Originally posted by Rahima: So basically we either accept to be part of a polygamous marriage or find ourselves another religion because we are going against Islam :rolleyes: . What do you make of that reasoning Libaan? Do i as a sister who holds this view not have a right to be offended? Not once did I say or even think you must accept that your (future or current) husband wants more than one wife. But what you and others in this thread are implying is that the judgement of Allah SWT is unfair towards women because we can marry up to 4 wives, while you are stuck with one husband, hence my statements that you can find another religion and to not fall into the same hole as kufaars. Like I said, kufaars are doing a real great job of complaining about women's rights in Islam already and let's face it, we as an Ummah aren't doing much to dispel their myths. Basically, what I mean is that if you don't like the whole polygamy concept, you don't have to jump down my throat because I may or may not take advantage of something that Allah SWT has given me the right to do. I can understand if you think all men are using the wrong head to make their decisions, trust me, many of us do. But do you really think I would take on another wife without knowing the possible consequences? Jealous wives, two(or more) families dependent upon me and Allah SWT to provide for them equally, and the knowledge that if I fail in my duties to do so, I will be in very serious trouble on the Day of Qiyaamah? If polygamous men carry out their Islamic responsibility and not cut any corners, then having another wife is not as fun as it may look. So you shouldn't think that women are the only ones who bear a burden when it comes to multiple wives. The only difference is that men get more jiggy-jiggy out of the deal.

Oh man....I shouldn't have ate that turkey sandwich.....I don't feel so good..... *runs to bathroom* BLEEEECCCCCHHHH!!!!

Originally posted by Rahima: I am equally disgusted with all these Faraxs who have nothing better to do but consume their time with trying to deny us our rights, belittling our feelings and trying to play with cards they don’t have and most probably will never have. What am I denying you? I believe it was Ngonge who said it best, that these are just words on a screen. I also realize, like I said in my post, I have no "cards" to play with and my wife would not accept to share me with someone else, or in her words," If you want another wife, you'll have to divorce me first". But if I ever come across the "cards", I may very well use them, and yes, it would be for the sake of the Ummah,inshallah, we are not all the same Originally posted by Rahima: We have rights, we will use them and inshallah will be successful in all our efforts so that we will never need to rely on a man. I feel for the sisters back home, they marry useless Faaraxs oona reer dhaqi Karin because they have little other choices. But those of us with an education will inshallah not fall into the same hole. By all means, sister, go ahead, there is no harm if you work for yourself, but don't fall into the same "hole" as the kufaar women and adopt their attitude about it. Originally posted by Rahima: Either way, cry as you will boys it doesn't change a thing. You men are the ones who do the chasing right, either accept the condition or be on your merry ways. Believe you me there aren't a shortage of men who are willing to sign the dotted line. No problem. I won't cry. I'm just saying I won't sign such a contract, and I got a wife, whether I'm a useless Farax or not(which I'm not, by the way )

That's the problem with most women these days.....Although they are the ones cutting up their daughters, they seem to have no problem blaming the men for it. And while they're at it, why not blame men for something Allah SWT has made halal for us, polygamy! If you guys don't agree with Allah SWT and His messenger SCW, there are other religions. We don't need people who do nothing but complain. Originally posted by Oocyte: Liibaan, quote:Originally posted by Jamelia: quote:Originally posted by liibaan: Although I probably would never have more than one wife, I still would not sign a contract like that. Why not, is it because you wish to keep all your options open? Most definitely!! [big Grin] quote: what about your wife(future wife)? how will she keep her options open? Ohh I guess that is not your concern or it doesnt matter to you! As for my wife(I am married), her option is to stay married to me, divorce and stay single, or marry another man. So how am I holding her back from her options? See, one major problem with us is that we are only thinking in terms of the man's sexual satisfaction. But has anyone ever bothered to stop and think that there may be other reasons for Allah SWT to allow polygamy? Probably not, so why don't we stop and think about it right now? In Islam, women are not encouraged to work for a living. They are encouraged to marry and raise a family and run the household. So in that case, they would need to marry someone and in the absence of a single man, they could marry a man who has a wife already. Somalia is a great example for this scenario because 15 years of civil war has most definitely taken its toll on the male population, either killing many of them outright, or leaving many wounded, disabled, and lame. The men that are left would most likely be married. So what's a lonely Xaliimo to do? Simple. I am definitely in no position to marry another wife and my current wife makes it clear whenever she gets the chance to reiterate that she will not accept the competition. But times change, and so do people. After all, no one knows if I ever run into a pile of money and I move to Somalia if it becomes safe, insha Allah. I would feel it to be my duty as a good Muslim to do my best to help the miskiin, and what better way to help out a whole family than to marry one of their women? After all, the sadaqa would go a longer way than if one were to help them out once and never see them again. So you women should think about this and push your jealousy into the background(Even Rasulullah SCW's wives were jealous of each other, so I don't expect any women to get rid of their jealousy all together). You never know when you may be in a threatening situation like most women in Somalia are right now.

:confused: I don't get it :confused:

Notice the name on the side of the boat.... I can imagine a woman was driving....

LOL that is bad....

Not me, anyways....

