markasta ahoow

Hubby: "Yes! I see your picture and ask myself what other problem can there be greater than this one?" ouch that must have hurt..

A Muslim child in the west is lacking the Islamic aspect of his/ her education,therefore, sending that child to Islamic school will fill that gap. For instance, my younger sister attends Islamic school, you would be amazed at how much she knows about her religion at such a young age, and how proud she is to be Muslim. That would have been hard to achieve if not nearly impossible if she attended public school system.Not to mention that in the long run, you are risking your child's future by sending him/her to public school system, where all kind of kids hang out. As Muslims in the west we go through many challenges everyday, and the hardest being raising a child in the west. We have to take advantage of what the west is offering; the education and employment opportunities. However, we must preserve our religion. In my opinion, sending your child to private Islamic school is the best alternative. As for those in Middle East who prefer to send their children to British and American schools recognize that English is an international language and will benefit their children in the country they reside, or if they move to English speaking country to pursue higher education. It is all about balancing it out, everyone wants their child to be religious and have the best education.

Kool Kat jacaylbaro should come to toronto dee, you and him will have so much fun ma istidhi.