You are most wlc Nina Fox.. Lily, lol sis it is not tht bad. It is all abt managing one's time and you know u can go to the salon but that's once in a while right? or do u guys go to the salon all the time? I am too broke to do that lol and money doesnt grow on tree around here heheh joking...anyhow, jokes aside I dnt go to the salon unless im attending a party lol..bt still, even if you are the kinda person who goes to the salon all the time u need to find ways to take care of your hair the days ur not going to a salon.. But, honestly I find it more fun and maybe thats why it doesnt seem like too much work lol...But, then again my hair is too curly and buffy n if I leave it on its own (ppl would think i had a crazy hair day LOL)..So, maybe some of you have indian hair and u can wash n go..hahah salaam

^The lyrics of the above nasheed .. Mountains of Makkah Lyrics Oh Mountains of Makkah, what can you say Of the day that Ibrahim passed your way? And He was instructed by God to build A House of peace where people will pray And they will come on every lean camel and out of every ravine For the purpose of praising Allah To glorify Allah Oh Mountains of Makkah, what can you tell Of the day that stones from the sky fell? Destroying an army determined to break The House of Allah that Abraham built Oh Mountains of Makkah, how was the dawn On the day that my Prophet Muhammad was born? How did it feel knowing he was to be the last and most beloved of all? Rasul of Allah, Nabi of Allah Oh Mountains of Makkah, you were there When the Prophet Muhammad climbed down in despair Engraved in his heart were the words of his Lord To all of mankind this was his call La illaha illAllah, Muhammadun-Rasul-Allah Oh people praise only Allah, Glorify Allah Oh Mountains of Makkah, how did you mourn On the day that the beloved returned to his Lord? And up ‘till the last breath escaped from his lips He prayed that his Ummah would find success Oh Mountains of Makkah how will it feel When the earth shall quake and tremble with fear? And we shall be gathered together to stand In the court of Allah with our deeds at hand Oh how we pray that on that day We’ll be with those to whom Allah will say “Peace be with you, I am pleased with you” Oh Mountains of Makkah, Bear witness that I To the oneness of Allah do I testify For all that He’s given me, how can I deny My purpose in life should be only to cry: La illaha illAllah, Muhammadun-Rasul Allah There is no god but Allah, Muhammad’s His Messenger Allahumma Salli ala, Muhammad Rasullillah Allahumma Salli ala, Muhammad Nabi Allah Allahumma Salli ala, Muhammad Rasullillah Allahumma Salli ala, Muhammad Rasul of Allah

^ I have deleted all songs from my cell phone a while back... I should upload some nasheeds! good idea jazakalaah! In love with this beautiful nasheed. salaam

Well put El Punto. Insha'Allah this is just a phase that our community is going through and we will realize there is nothing better than our culture and religion. And, we don't need to copy the ghetto culture.. salaam

^ Thank you Nur. I have always enjoyed reading your posts in the Islamic Section. May Allah swt reward you for your efforts. salada waa waxa ugu danbeeyey uu nabigu nogu dardaarmay marku yidhi prayer prayer prayer (na tusay muhimadeeda). Qofka saladiisa oooga waxkasta ayaaba u sahlananaya wa furaha duni iyo akhiroba ...Alle hanaga dhigo kuwii ooga insha'allah. salaam

It's a strange situation. The same applies in Canada though with much less racism and more opportunities than Australia. These countries say they want 'skilled' immigrants and yet do everything to put up road blocks for these immigrants finding employment. Why not simply take unskilled immigrants if all these skilled immigrants end up doing that unskilled work? I would assume that is what they term brain drain. Taking skilled immigrants from foreign countries. That way those countries wont take advantage of their skilled citizens. At the same time when they get here they see the reality that they will be stuck with unskilled work and dead end jobs. n it would be difficult to practice in their field... bt still there are immigrants who have worked hard and found jobs in their field...although there are too many obstacles out there and the fact that some people have to support their families might discourage them from taking the extra mile to practice in their field (ie go back to school etc) salaam

^u completely lost me!!...not to mention I have said in many posts that I respect those who marry outside of their race, but I don't see myself in that boat.. Malika lol sis I contribute a lot to the marriage posts I guess..that doesn't mean I was ready at the time. Inshallah when the right time comes I will salaam

Oh please! It was the tone, the underlying message was that having black babies meant one has lost all morality/spiritual/culturally and socially - ps. Yes there are moral, spiritual and social issues concerning all of us in regard to our youth - but I would'nt just concetrate on those whom had 'black babies' .. That wasn't the underlying message I was trying to convey in my posts. Not at all. My point was having babies out of wedlock with black/ghetto non muslim guys one has lost all morality/spiritiual/culture and socially..how come you guys are just focusing on the term black and not the fact that I was talking abt non muslim ghetto guys??.. whats with you people and trying to put words in my mouth.. I give up on trying to make u people understand my point.. Che lol dadkan just wanna argue walee.. tan kale I don't know abt london (maybe somali girls down there have kids out of wedlock with bangalis or indians or whoever else who lives in those ghetto areas. But, in canada mainly somali girls in the ghetto have kids out of wedlock with non-muslim black ghetto guys..so basically this is the trend I seen. salaam p.s. If one wants to marry and have kids with a muslim black guy. There's nothing wrong with that..so my comments were not racist at all. so all of you just chill out and move on

