^oh it was a political song. That is interesting ! how do you know that though?

haha nothing to do with being heartless or iskawayni. It just wasnt meant to be...but I love this song!..=) so whats up with you? why did you post this song? crying after some girl miskiin salaam.. Edit: oh wait you were married...ma xaskaagi baad ka calcali

it says Nuur Eebe on it...

been my favorite song ever since...=)

haha a guy send me this song when I was younger cuz I wasnt into him! Memories lol..not to be heartless or anything!

Must see. Very inspiring video. I hope you guys find it beneficial insha'Allah.

I love the shaash saar, it's my favourite part! Can't wait for my own. ^^ most girls dnt like to be put on the spot with all these ladies throwing shaash on them..but I am glad u think it is fun ..insha'Allah your shaash saar party will turn out great. Hope for u all the best .. I only know the southern version, which is why ''xeedho'' wasn't ringing any bells lol. As for me as u can see frm my posts I hardly know the difference btw xeedho or shaash saar...lol..

Haa dee. In the xeedho -- xeedho ayaa la furaa. In the shaash saar gabadha ayaa shaash loo saaraa. LOL. Xeedho is mixed, shaash saar lady only affair. But both are done on the 7th day (todoba bax) and more or less celebrate the same milestone, except us northerners are a little more graffic about it. LOL. LOL thanks hun for the clarification..I asked my mom now and she said we are invited to shaash saar? yet she said xeedhona wa la furaya..and it is only girls?..cant make muchhh sense of that lol..I guess our culture is slowly changing.. salaam

A khadar I have never seen anyone being questioned like blessed said i only seen women open it. It would have been fun to see a guy opening and then beating him with a stick if he doesnt get it right...I guess those of us in the qurbaha are missing out on a lot.. A khadar I love muqmad too..

^^I thought shaashsaar and the xeedho was the same lol..miyey kala duwanyihiin?!

I agree with nuune wax suurta gal aheen...I think lmao@Mushmacquul! ...

^^I take pictures of the xeedho??!! plenty of them available online also I didnt know somalis from the south didnt practice it. A very close friend of mine is from xamar and she didnt know what xeedho was...so why is it specific to just the somalis from the north?? I thought perhaps her family called it a different name but when I explained to her she said they didnt practice it...so any thoughts on that?

I'm invited to this xeedho saar party.. And, just out of curiousity I decided to search for the meaning behind it.. So it was interesting to find this. Those of you who dnt know..u know it now. And, those who did well read it anyways lol.. salaam

Xeedho February 1, 2008 by shafi The Xeedho is a custom usually prevalent in the Northern parts of Somalia. After the wedding is consummated and the bride and groom settle peacefully in their newly constructed home, it is time for opening the Xeedho or as it is called in Somali Xeedho-fur. This usually occurs on the seventh night, – the final night of the seven-day honeymoon period. The roots of Xeedho lie in the pastoral lands with the Somali Nomads. The custom though, is dwindling in the rural areas and has, as of late, taken a great following in the urban areas In the olden times the villagers would gather outside the hut of the newly weds and the Xeedho-opening ceremony would take place. The gathering in the city does not differ much from that of the villages as all people congregate in a large hall. The Xeedho, with its gracefully winding shape is designed with the bride in mind. It actually signifies the bride. As the members of both the families gather around in big circles, the Xeedho is placed in the middle and the ceremony begins. So it must be tended to as if it were the bride herself and as a result, the opening of the Xeedho has fixed rules and regulations, though many of them are no longer practiced by majority of people. The tradition is slowly dying and losing its formal procedures, some of which are: * The Xeedho MUST be opened completely so that the groom can publicly declare the bride as his wife. * The groom cannot partake in the opening of the Xeedho * A male member from the groom’s tribe, usually a close relative such as a cousin, etc. is chosen to open the knots on the Xeedho. First though, he must take the upper veil off, just as he would a new bride in her wedding gown, and then process with the untying of the ropes. * A guard, usually a woman and from the bride’s family, holding a gentle stick stands beside the Xeedho and watches as the man carefully tries to untie the labyrinth of knots. Being one of the few women who spent days and days interweaving the rope on the Xeedho, she knows every opening and every knot. * If the man places his hands on the wrong end of the rope, or tries to open the rope from a different knot, the female guard lightly whips him with her stick. That signifies that he has to change the course of his opening of the rope and find a new lead. This will continue until the Xeedho is opened. * There is nothing wrong if the man finds the opening end of the Xeedho easily and it is opened quickly, though sometimes this might cause a squabble between the female members of the two parties. * There is only one opening of the rope on the Xeedho. This opening is a tiny knot hidden in the maze of ropes. If the man finds the opening, he would simply pull it and it disentangles itself completely – thereby opening the Xeedho. * Several male members from the groom’s family will attempt to open the Xeedho, and all that time, the Guard keeps watch for any mistakes. * If the Xeedho is not opened that night, they congregation returns the following night to try and open it. If the relatives of the groom fail to open the Xeedho, a great deal of disgrace follows them wherever they go. The bride is (sometimes) repossessed by her family saying that the groom, whose relatives could not open the Xeedho, will not be capable of catering to the needs of the bride. The women engage in verbal scuffles and a war of songs while the men resort to spiteful words of poetry being recited over a course of time. Sometimes even battles between tribes came about as a result of a Xeedho not opened properly or not opened at all. The white cloth draped around the curvy container is called Salaq. The Xeedho is the complete thing and the outer hard covering that it is contained in is called Sati. Inside the Xeedho is small container with the Subag covered with a thick coating of dates. The dates are mixed with several spices and then ground together to make this chunky substance. It is not just Subag though, but there is also Muqmad/oodkac – small dried meatballs immersed in the Subag. After the successful opening of the Xeedho, its contents I.e. the Subag and Muqmad are distributed among the male members of both families/relatives/attendees. It is customary that the women do not eat from the Xeedho – for them is a special one taken to the girls house which is then distributed accordingly.

