lool ms moon garoowe girl will cook whether she likes it or not, and yeah hopefully she will find a farah who wont mind helping her out with the housechores and the cooking and what not..but no guy would wanna cook food 24/7 unless ofcourse ms garoowe has a top notch job and can afford a farah (the best bet would be mid somalia kasoo sponsor oo dheh bariiska iisamee) with the warning that she will deport him if he acts up lool..si kale farah kijada uma galayo 24/7 salaam

*my mother doesnt seem to agree with my plans. she said that ''naag'' will 'destroy me' but i've already told her that its none of her business, anyways she's in london. god, i cant stand people interfering in my business. You can not address your mother in that fashion clearly she was pregnant with you for 9 months?? so your life is her business inta ma fahantay....bt it doesnt mean u have to agree with her on everything, you are your own person....but gently tell her you have a different perspective and im sure she will understand..its just that mothers usually wanna show off...I have lately been thinkin not to even have a wedding if i ever choose to get married..my mom was like "maxa tidhi come again" loool..and then she was like "wa iyeelkada"..I guess when you read religious books more you realize how irrelevant weddings are..bt that its more important you find someone pious. salaam

BARAKALLAHU LAKA WA BAARAKALLAHU ALAIKA WA JAMA' AA BAINAKUMA FEE KHAIR. May ALLAH bless you and shower his blessing upon you and keep you in a happy union. I always hear this dua at the weddings..bt then whenever im congratulatign a couple i see myself going ..isku waara or ubad qeyr qaba dhala or somein along those lines.! that will change soon inshallah gotta use this dua more often .. salaam p.s people stop hating!

usually ppl buy me things lol i dnt really buy anything that valuable so lets see..the best thing I have is this beautiful gold set given to me by my hooyo on my 15th birday markay oday igu duceeysay hehehe.. salaam

lol A_Khadar u got me wrong I didn't mean to say women are to blame..not at all im sure different reasons might result in tension, but what I MEANt WAS men were always jerks..or wait should I say some men were always irresponsible even back home im sure..laakin women used to take all the pain just so they could raise their families (oo ninka way u baahnayen yacni in uu la dabaro bilasha iyo waxay reerku u bahanyihiin) laakin hada ama way shaqaysan ama caydh bay qadeen marka haday happy wax ku aheen waxay ku dhihi war iga huleel dhibtaada ma rabee oo bacda madow horay usii xanbaaro ..saas bay ila tahay. just saying! LOL.. salaam

atarisho dont listen to Zack wax la trust gareeyo mesha anaaba jooge lol

^I believe libaaxsankataabte owns this site..I could be mistaken! dunnoee never asked LOL

I guess we said all there's to be saidddddddd.. I agree with Faheema now..lets just cool off from this topic.

atariisho lol I always see at the bottom of the site rejected and then some number beside it. But, seriously based on what criteria do they accept or reject someone lol,,its only after someone posts disrespectful comments you can decide hey this person should be banned or whatever.. anyways, wlc again...enjoy your stay! and stop complaining lol mar hadii lugu ogolaaday! salaam

^generally speaking I believe that marriage is till death do you apart - but what do I know, im sure those who are getting divorced have their own issues going that they think they are better not being in it... laakin waxa wacan in waxkasta la isku dayo to make it work...especially when there are kids involved like u said! I know i cant imagine a life without my father. N i'm sure when a father isnt around it has a negative impact on the kids especially and even the overall happiness of the family..every lady can pretend she has everything under control..bt that family isn't complete (especially when the dad is alive and somewhere..if the dad is dead..taas wa la fahmay)..but knowing your dad is somewhere and here you are without your dad? hmm i really think that is a sad case!..especially for wiilasha, who will they take as a role model??! usually moms are too soft, and that exactly explains why the bois go out of control later on in life my 2 cents salaam

I think when I signed up they allowed me just like that, but it was like 5 years ago..maybe they dnt need anymore members lol..inti hore bay inay kala celiyaan ku daaleen anyways, wlc... salaam

lol@ xajadu ma xuma...True, there are weddings everytime. I been to many weddings just this year..friends, neighbors..etc!!..im not really the kinda person who goes to wedding I try to minimize yet I been to so many!..couldnt skip them! Munira, I think it has a lot to do with ladies becoming more independent (that is financially independent)... So if the guy acts up theres nothing thats holding the lady to him..bacda madow! salaam

