this is lame. I think you made it up... :rolleyes:

Most women are more resourceful then men,you don't need such an approach but one creates situations when one can have access to the one , one has her eyes on. Be it you accidentally bump into him at the petrol station and need help with your tires[if your lucky he is actually good with cars,hadhii kale you have just put him in a situation which will undermine his 'manhood']..Lol looooooooooooooool malika you are awesome. I could learn few lessons from you. I'm hopeless at approaching guys...cant do it if my life depended on it. salixa lol @ wa adoo afkaaga la doonta. You have a point there. But, usually guys who approach girls at the streets are usually street men(or at least thats my opinion) and that's what they do usually I imagine at least 99.9% of them. But, imagine you met someone respectful and you want to approach. I imagine in that case making the first move wouldnt hurt, you didn't have him to begin with what you got to lose....Nada [X] Shopping for the family or are you going into a solitary harbination lol [F] Laughs...No, I am shopping for the family. [X] That's nice, [scans the shopping and notices frying pan] would never see my brother alone doing the shopping for his wife & kids [F] ohh, no I am not married, shopping is for Hooyo, I ave come to visit and durba shopping bay iga gaadhsiisay. [X] lol, hooyo's ey...So you don't live meelahan? [F] Maya, I live in east london, but i am over at this end almost every week [X] oohK, sorry, how rude of me... I am Ibtisam ( ) nice to meet you [F] Likewise, I am Hassan. loooooooooooooool faheema....ibti is smart ma isithdi..kulaheed i would never catch my brother shopping for his wife, is that an indirect way of saying are you taken

wow you must be filthy rich, I wonder what you do for living? and u dnt have 2 answer if u dnt want to just curious. Between, it would be better to support people back home, or do something more worthwhile with your money than wasting it.. that's my 2 cents!

oh my god he posted 19000 posts?? that's too many posts. Jac congrats bal..and take a break.. salaam

people spend 50k on one supper?? ...really??...that's crazy n waste of money wouldn't you say?

The word ugly doesn’t have fixed meaning. It’s social construct. People from different cultures or times give it distinct meanings. So depending on the social context, people will vary on their meanings of what’s ugly. For instance, in Africa people might prefer girls who are more on the overweighed side. Where in the western culture you got to be slim, it’s the thing right. So, that’s my point it’s changeable.

and lemme guess mid u eeg bay heshay oo bari diyaarad lasoo fuulay...ma aduu aha talow..kaftan On a serious note, there is no such thing as someone being ugly, cuz am sure that person is handsome or pretty for someone else. Everyone has a certain taste.. salaam

aww you rated mee...and what did you give me .. I demand honesty

lol okey...

wow this is really hard issue. I know 15 years old girl can and should act mature and responsible. But, for all we know she feels left out and unloved you never know and maybe she's acting just rebellious to get attention. I would say he needs to put up with her and show her that he loves her as much as he loves his other kids. What if she was his real daughter? would he have said "uma dul qaadan karo" rather he would find a way to accommodate her bt due to the fact the she isn't his real daughter he's actually kinda distancing himself from her. He needs to talk to her one on one and show her that she's like a daughter to him, and of course he needs to understand she's 15 and not 5 and needs some personal space at the same time. And, also he needs to understand how hard it is for 15 years old to lose her father and the family she known ( even say there was no father it was just her and her mom). Still its hard to share her mother with some guy. Apparently, it will take time bt she will come around. I hope everything works out... salaam

what are you talking about brother? I wasn't even talking about anything else. I asked out of curiosity. and what do you mean it involves managing people, don't you have an exact term that sums up what you do...anyhow dnt know y am being nosy...guess i just want to waste time salaam

Kool kat lol are you having hard time keeping up with me...I guess I have too much energy to waste hehehe....my apology. I don't think though I got anything more to say so no worries..you can relax now

hey Jac.. just curious what is the nature of your occupation??

you are definitely right sis religious people are human beings also and they make mistakes. Alhmadulilaah its good to know you're happily married. Ilaahy haku siyadiyo!! lol@ balayo fiican...I love your somali by the way. Your choice of words always amuse me.