I just read the first post and couldnt help laughing..ma sidan ba adeer aabe ku tahay? I know dahabo aint ur daughter bt from what I gathered over the years u have kids see bay ka noqotay lol.. between I love dahabo and ur funny conversations with her... adiga laakin ka daran markaad cunug yar la tirsanasid loool no wonder shes talking to u like ur her age!.. habeen wacan.. salam

^ I am talking to everyone in Sol..not just the individuals in this thread! just reminding them that this is an online forum at the end of the day with no names or faces attached to anyone...not something that should make us angry!..even in real life if someone called you names you should try to ignore it....sababto ah af caytamay ninkisa ku yaala! it only degrades that individual who said it!..I have myself disagreed with ppl over the years in Sol..and at times some ppl degraded themselves to calling me names..I just let it go sababto ah words that are typed on a forum cant hurt me in no way and im talking abt ppl who said names to me not people who made a comment of girls in general...! so ppl should just try to do that...nothing else to it! habeen wacan o wanagsan ppl

lol funniest thread in SOL.. lets not forget at the end of the day this is a cyber world..and no one really knows each other or cares about each other..so lets cool it! Respect begets respect my maryooley friends. Let's not forget ourselves and give in to silliness. Well put sister Val.

Ms Moons lol@ say hi to your jiini friends..nice come back!

Lol. Cirka yeertu illeen waa calaam Rabbbaani ah. Ma cidbaa la hadashay liinta yar, raggoow waa yaab eh? Naa i sheekada la qabso ha la i shukaamiyee lafeedaa xirfad leh. Ee orodoo ciyaallada la yooyootan. Kol dambe ha igu soo saqajaamin, sanbuusayahay laga addimay. Uskut LOL I didnt understand most of that yet it was funny.. Anyhow, sheydaanka iska naara and take it easy people. This is only a forum...as NG would say "words on a screen"...nothing to be taken personal.

^As somalis we like to point out other ppls mistakes..wa iska dhaqan lol...I wonder how many in here actually pray all their 5 prayers and practice Islam the right way!!... Islam is not a religion to be forced on anyone. If this sister chose to live her life this way then so be it..I for one don't care... danihiina raacda

lol@afar lugood..whatever that means!! NO thanks..lol salaam

^hahaha too true! My friend called me teh other day and was telling me how marriage lasts two weeks where shes at..!..um like two weeks.?..I think ppl are getting more self centered or childish abt the whole marriage thing! Anyhow, I love this guy we def need someone like him in the community.. or better yet you can give me any day a somali younger version of him I loved the video Adam posted the other day..abt him telling guys to make the bed, fix the table, and stuff like that! how sweet a dude who actually does that instead of being a lazy a***.. salaam

^haha thanks inadeer =)...bt I doubt I'm much ofa story teller!...

lol@ studygan will help!....finally waxaad ku qaraabato baa so baxay miya...haye good luck bal! LOL..laakin gabadh qurbe joogta studygan uma maleenayo in uu wax ka badalayo! ta somalia jogtan sharcigaaga uun u muuqda o waxay odhan .." aboowe ma amerika i geenasa ina wadi noloshaada ama ha dheraato ama ee dheeraan ima qoseese infact markaad airportka iga dajisid dhimo hadad rabto " LOL salaam