^thanks for your advice. I appreciate it

Sharmarke ilaahay qof walba asaga og gortu so hadeenayo. Just pray for them..and I think the whole reason why somali families can't be strict as pakistani families when it comes to their children's code of their dressing is cuz 20 years ago they themselves were not practicing muslims..almost any somali family u would see pics of their moms in the 80s with afro hairs and big earings (no offense intended but just sayings)..and it wasnt their fault at all one old lady told me "only heblayo used to pray waxan ku odhan jiray naa iska fadhiso waad yartahay) they clearly didnt know much about deen so im not going to blame them..laakin marki halkan layimidna dee dhibteedee leedahay (at least back home ppl had culture..but here we have lost both our culture and religion and thats why it is even more dangerous. qofku haduu dhaqan leeyahay waxyaala badan ayuu ka xishoonaya xita haduu diinta waxbadan ka ogeen..lakin dhaqanki iyo diinti hadii labada darashada laga tuuro maxa so hadhay..and this applies to both men and women alike, I really don't like when ppl put more emphasis on their duaghters..wilashaba melahaas bay edabdaro la taganyihiin kuwa badan oo ka mid ah not to generalize or anything.) with that been said, u are right we all have to respect each other..bt i guess to blessed what jamalo wrote sound utter nonsense even thou it isn't..laakin gabadho badan guriga jooga 24/7 oo ha shaqeesanina oo carurta haya shekadaas ma jecla mana ka dhaadhacdo!!..and when i THINK about it could be boring lol laakin u know u gotta sacrifice for your kids iguess.. salaam

Good luck hun. I can't wait to be a mother, I think it is blessing even thou it is hard work too... as for going to a movie and a dinner..taas baa ka fiican in la aado somali meeelay iskuso uruurtay..maba aado waxaas anu! laakin kun jeer baan maqlay shooting ba dhacay iyo labo wilal ba gabadh isku dilay iyo wixi la halmaala (u are better off avoiding all that drama) tan kale imagine u get shot in one of those concerts (alle hanaga xijaabi khatimada xun). salaam

^bal slow down, and respect blessed. She's a mother and knows what she's talking about as well..i'm sure she juggles between work, kids, and hubby (and with the right man its probably possible! and of course with a lot of patience from both sides).. salaam

Val good to hear that u will be seeing them soon, there are no one like family walaalo. and ur right kids are quite troublesome. But, to be honest my sister carries herself in such a mature way when she's outside ..yadaaba dadka kala celisa..dhibtu wa markay guriga joogto loool. Being the youngest she does whatever. @Nintendo 3DS ..hehe I couldn't say. It is probably like playstation or somein. I don't have any baby bros...kuligood wa dad wawayn. And, my younger boi cousins i dnt pay attention to what they play on their pc/tv...as long as ay iga sii jedaan I'm happy!..they can be quite annoying if they are not playing games... salaam

Genius lol now I know why you are called Genius, you can do simple math....Val he used the calculator Jamalo has a point. Laakin Education both for this dunya and akhira are as important...whether a girl later chooses to stay at home to take care of her kids is up to her (and dabcan better for her kids..caruur hooyo koriso lama mid noqonayan caruur daycare so korisay!) tan kale maalin dhoweed book sociology ah waxan ka akhriyay that nowadays even thou men do teh household chores with their working wives, there s higher chance for them to divorce (waxasna gaalo baaba garatay....and the reason is probably what jamalo mentioned above two ppl being tired after work) salaam

aw Val u miss them...thats okey. Inshallah u will see them soon...n lol@ my perfumes are safe..what else are sisters for..my younger sisters are the same...they share with me everything!...even my 10 years old sister the one i spend my eid with..tries my gabisaar on.iskadaa wax kale say u rabto waxkasto aan leeyahay inay xidhato ....she would be like "aaliya how do I look" im like its not your size loool!..gotta love it!...it is precious moments..! May Allah swt bless and protect our sisters...they are definitely the coolness of our eyes!.. salaam

