million apologies for what???...the guy left her?? There's nothing wrong with getting divorced. If its done in a respectful manner and the two people being you know honest and what not with one another. But just walking out on someone without letting them know is just rude and something that no human being deserves. He could have just went to her asked her for permission to marry another ( obviously just out of respect given that she can't deny islamically speaking). But, the fact is he should have asked her..and then if she asked for divorce paper gave her. And, went on with his life. Simple as that... ------------------------------ "None of you [truly] believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself." related by Bukhari and Muslim

ibti believe me sis most of them are. Most of them came from families where the dad doesn't giva dam. So where does that leave their kids?..and we are not in a position these days where extended families will get involved in other people's issues. We don't live in a collective society anymore. Everyone has enough problems on their plate.... besides, only that family (husband n wife) can truly help themselves, even if the extended family gets involved its just talk. At the end of the day extended families can't come and do your work for you. btw there's nothing wrong with being proud of your somali families doing well. The mothers taking care of their kids disciplining them, fathers working hard to support their kids. Because believe it or not that basic stuff is what leads to productive family... salaam ------------------------------ "None of you [truly] believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself." related by Bukhari and Muslim

Ibtisaam you are right they are required to provide for their kids. However, they also do deserve to get credit for doing so. Whenever I see parents supporting their kids, it makes me proud. The fact remains that those kids who are lost in the streets are the product of broken families with no financial means. Geeljire, it is. I also agree with ibti. But, that doesn't mean everyone should have the same view. Some people choose to share their husbands and thats good for them. It's a matter of choice. salaam

^ little do you know ibtisaam. There are people out there who don't support their kids. So, yeh I will give him a credit for that, its never nice to undermine other people's hard work. But, am not saying thats where it ends, I said the wife deserves to get her papers so she can get on with her life. salaam

Now if he supports his first wife..it's all good. He just needs to give her the divorce papers....I doubt anyone wants to put up with someone who is married to a second wife... salaam

Ms DD lol same here sister...I wanna know too? and some ppl didn't even give me the full 5... talow maxay iga gosteen qaar

If I was the judge, I would have got the guy to divorce his first wife. Given that he doesn't deserve her and treated her wrongly. And, not to mention he should pay monthly payments to support his 8 kids...say 4000 dollars every month... wa salaam

Mashallah.... ------------------------------ "None of you [truly] believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself." related by Bukhari and Muslim

^^well said. ------------------------------ "None of you [truly] believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself." related by Bukhari and Muslim

am lost who is getting divorced? ...

looooooooool@ halka iska dag.. ------------------------------ "None of you [truly] believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself." related by Bukhari and Muslim

Jac, yeah we would like to know your story in detail?...now come and tell us...am bored so i have plenty of time....

Morning people...

Hayat lol you can't blame your friends. You just need to understand when its appropriate to use slang and when it isn't. And, if you can't do that, then whose to blame? yourself I GUESS ------------------------------ "None of you [truly] believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself." related by Bukhari and Muslim

Geel jire yeah I know what xaad means just light hair on your arm lol wouldn't know what else to call it.

awesome, that's good 2 know. ------------------------------ "None of you [truly] believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself." related by Bukhari and Muslim

hey am good protocol, yourself? you have a lot of disturbing nightmares??...you should recite the Quran inshallah. salaam

Masha Allah... salaam.. ------------------------------ "None of you [truly] believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself." related by Bukhari and Muslim

Protocol, I think you should see a scholar, perhaps your dream means more than it seems. or perhaps not. Usually religiously speaking if you dreamed about something bad or something that frightened you, you should like turn to the opposite side than the one you were previously sleeping on and spit on your left three times if am not mistaken....Will look it up. salaam

This happens to be one of my favorite Somali songs.... I think back in the days..having hair on your arms was the thing..you couldn't get a better compliment than that... ------------------------------ "None of you [truly] believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself." related by Bukhari and Muslim

Subhanalah I thought someone passed away. Anyhow, I would advice you that you private message those sisters and preach them. walaal Remeber ilaahay wuxu yidhi dadka ceebtooda qofkii qariya asna ilaahay aya ceeb u qarinaya... wa salaam ------------------------------ "None of you [truly] believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself." related by Bukhari and Muslim

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Hayat Hope you get better sis.

I am righty.... salaam

^Living in the west is not an excuse. However, Of course, people make mistakes, And allah swt is merciful. Inshallah strive to be closer to Allah swt. salaam