Kool kat, I see your point sis. And, you are right to some extent. But, if you married someone there must have been something that brought you two together to start with, and the fact that one has kids even makes that marriage even more precious. I don't see why if both people are religious and god fearing to be unhappy or unloving? why can't they build loving family together? i dont see why not..or maybe i just have my own fairytale thing. Allah knows best. MMA, lol when people call me qalanjo am usually flattered...I will no longer allow that nickname to be used...female elephant did you say...akh!! ^Calaf alaa keenay, he has one child...And no it didn't bother me...How can I be bothered by Ilaahay owlaad uu aduunka keenay? I will not feel secure. I don't know like am always gonna feel am not the only precious wife he has.I will always feel like am competing with someone honestly..I want to be his first wife, and my kids to be his first and only kids lol...am not sharing person by nature..what can i say. Mashallah though you are very nice person. Ilaahay haku siyadiyo. salaam

lol your husband had other kids when you married him? and that didn't bother you to say the least??...kaaga daran you take the extra step by spoiling his kid from his previous marriage?? Mashallah.It takes a lot to do that. I'm impressed cool kat. salaam

^^ lol so they were showing off eh...Makes me wonder how hard it is to catch those pirates? saw them on tv the other day...kuwa macawiis iska xidhan lol...

I didn't know qalanjo is an animal name? since when....qalanjo qof quruxbadan uu garanaya walaal

Edit: oh my god i just noticed this post was posted 7 years ago...wow...

Justice put your faith in Allah swt. Things will turn out well inshallah. I would say if you're really thinking its time and you are not getting lucky maybe you should get to know the local imam, he would usually know religious brothers who're looking. Otherwise, just let time take its course. As they say" ina sabru miftaxu alfaraj"...which roughly translates as good things come to those who wait for it with perseverance and patience. so wait sister and don't despair and do pray salatu istikharah, which is guidance prayer and ask Allah swt to help you in life in general, and do add make me meet a potential religious hubby heheh.. Ducaysane amina waayo ma mid laga quustay oo wax hesha talow...lol salaam

I would say you're right do stay away from people who were married previously...not because they are evil or anything like that. But, since they left one marriage, it tells me a lot about that person and that maybe they have commitment issues. I know a lot of times its about calaf, bt I honestly strongly believe that marriage is till death do you apart. Regardless of the obstacle one meets, they must struggle to overcome it especially when kids are in the picture. I know these days marriage is nothing people get married and get divorced within months. It lost its value sadly. btw wlc to sol, i dnt believe i saw your posts before....and hey qalanjo is by far better than quranjo, lets hope it was a typo rather...hehehe salaam

^It's also a women's religious right to attain a divorce if she can't share her husband.. salaam

I didn't see anywhere in the story where it mentioned oh she wanted him? If that's the case by all means. I already mentioned earlier that some people don't mind sharing their husbands. So go ahead she can. But, if in any case she doesn't want to share him she has that right to get her divorce papers. And, even then he has to support her. Too bad she lives in H-town cuz if she lived here she could have made sure he supported her even though she got her papers. I heard this story about a guy divorcing his wife and somehow she took him to court so now they deduct like 2000 dollars from his account directly without even asking for his permission hehehe aint that just sweet. So maybe you are right because she lives back home and there is not a law in place she has to be sweet or he can stop paying her . oh well.. salaam..

I never looked at this story from one side. A man just leaves his wife for another without even letting her know??... First mistake is the fact that he left her (why is he leaving his wife who he had 8 kids with..thats just cold) second mistake...he didn't even let her know..he just walked out on her... And, remember am not biased...I did give him a credit when Jac mentioned that he supports his kids financially..And, am not even against his second marriage. He should have just thought it through..and rather did it in a respectful way. dhinaca kale ee laga eegayo wa xagee talow? you guys are just biased..ninka rabta in aa iskala jirtiin..I mean you all want to be married to four wives and all of them smiling at you and kissing your feet...waxa ma jiraan...so smell the coffee wa salaam

^^lool why don't we put you in her shoes? would you have dun the same??....if a girl left you and just married another...would you have run after her and kissed her feet? I highly doubt that. Put others in your shoes will you adeer.. ------------------------------ "None of you [truly] believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself." related by Bukhari and Muslim