1. Your dog rather rub up against the wall than have you pet it. 2. All the numbers in your little black book start with "1-900." 3. Due to excessive hazing and ridicule, you decided to drop out of the Origami Club. 4. You were almost involved in a threesome, but your left hand fell asleep. 5. Fantasizing out loud before falling asleep is your idea of "pillow talk." 6. Your personal ad reads: "Seeking Anybody." 7. Next to your name in the phone directory, the phone number is replaced with the phrase "Who cares?" 8. You look forward to the dinner time calls from telemarketers. 9. The last time you were invited to a party, you were grooving to the lyric, "Put your right foot in, take your right foot out." 10. You spent last summer following around the 2000 Bible Belt Trekkie Convention Tour

1) So your daughter's a hooker, and it spoiled your day. Look at the bright side, She's a really good lay! 2) My tire was thumping, I thought it was flat. When I loooked at the tire, I noticed your cat. Sorry! 3) You had your bladder removed, and you're on the mends. Here's a bouquet of flowers And a box of Depends. 4) You've announced that you're gay, Won't that be a laugh, When they find out you're one Of the Joint Chiefs of Staff! 5) Happy Vasectomy! Hope you feel zippy! 'Cause when I had mine I got real snippy! 6) Heard your wife left you. How upset you must be, But don't fret about it, She moved in with me! 7) You totaled your car And can't remember why. Could it have been that case of Bud Dry?

Originally posted by SeeKer: Walee the game looks familiar. I don't think I was yelling Head Shot though! Dude cracked me up The game's called Counterstrike. I don't play video games since my wife broke my Playstation.

I don't know if I started a thread on this yet, but I have to post this because it is so bloody funny!! This guy is named FPS Doug, because he loves FPS online games(FPS stands for First Person Shooter...Those kinds of games like Doom or Quake where the view is shown like from your character's eyes). Anyways, this guy is a nutcase, as evidenced by the video...I really hope this is a joke. Some foul language, so beware!! FPS Doug

They claim to withdraw from Iraq but they'll keep a small amount there for years to come, I bet....Once the Yanks get their troops into a country they "freed", they like to stay and influence successive governments....After all, they wouldn't want a "hardline" Islamic government taking power after they leave, now would they?

ASCWRWB Batuulo, welcome back. SOLers always come back....

Originally posted by x_quizit: I wonder, if we raging feminists opened a thread calling on all testies to be cut off :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: Just where do you live in Toronto, because if I ever move, I wanna know which neighborhood NOT to live in!!

I'm Godfrey Ugo. I am handsome, good-looking, attractive, pleasing on the eyes, pretty, blah blah blah.....

Originally posted by Jamelia: quote:Originally posted by liibaan: Although I probably would never have more than one wife, I still would not sign a contract like that. Why not, is it because you wish to keep all your options open? Most definitely!!

Originally posted by liibaan: I seem to find a problem in this...You say hi to a girl and she's all over you like white on rice? Man, I could only wish I had that kind of magnetism. LOL you'd be calling me Mr. Xaliimo killer! I screwed up and pressed "quote" instead of "edit"! Oh well.....

I seem to find a problem in this...You say hi to a girl and she's all over you live white on rice? Man, I could only wish I had that kind of magnetism. LOL you'd be calling me Mr. Xaliimo killer!

Ooooohhhhhh....That hurt....The Raptors! As for me, I can't stop laughing!!

They do this kind of bullsh*t and at the same time wonder why they're rioting in the streets? Stoopid frogs.

Originally posted by Socod_badne: quote:Originally posted by Y-Chromo: They are only humans and things sometimes fall apart. They are indeed humans and that is precisely why they shouldn't be in the business of enforcing Allah's laws. So who should enforce them then, seeing as we are all human beings who make mistakes? Allah SWT? No one?

Oh my God!! Are you serious? Snow? In Minneapolis? In November? NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!! How could this happen!?!?!?! What are we gonna do? Quick! Someone call the national guard before there's rioting and looting(or "looking for food" in white people's case ) in the streets! LOL Anyways, good luck with that. Here in Calgary, it's snowed once so far and I would really love for it to stay that way...

I was looking all over the internet for a picture of MC Hammer's house, but I couldn't find it, so I guess I shall not participate in this intellectual discussion.

Originally posted by Socod_badne: I was right however in calling their likes demi-gods . They claim to be upholding Allah laws which are delineated in black and white in the Quran. What they did was not what Allah said in the Quran, hence their own. They took it upon themselves to decide what IS moral and what is not AND what should be done to those who break their morality laws, not Allahs...so how is that not mistaking yourself with Allah? The prophet Muhammad SCW said that some things are clear in the diin and some things are not. Obviously Allah SWT didn't clarify every single issue in this world with an answer in the Qur'an for it, therefore we have scholars who issue fatwas regarding these various unclear issues as they come. So would you compare those scholars and those who enforce the decision the scholar made, to the likes of Allah SWT, subhanallah? Now I don't know the ruling regarding movies, but I can imagine that if movies haven't been declared xaraam, they are at least discouraged.I don't want to argue who is right or wrong in this issue, because obviously I don't know the full story, and the only people who lost, like usual, are the innocent bystanders. But I wanted to dispute this point you made, which I quoted, and why I think you're wrong with this statement.