^lol ur whole family ditched u eh...bt whats more better than spending the day with your son alhamdulilaah...bt hey u dont come across like a mother u sound too cooool! lol..anyways, I spend it most of the day with my lil sister too i ditched most of my friends she means so much to mee and more....we had a blast! n we did visit some relatives later on in the day!..

lol at least why didnt u add tamatoe sauce to the pasta as for the somali songs improving my somali?? that probably has some truth to it, especially in terms of writing Somali(since i always write the lyrics out of a hobby).. But, I have always spoke somali with fluency.. salaam

Jamalo I agree with everything u wrote on your second post. We are on the same page..n ur right abt the perfect man being in Jannah lol im beginning to realize that Sharmarke I simply meant a girl should be self sufficient she doesnt necessarily have to make more income than her hubby n if she does he should feel proud of her alhamdulilah.. *What does "Ilaahay in la tala saarto" mean in practice? Does it mean 18 is old enough for a girl to move out of her parent/guardian's household? I am not a scholar but I think you'd find the "talo" is girls should not move out just because they're 18. If you know otherwise, pls let me know because I don't think it is minor issue that can be decided in a such cavalier Ayoub, Ilaahay in la talo saarto waxay ka mid tahay markaad ilmahaga diinta bartid ilaa from a young age..sheko ba jirtay asxaabta inay aheed iyo inkale ma hubo laakin nin yidhi ilmaheegu wa labo jir ee sida u bara oo u barbaariya..markasa lugu yidhi ma labo jir baa xagee ku maqneed inti hore..marka from the day ilmahaga gacantaada lugu galiyo ilaa maalintu uu ka qaangaadhayo oo caqli ku filan helayo wa in aad tobabartaa oo diin iyo akhlaaq iyo adaab iyo waxkasta bartaa...marku ilmahaas 18 ama 19 ma lihi anuu ha la dhoho .u know what u are 18 u gotta move out..waxaas dhaqankeena ma aha. Laakin shekadu waxay aheed campuses iyo ardayda ku nool. Marka hadii ilmahaga 18 jiro ay dhahdo hooyo waxaan raba jamacad hebla in aan ka qaado programkaas oo aad i cajabiyay, in aad yacni garatid gabadhaadu in ay qof weyn tahay caqli leeedahay isku filantahay (dabcan sometimes responsibility is a relative term and if u do see ur 18 yrs old is clearly immature maybe don't let her, but if your daughter gave you absolutely no reason to not trust her and she was always mature why ever reason would u refuse her valid request)..tan kale, maybe many of you don't remember how mature u were at 18 and it feels so far away, but for me it was 6 years ago. And, honestly nothing changed for me..bt alhamdulilah if today I pursue graduate school my parents have nothing against it if i move out...but moving out for no reason whatsoever other than hey i wanna grow up and pay my bills still doesnt cut it for them lol.. salaam

i don't necessarily hate cooking but i cant say i used to love it either..bt i kinda like it now!..either way cooking is part of life. Embrace it sis! salaam

^that was my favourite song..actually a friend posted a while back on my fb page and asked me for the lyrics..and I ended up typing the lyrics for her..and really fell in love with this song! They're both talented walahi!.. n i have no idea if shes married or not bt isnt she like an older lady...isku fac ma tihiin??! .. salaam

^Education is important part of life. Tan kale markaad waxbaratid ood isku filantahay ayuu ninkuna ku ihtiramaya.. We live a different time than our parents, gabadh isku filan un aya aduunkan ka dabalanasa (im not saying she shouldnt stay home to take care of her kids and family..but a man should know that if he walks out of that door waad isku filantahay that way he will respect you even more..) Things were different in our parents time..ihtiraam waad heli hadad xita iskool waliga soo dhigan oo caruurtaada ku filnaantid..laakin hada waxa ma shaqeenaso..kolay aniga saas bay ila tahay! as for the settling part...guurku wa calaf iyo qof wacan in aad heshid! u dont just settle for the sake of getting married!.. salaam