^^ mid baa ka luntay runta sheeg....ma kula raadiya

^^ what does ducaysane have to do with this?

Che there is nothing wrong with wanting to share your love. Allah swt gave you an option and that's getting four wives. So, make use of it.

And, if you truly loved her you would stay w/ her and not cheat on her...kana the guts? you cheat on your wife and you be like oh if you love me you gonna be okey with it? lol I think you are self centered old man.. DD walaal thanks.I appreciate your kind words. Anyways, love comes after marriage. There is no such thing as love before..maybe attraction and like but not love. Love walaal is tested when you have to live with that person 24/7 and when you both stick together at both hard and good times.

maxana u tidhi qofkale kugu qalday adiga so maha qofka lasoo taagan xaas iyo mistress leeyahay mana is oga.. markaa I was just illustrating what would happen when your wife finds out, I guess you gonna lose the comfort of your house. anyways, enough said.

lol @ offensive....I meant it as kaftan. Where's ur sense of humor old man... Lily well put sis. Nothing is better than going to haj when you're young. Inshallah I intend to go within the next few years.

This is my imaginary scenario che: naa hebla maanta naag kale ayaan so xareestay... 1st wife : war maxaad ku hadashay che: mid halkaas ayaa indhahayga qabatay markaasaan so xareestay allah dhererkeeda quruxdeeda...ilaahayna uun baa og... 1st wife: war ma maanta shekada keentay soco dabaalyahow bacdi madoobeed ayeey kasoo daba tuurtay the end... Now che doesn't want that to happen which explains why his mistress and wife are not aware of one other... simple!!

Che if you are married you stick to your wife its that simple. It's different when you are single and you are checking your options. DD just gave you a perfect solution. Second wife indeed..Go for that

^^between how can you say you love your wife when you have a mistress?... if you love her ,,,then I would assume there's no need to cheat on her. Unless you were not happy with her. And, in that case you can easily divorce her and replace her with your mistress and have a halaal relationship.. anyways, I will stop asking personal questions I just couldn't help bt wonder..

^how does that prove a thing or two? explain? You have a wife and a mistress :eek: GOD have mercy...true I think I understand now where your hate toward somali men came from....few bad apples spoiled the rest....try to not judge everyone based on few

^^ and why do you wanna track them

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^^^ that's exactly why music is haraam. It naturalizes things that obviously are haraam from religious stand.

MS DD you are absolutely right, they should offer scholarships to their own somali students who are the highest drop out rate in Toronto. The Jewish community or students mostly come from families who are well off, they most certainly don't need this.

^ It depends on the nature of the bad deed. She said "just having fun", which can vary from one person to another. Maybe, she should clarify what she means by fun??...if fun is just hanging out with your friends and wasting time. That's something you should try to control and minimize other than that it's not a big deal..If it's however skipping a prayer, or having a mistress things that we know are haraam...and are examples of the major sins in islam..it's something you should avoid and change before you ask allah swt to forgive you. Allah swt knows whats in our hearts and what our intentions are so if you go to haj planning when you come back you will continue skipping your prayers, or have mistress? then really even if allah swt forgave you abt the previous sins...you're still doing them which in a way makes no sense at all. The ideal situation would be stopping them, and refraining from whatever those actions were for good. salaam p.s Listening to music is also haraam. Even though most of us do listen to music. No one is perfect. But, we should strive inshallah to minimize that too.

lol@ i don't want to marry a mistress....lets clarify this was she your mistress before? or now? if she was your mistress before and now that relationship is done with. Then, perhaps you can get ajar out of helping a sister out. But, if she's still your mistress (what you are doing is haraam) and the fact that you have no intention of marrying her even makes the situation far worse. walaal you lack the basic understanding of Islam. Get some knowledge inshallah.

It makes no sense at all...why don't you get married and then go to Haj. Pretty simple!

^ you and your awkward questions... am speechless!! You are not suppose to have mistress or gf to start with from religious point of view. I have a solution for you, marry your mistress. And, then you can pay for her expenses...and both of you can start a new page in a halaal way... Someone call the shiekh

Neph, am sure Allah swt will accept any good deeds that we act on. Regardless of whether we continue what we use to do or change for the better. Know that Allah swt is merciful sister. But, if you had the chance to go to haj and start a new page in life knowing that allah swt forgave you, and you know you have a new page to depart from. what's holding you back from changing?your creator forgave you despite of all the bad deeds you have done. He gaveyou a new start, new beginning...knowing that I would assume a fellow muslim person would be more than motivated to alter their ways so they can please Allah swt... Wearing niqaab is optional most scholars agreed that showing your face and hands is acceptable. You just need to cover in Islamic fashion and you don't walk around with hijaab and tight jeans like i seen some ppl do. And, that you pray ur five prayers and that you refrain from the things that Allah swt prohibited. Remember Allah swt clearly said he doesn't enforce upon us things that we are unable to do. May allah swt forgive us all and facilitate at least one trip to haj in our life time. wa salaam

^ your somali is too limited u wouldn't be able to comprehend ....just doing you a favor

lol...it's sad how some guys think wearing gold/silver tooth makes them come across as more appealing.

sayid lol classkaas ma adaa qaatay walaal.....sifiican ayeey soomaaliga kusoo bareen ma istidhi Jokes aside, every somali person needs to take pride in their language and try to at least converse in it. excellent course, something we could all follow. we do have provide somali courses actually. It's sad when you see chinese/japanese/russian or the likes speaking their language even though their greatgrandparents were born here compare to us somalis who were here less than 20 yrs. Somehow, I feel like we underestimate our language, which is pretty ignorant. We gota offer somali courses in the weekends....(I wonder why all these somali organizations haven't thought of it). Time for change and ye another tip make sure the kids speak Somali at home. I mean hey they are going to learn English at school, and anyone they associate with outside their house will speak English. But nt that many people will speak to them in somali.so what better way than to make sure they speak nothing bt somali at home. The lack of communication b/w somali kids and parents actually comes from miscommunication. When the child can't speak somali, and can't express what they want. And, similarly when the parents cant instil in their kids their values since they cant even communicate w/ them.... as they say schooling starts at home.... ubadkiina af somali kula hadla.. my 2 cent!

Zash thanks for the info walaal. Butter is bad for your health too if consumed in large quantity. wa salaam..

^ that abaya you posted costs 350 000 dollars? I guess an arab rich dude a saudi for example would buy it ....i dnt even want to spend 100 bucks on abaya But, I guess since half of the money went to Islamic relief it's all good.

Someone emailed me this link before. I was amazed when i saw it i mean how often would u see chinese dude speaking in somali or at least trying to. Now, am sure Pucca would be interested