^ aww you left ur mom so young but after the civil war I assume many people have their own distinct stories and experiences..Inshallah though I hope you reunite with her if she's still alife and perhaps u can take care of her (to answer your question if the guy has his own house but wants to take care of his mother that's alright and nothing ciyaal mama abt that).. but then again some mothers are quite handful from what I see in the somali community so err it depends if she is monster in law as long as she's healthy she can live alone lol..(but if she's unhealthy and needs help she should live with her son and his wife lol am I a lil heartless here! haha sheeko baa jirtay gabadh aya ninkeeda ku tidhi hoyada ilama nolaan karto (im not sure who was wrong here whether the wife was a b** or the mother in law was a monster in law) all I know is that she wanted the mother in law to live alone so he insisted on her like can u just let my mother live with us..way diiday. bas wayahay buu yidhi he got his mom her own place right...and after a while hoyadeed baa intay sharci u xareesay u timid..markasay hoyadeed gurigeedi keentay (im assuming waqti ba u dhaxeeyey the time she kicked her mom in law n the time she sponsored her mother) ..so the guy was like hoyada guri aan u kireeno? markasay tidhi "ma hoyaday abadan ma dhacayso shekadas" markasa gogol la isla dhigteen oo qaraabo iyo eheloba involved ku noqdeen..xaskisa way halmaamtay saan filayo islaanti hore ee eriday lol..akhiran shekadii waxay tagtay runta oo wuxu yidhi hoyaday bay sanado ka hor guriga ka eriday maantana hoyadeed bay guriga rabta in ay dajiso..wuxu yidhi wax xumaan ah hoyadeed uma qabo oo waa my mother in law (sorry forgot the somali word for that) laakin cashar ayaan ku baraya xaskeeyga markasa nimanki u tageen oo dhahaya na nacasyahay ma saasa sameesay oo caqli daranida...long story short ..labadi hooyo isla guri ba la keenay and I guess that was the end of it lol..showing u caqli darada some girls.. so there is I guess that side where some girls hate mother in laws and want their moms..n theres that other side where the mother in laws can be a bit too much!.. salaam

Polanyi lol if you read the article further u would have known that it wasn't about internet dating but rather that women should settle for a good guy who is already put together instead of always lookin for one to change.. Somalina lol thanks hun... Malika lol loving ur categories..tnx! loool@ dirici aan barigi ibsaday..if u bought that when I joined sol mesha wuuba ku gaboobe bal mid kale so iibso..

loool Somalina. Too bad that I am too honest and I will probably brust out laughing somewhere half the conversation knowing that I am trynna outsmart the lady.. Anyways, wll keep ur tips in mind. They might come handy with the mama's boi my mom has in mind for me salaam

^Silly cow aka inajaad..waryaa stop talking rubbish! allahood baa siiyay the right to think! salaam

loool somalina...naa heedhe bal warka cadee, islaanta ma shaaha wax ugu dartaa haha kaftan. I got your point ma marba isla suaashi aya si kale u dhigta like askari...hmm! I will keep that in mind n if I try it will let u know the results..hadhow uun ya hooyo la isoo sheegin na tan walan aad dhashay oo isla suashi kun jeer i waydiina maxa ka qaldan hehe.. salaam

Koolkat well put. I can also understand where blessed is coming from, laakin blessed ciyaal maminimado levelska kala duwan bal xoga noga sheeg aan kala baranee ..ta caadiga ah iyo ta ka badbadan lol Somalina, lool waliga ma aragtay hooyo magasa ilmaheeda. inta badan shekada way buubuuniyaan hadaad dhahdid gormu so kaca waxay dhahasa salada fajar ka hor ayuu kaca oo anagana no kicya mashallah lama arag lamana maqal loool...waliga miya maqal even a gorilla is cute front of his mother's eye (just to make a point! lol)..marka iska jir waxay hoyadii ku sheegto, wareeso at least cidkale jararka etc Blessed, ouch@ domestically challenged (now that's my nightmare lol) but at least waxa tidhi walid wuu jecelyahay mashallah alle ha ku sakhiro insha'Allah.. salaam

lol Abwaan, no man will step inside my apartment, if I choose to live alone. taasi wa diin daro iyo sharaf daro. lool I just notice Blessed said he "lived" past tense. Sad case someone get me tissues lol... ok guys I will be back later... till then continue with ur feedbacks. salaam

In fact if I might add...if a man is serious about a girl he would prefer visiting her at her family's house so he can show her family that he's worth it and get to know her family... laakin kudaaf iyo ciyaalasuuq baa raba gabadh kaligeed dagan in uu so booqdo. Sorry abt being a lil harsh on my language. But, that is the truth!.. salaam p.s Blessed, that guy is exception not the rule...ma arag wilal wax nadifiya ama cunta kariya..haday jiraana wa fara ku tiris lol..bt man did u just say he's good looking n cooks n cleans too...that sounds like the perfect guy..bal ii sheeg does he work for some oil company in the UAE lmao

lol maya aduu dan kale baad ka leedahay.. we believe in living alone for a while to grow up and learn how to be responsible and self sufficient.....while aduu mid aad boqatid baad radinasa. Khyr ma lihid. LOL

I don't know how living on your own prepares you for life with another? Living with my family has taught me a lot about tolerance, sabr and balancing life, work and family. Blessed, I always realize after answering a post that I didn't answer the other part lol... so let me answer it now... I agree that living with ur family teaches you a lot. On a day to day basis, I am cooking for my family..I am doing the house chores..doing homework with my little sister.. Advicing my sisters and brothers abt whatever thats they are confronting with their life. Subhanalah there is no better preparation than family. At the same time, when my parents are paying all the bills and you know makin most of the decision around the house (Even though they do consult me) it is still not the same as taking care of yourself. So, I believe in the idea like koolkat posted that someone needs to live alone at least for a while a year or two ..and i dnt just mean paying the bills but taking responsibility for everything that happens in your life. Rather than running to ur mama or dad and what not...at least that's my perspective on this issue.. saan umaagayo wilasha o u leeyahay it is not good being a mama's boi, it is the same..it is not cool being mama's little girl...and then what happens when you get married and u have to make all these decision that u never did before lol...u would expect ur spouse to fill that shoes somaha..wa sida lo dhoho mama's boi iska jira..wuxu raba xaas hoyadii oo kale ah lmao..waxaasna waa mustaxiil. Not possible haye im yapping too much.. salaam

lol...Aaliyah. Kani qaad ma ruugo anigaa kaa huba ee bal cillad kale u raadi! I think guubaabo ayay ka ahayd oo ah meesha ka xeroo hooyo ha soo agtaagnaane! lol Lol Abwaan...si khaldan ayuu ila taliyay. Si toosa in uu i dhoho bay aheed mesha ka kac..looool tan kale alle qaad ma cunsiiyo. I was joking abt that...

Aaliyah, adi horta "haram" maxaa ugu boodaa? Naga daa dee! Someone coming to visit you doesn't have to be wax xun hadaad kaligaa dagan tahay.. I don't think it is decent or islamic to have a guy over at your house when a girl lives alone. You know the prophet csw said, "Whenever a man is alone with a woman the Devil makes a third." this is not something im getting from my own pocket so lets not mix culture and religion. If a girl wants to invite a guy at her parents' house at the present of her parents/siblings..thats understood. Anyways, I am not saying ppl should follow this..but I will abide by this! and I am only responsible for mee... Women, Somali women specially, should experience to live alone before they get married...From dear parents' home to marriage dhibaato weyn beey dad badan ukeentay...Nimankana waa iney iyagana kaligood dagaan, oo nololshoodu dhistaan si gooni ah, away from parents/siblings...Ka carara kii idin yiraahdo "lacag baan ku aruursan"! Waligeedna lacagta ma ururto, isagana meel uma dhaqaaqo... looooooool exactly we are on the same page..My mom said lacag buu uruursanaya bt im like a dude who is 27 who still lives with his parents is a big no-no for me! at least we agreed on this koolkat lol.. Blessed,you are right that when a guy who lives with his parents can be family oriented, but seriously what will deferentiate whether he is family oriented or a mama's boi lol...most likely most somali guys who live with their parents fall on the latter category! or maybe I'm generalizing a little..either way I like kool kat's moto "ka carara ki dhaha lacag baan uruursanaya"...anuu waxan ku dari laha uun "ila so socodsii markaad uruursatid oo kaliga dagtid" lmao.. p.s Koolkat you answered the question u posted abt why I prefer a guy who lives alone when you said ka carara mid dhaha lacag baan uruursanaya that really sums it up

^^^In islam it is not recommended rather it is discouraged. However, I am sure a girl can live on her own if she so choose to as long as she practices islam. After all Allah swt will judge us based on our deeds (so as long as we are pious in our apartments so be it!!!)..I do actually believe at some point you need your personal space. salaam

same to you. Maalin wacan.

Adeer, clearly there is a huge difference between meeting someone and bringing a guy to your place. The latter being haraam in Islam. Hope you don't advice that to anyone else and see ur mistake!...Anyways, move on. salaam

Taleex, as usual you and your odd comments! something tells me qaad baad ruugta! no offense intended. But, if you have nothing constructive to write waxba haso qorin..walaasha mathalan xita haday kaligeed noshahay adiga ma jeclaan laheed nin inuu so booqdo lol...gabadh muslim ah wax xun hakula talin mala taa dhashay ama ta kula dhalatay kusoo noqotay..ana intaas ba iga talo ah LMAO

What is so silly about this. I find it informative and interesting to read n infact I kinda can relate to the second article I posted. My mother the other day suggested to me a guy who lives with his parents and I was like hooyo he lives with his parents n she was like so what? that's not big deal. He is saving and what not lol..anyhow I am kinda on the same boat as the writer and feel the same way (Even though unlike her I don't live on my own but then again religously it is not sound for a girl to live alone even though I would love to kinda allows you to become mature I guess and self sufficient) salaam